My 10 year old still hasn't had the official "We're the Tooth Fairy" talk, but I think he suspects it. I know I was around his age when I figured it out, and a friend and I talked about it between ourselves before going to our parents. What's the right way to go about this? Wait until he asks or bring it up another way? I don't know how long kids believe this now a day - I don't want him getting teased in school for still believing in Santa Claus.
my daughter is 9 almost 10.. at xmas time she says thank you so im sure she knows where they came from.. for my son 4 he dont even care..lol.. just loves to open things... just let it ride out and see what happens..
Don't tell him. My son is 16 and we never told him, he never asked. I THINK he believed longer than most kids, but I don't know for sure. I don't think he wanted us to know he knew. How I found out for sure that he knew was at Easter one year, I had hid all the eggs and his basket, when he went to find them, he went directly to them and they were hidden in different spots than where I had put them! So he had gotten up, found everything, and re-hid it all! I never said a word, neither did he. :0) Now he has 2 younger sisters and he makes sure they believe and think he does, too.
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We do not allow our children to believe in Santa, The easter bunny or tooth fairy. But I can say this my son is 10 and I do not believe any of his friends believe in these things anymore. I just have to add my two cents here. I was broken hearted when I was a kid to find out that my parents had lied to me all along about all these characters. I was more upset that they lied to me than anything. And I cannot figure out for the life of me why parents continue to pass it down from generation to generation. It breaks my heart. I wish you and your family well and I would definitly tell your son the truth. The truth should always be told.
I recently bought this book at 10,000 villages in St. Paul that talks about Tooth Fairy traditions around the world. It might be a cute thing to check out for your discussion. I actually packed it away for when my son is older, so I can't even tell you the name of it, sorry.
I think as long as he isn't a kid who is really vocal about "I know there's a Santa Claus!" He wont get teased. If another kid asks him, he'll probably say that he doesn't and if he really wants to know the truth he'll ask you. I wouldn't bother unless you see that he is going to get teased.
If he doesn't already know, to which I suspect he does realize by now there isn't a tooth fairy, he will silently accept the gift under the pillow and might even let you know he knows who is who by saying thanks for the tooth fairy money with a smile. I had four children and never broke the news about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, or Santa Claus. They just know at a certain point. It's kind of neat because that year they figure it out, you know it and you know they dealt with the realization all on their own. Just another step towards mental maturity.
When you do choose to tell him, just explain how it is a fairy tale. I found out because I caught my mom putting the money under my pillow, I was in the 2nd grade. I would say it is time for him to know, but just because you know he knows doesn't mean the "tooth fairy" should stop visiting when he loses a tooth. If you throw in Santa, be sure you tell him that Santa WAS a real person. His spirit is kept alive year after year even though the REAL Santa died hundreds of years ago. If you do not know the true story of Santa, you should be able to find it at your local library, or even online.
