Today I Was Frustrated......

I agree. It is SO difficult to make friends. I've been living in Glendale for two and a half years now, and still have few to no good friends. I would definately be interested in meeting you at a park or something. My little boy is 19 months, so there's some age difference, but not too much. Get back to me if you'd like to meet. My email address is ____@____.com

Instead of waiting for someone to say hello why don't you say hello first, could be they are shy as well. I am older but my dad taught me long ago they are never any strangers if you simply smile and say hello and that has stayed with me for many years. I often meet new people wherever I go by that simple saying and have new friends. I transplanted here from Colorado almost 4 years ago and it just seemed natural for me to walk into a store, a mall or even in the neighborhood and say hello and I am a very shy person. Try it and see what happens. Pick someone that has children close to your age and just say hello and then take it from there. I wish you the best of luck. My children are grown and have been for sometime but women with children are the same everywhere. Every Mother loves to talk about her children!

C.

____@____.com and Moms meet up which is moms.meetup.com
Moms of Preschoolers may be some good references. I was in a moms group for about 7 years and did pretty well.......but there is clicks as there is everywhere. Moms meet up may find you more moms that work then the other group as they are stay home moms. I am really sorry that happened to you today. I knew how it feels to be alone and new to the area. I wish you luck in finding your connection.

Hello! Sorry to hear about your park experience. I know I've had that happen to me before, and it makes you feel like you're in high school again. I met some moms through a community center class that my toddler son was taking. This is a nice low-stress way of meeting other moms. Anyway, we started going to the park together after class, and eventually that led to this online group on www.meetup.com to organize our playdates. Right now our group is closed to new members, but I know there are other moms groups out there in your area. Hope this helps!

D., i know that it's hard to make new friends and it doesn't get easier as you get older, but I bet if you walk up to that group of women the next time you go to the park and say hello to them and ask a little about the park they would probably say hello back and start talking to you. Always have an ice breaker when meeting new people. You could say "Have you been coming here for long" or "I'm new to this area can you tell me what is available for small children". People like to be helpful if given the chance.

My name is D. and I'm 53 and have grown children and teenage grandchildren. I live in Phoenix.

It is so hard to find other moms! I've experienced the park snub and it sucks. I found meetup.com and searched for moms groups. I am a very shy person so this has been out of my comfort zone. The first one was a bust but I tried another one and have gone to a few meetings and everyone is great. I really recommend trying it (it's free to join) and you might find a great group in your area.

Hi D.-
I'm part of a group of wonderful women. The website is www.phoenixmommies.com
It's valley-wide so there's a group for each area. There's an online forum as well as tons of activities, playgroups, etc.
Hope this helps!
K.

Hello D., My son is 2 3/4 -3in march and we go to the park and the other mothers have their little click already and you feel snubbed. My husband and I both have buisinesses and I decided to work from home and stay with my little guy who was in school, which I thought I could me some friends But that didnt work out. Im just down to earth and work from 8pm till 5am at night on the computer and some durying the day. I take care of my son, clean, cook,ect and do some of my stuff during the day. I am exhausted. My friends without kids dont understand. I sell high end jewelry so alot of people I guess are friends expect me to live that lifestyle, I dont I am happier hanging out with my little guy. I live in Phoenix the 7th st and mcdowell. Our boys are the same age which is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jeni

Dear D. --

This is going to be hard to hear, but you are going to have to be the one to outreach in a situation like yesterday. What is the worse thing that could have happened, if you had approached the group and said "Hello, my name is D.. I have not lived here that long and really don't know too many people and I just wanted to introduce myself to some other Moms." They more than likely would have been cordial and you might even have gotten a play date for your son. On the other hand, they might have been distant and cold -- one never knows about people. But so what? If that happens you mark it up to that being their problem -- not yours. It would have nothing to do with you -- and you look for another opportunity to connect. I have found in life that a big smile and an extended hand warmly given, will open most doors.

My point is that you need to take charge of your situation and not leave it to others, or it will not change. I had to learn this because I was the single parent of three girls, who are now all grown and mothers themselves.

Hope this helps. And if you ever would like to get to meet others in a different way and make some money while doing it, then check out my work potential. www.M..parentsunited.com My email address is ____@____.com and my local phone number is ###-###-####

My Best to You
M.

D.-
One question...Did you say Hi???
The reason I ask is I used to be very shy and always wanted others
to make the first introduction. But I have moved so much in my life
I have learned that the place we live in is what we make it. If I want to
enjoy where I am at then I need to be the one to step up and be friendly.
Since doing that I have loved the last few states I have lived in.
Louisiana and now Arizona...very different people and cultures but both
equally wonderful. I don't know if it's too far for you but on the 21st of this month
there is a playgroup meeting a the community park in Vistancia (Peoria, AZ)
they meet at 10am it's a group of gals from my church and they are all wonderful.
A few of them juggle the tough demands of work and children.
I did until this past year and a half. Now I just get to be mom and I love it.
I have three girls the oldest is 8 1/2 and I am expecting another in Aug.
Kinda hoping for a boy...I am 29 and live in Peoria. We have lived in AZ for 20 months now. So almost the same amount of time as you.
If you can and would like to go to the playgroup let me know and I will give you better
directions.

I understand what you are going through. It seems like whenever you need someone to talk to you can't find someone who has been there or it's been so long they can't remember. I would say next time just go up and introduce yourself. Sometimes that's the only way to meet new people. My daughter is only 3 months old so it's a little different for me but it still sucks being snubbed. I live at 7th st and greenway and am always looking to meet new moms.

Hi D.,
I agree with the previous posts - you may have to take the first step and introduce yourself. I work part time so I can't join many mom's groups because they meet on my work days. However, I found a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group that happens to meet on one of my days off. I would highly recommend checking out a MOPS group in your area. They are very friendly, supportive and inviting. I live in Goodyear but attend the MOPS group in Laveen (because my friend is one of the coordinators). They meet the 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month from 9:30 to 11:30 am. Feel free to email me if you are interested.