Toilet Training - Rowley,IA

It's really not worth the battle. It seems like a huge deal at the time, I know, but she will get it when she gets it. Your parents and grandparents will tell you that all of their kids were trained by 2...but I beg to differ with that! I have yet to see a child fully potty-trained by 2. Closer to 3 or even 3 1/2 is more accurate. Just be paitent or you'll drive yourself and your daughter crazy.
~L.

The fact that she does go shows that she is capable, in my opinion, know it is a matter of finding the right method for her, my oldest 2 were done the more traditional way, but that took 2-3 months and although they were trained by 2 1/2 I found a much easier method, by accident mind you, but it worked and I have used it on 2 already and potty trained 2 friends kids this way, alot of moms balk because it requires a little cleaning up on the parents part but it only takes 3 days to a week.

Let her be naked on the lower half, if you are using a potty chair make sure that it is always visable, this way does make it easier, but not necessary, have her use the potty every half hour to hour, if she has an accident, no biggy explain that she needs to go to the potty and have her help clean it up, I find pull ups are just a diaper meant more for the parents then for the child, and underware seem to confuse them in the beginning, after a couple of days you should see a difference, once she is using the potty good introduce underware, there will be an accident or 2 until she gets accostomed to the feeling. Plan to be home during this period, it makes it a lot easier. I will start introducing this method to my 16 month old next month, so he is used to the potty and right before his 2nd b-day we will start....good luck.

Kim, My son is 3.5 years old, and he doesn't care if he has pull ups, diapers, underwear, or nothing on. The pee running down his leg doesn't phase him, and it only creates a clean up for me. He will use the potty every time I ask him to, but not from his own perogative. However, I will keep trying. And maybe after Christmas, we can try again. I'll put him in underwear, maybe, and see. Wait and try, wait and try. One thing I just wanted to see is if your daughter actually stays dry at nap times. I've read in potty training books from the library, that if they are not showing some progress in that department, it's probably a case of not being ready to control that yet. That being said, get ready for possibly small steps even when everything else seems an "all go." The BIGGEST piece of encouragement I can give you is to let HER be the one in control. If she is giving you a fight at any time, then she is uncomfortable with it, and you may end up creating a longer transition to using the potty. You DON'T want this to become a control issue. She will not be in diapers forever. Along with maturity of age and development, will come the desire to go on the potty. My son has the Elmo Potty video. It's really cute, and stresses that accidents happen, and that's okay. Also, when my son actually goes BM on the potty, I give him a tablespoon of sherbert. Then when I go BM, I sometimes give myself some sherbert to show that I got a reward too. He thinks that's funny, and he has improved some since then. I wish you all the luck in the world.
J.

As a mother of five girls I have come to the conclusion that each child trains at their own time. You cannot be successful until they are ready. Then it will a snap.

Sounds like she isn't ready yet.
Keep letting her go if she wants to but don't push it.
Put her back in diapers or pull-ups.
Try agian in a few months.
Most important let her take the wheel, and be in control of it.

I wanted to potty train my daughter right around her second birthday but she had no interest (and after a long potty-training battle with my son, I had no desire to do that again). Just two months later (and a month before I was thinking of trying again) she suddenly became interested. Believe me when I say it's easier if they show interest themselves. Sounds to me like she's just not quite ready. Put her in a pull-up and let her go on the potty or in the pull-up, her choice. She will eventually come around and then it will be a lot easier. I would just complete back off for 2-3 months and then bring it up again with her. If she's behaving the same way, try again in another few months. You know she wont' be in diapers forever!

Hi Kim,
I completly agree with Lacy. It takes a long time to potty train and I have known a couple of people that have said that their son and daughter were trained at 18 months. That's crazy. I have a son that will be 2 in Jan. He is starting to get interested in the potty and likes to sit on it when I change his diaper. I am not putting any pressure on him. If you are fighting with her she will start resisting even more. I would let her make it seem like her idea to sit on the potty. If she wants nothing to do with it then give her a couple of weeks and she will probably change her mind. Good luck.
Chris

Hi Kimberly, this is what I wrote earlier in the week to Julie. If your daughter is just barely 2 you might be trying too soon. If she is 2.5 or better this should work.
Remember, if it doesn't work in a week or 10 days, Stop and try again in a month or 2. You will have to change the dates since it will be the 20th instead of the 18th when you start, if you try this plan. You might want to wait until after Christmas and not do the Santa part.

From: M. B Date: Mon. Dec. 17, 2007
Julie, you don't say if she will urinate but not poop or she will poop but not pee on the potty. Or a mixture of both.

She is old enough to bribe and bribery is a wonderful thing. I know lots of people say we shouldn't bribe kids ever.

How many of us would hold down a job if we weren't be bribed by a paycheck. nuf said!!

Buy some small presents and wrap them in Christmas paper. Starting on Tuesday, you tell her that if she goes potty at least # of times and doesn't have more that # accidents, she can pick a present after dinner.

Then talk about how proud Santa will be when he knows that she is potty trained before Christmas.

To start the first day maybe she goes potty 2 times and doesn't have more than 5 accidents. That should ensure that she will get the first present.

Then the next day, tell her how proud you are of her and since she did so good yesterday, today she needs to go potty 3 time and not have more that 3 accidents.

All day you talk potty, reminding her about going before it is too late and she has an accident and how proud Santa will be when she goes potty all the time and has no accidents.

The third day make it go potty at least 5 time and has only 2 accidents. Then potties 6 times and 1 accident.

By this time she should be going potty all the time and no accidents. But everyday after dinner she gets to pick the present thru Christmas Eve.

The gifts are things you buy at the $1.00 store like Dollar Tree. Just little girlie things that she can play with until bed time.

Also, DO NOT USE PULLUPS. IF YOU HAVEN'T BOUGHT PANTIES YET, BUY 5 OR 6 PAIR BEFORE YOU START. Just rince them out in the sink and let them dry so you never run out. This is really important. When that pee runs down her legs, it makes a real impact. And this means when you go out to the store or to visit someone. Take extra's with you but you can't put her in pullups or diapers except for nap and night time. How else is she going to know that peeing her pants is not ok?

If she is also pooping in her pants, you need to get her scheduled for her poop of the day. I used childrens suppositories because it was very effective. Pop it in and in 3 minutes you have poop. It is best if you can do that before you get her dressed in the morning. Don't count the accidental poops against her presents. If that becomes a problem, deal with that in February.

Don't use those ugly training pants either. Get silky pretty little girl panties - not cotton. They should have a cotton crouch tho.

If you want to talk about it, send me an email at ____@____.com with your phone number and i will call you. I used to babysit and if I trained 1 child I trained 30. It was hard for me to convenince the parents to give up the diapers or thick training pants, but when the child trained in less than a week, they were believers.

Good luck to you. Remember, Santa is going to be so proud of her and he will leave her a note and some little thing that shows how proud he is. Maybe a Blue Ribbon or Certificate. Marciab