I suspect that I may have my hands full as my daughter gets older. Of course, if I tell her no, she looks at me as if to say, "Buzz off!" If my husband or anyone else gets on to her, she gets her feelings hurt really badly. The other night we had to use a tone with her because she didn't want to have her diaper changed and she was being resistant. I got on to her and it was the usual. My husband got on to her and she was so upset that she cried hysterically and proceeded to make herself vomit. WHAT IN THE WORLD? She is 13 months old.
Thanks! My little one has displayed some "independance" issues from like 8 months on. . .I suspected as much. But, what she doesn't realize is that I am one stubborn woman AND I can clean throw up all the live long day.
I hated that stage when the kids went through it. They are just discovering a new skill, something new and wonderful to them. If it lasts too long or becomes a power play then I would address it.
Just try to ignore it. My son used to do the same thing when he had a coughing fit and I would just have to tell him take a deep breath or just pretend it didn't happen, of course I would clean it up, but I didn't make a big deal about it at all. They learn early. Good luck.
The crying hard to the point of throwing up is the phlegm they gather in the back of their throats while crying that they feel like vomiting and don't really have the skills yet to huff it out as in a cough. IF they just ate something then of course all that comes back up too based on the throat reflex. You said you are one stubborn woman, do you suppose your child has some of those traits too! Besides that she is a toddler seeking independence too!
Nip the tantrums with discipline-yes, this young, I nipped my 1 year old's and her two older siblings before her, and you'll have an easy happy life and no vomiting. If you want a book, let me know.
I highly recommend you check out a book called "Parent Effectivenss Training" by Thomas Gordon. When I was pregnant, this book was recommended to me by two different women, both of whom I consider to be excellent parents (and one is a teacher, too). I got a used copy on amazon for next to nothing, and I'm so glad I did! I've been recommending it to other parents ever since! It's all about raising your kids to make responsible decisions on their own, as opposed to making the "right" decision for fear of punishment. You could probably Google it to get an idea of whether you'd like it, or maybe find it at your local library. Check it out... I really think you'll be glad you did.
Best wishes to you and your family!
Oh...my daughter, who is almost` 8, used to do this quite frequently at this age! Anytime she was mad at us, or didn't get what she wanted, she would cry and get herself all worked up, start gagging, and the rest was history. She was and still is very determined and stubborn! We just tried to not make a big deal out of it...and certainly didn't give in to whatever it was she wanted. When she figured out she wasn't going to get what she wanted whenever she made herself throw up, it happened less and less!
I will say that now even though she doesn't "make" herself throw up, we call her our "easy barfer". If she starts to gag on something, like food she doesn't like, she'll run for the bathroom!
Good luck!
My friend's daughter did the same thing at that age - every night at dinner or bed time when she didn't get what she wants. My friend has spent $$ and time/effort taking her to doctor after doctor. Unfortunately, they all seem to agree that it is a way for her daughter to manipulate mom and dad into reacting and doing what she wants. My friend refuses to believe the theory that the kid is playing with her, so I will fast forward to what has happened since then. Her daughter is now almost 9 years old, refuses to eat ANYTHING except Chicken McNuggets (in fact they celebrated a month ago when she had her first dinner without chicken nuggets). She spends the majority of the day snacking on fruit snacks and goldfish crackers so generally isn't hungry for meals, refuses to sleep on her own, and pretty much rules the house. It has cost my friend thousands of dollars to be told over and over that kid is smarter than they are. The doctors told her to put down plastic sheets under the crib for easier clean-up, ignore it and don't do a full take her out of bed clean-up until morning, and keep her on a balanced diet; but my friend is convinced the throwing up is a symptom of something. I am convinced the kid is brilliant ;)!
My daughter did the same thing. She would cry so hard that she would throw up. She is now 2 1/2 and has not done that in a long time. Very very rarely now. It's just that they get so worked up that they will vomit. Have you ever cried so hard that you felt like you wanted to throw up. You can control it but they can't right now. So be patient and it will stop. Good Luck!!!
