It is so sad in this day that traditional roles have to be so challenged. Personally I feel that if a woman wants a career, she shouldn't have children. Careers and Children both require a lot of time and effort, and one will always suffer if you try to do both. Just my opinion. Women are just not the Superwoman they pretend to be - something WILL suffer.
I was working full-time with medical benefits when I became pregnant - a surprise because I have medical problems relating to conception. (I only have this one child) I ended up with blood pressure problems and came home to rest in my seventh month. Then I had to have a Caesarian delivery and we both got a very bad Strep infection. We were in the hospital 12 days. I was still feeling bad and healing slowly, but the OB doc said, "my wife - another OB doc - was back to work the next day after giving birth!" So he wouldn't tell my work I needed more time off. My husband was the care-taker of our daughter for a few months as he worked seasonal - which worked okay. But when my daughter was 3 months old she had a relapse of the Strep and ended up in the hospital another 12 days. I didn't leave her side. When my husband went back to work in the summer we found a daycare, but I cried every day taking her there. When she was 18 months old I couldn't take anymore - SHE was crying when I dropped her off - EVERY DAY.
I couldn't stand it any longer and quit my job. "I" needed to be a full-time Mom to my daughter. Everyone I knew thought I was crazy! Why would I quit such a "good" job?? My gosh!!! What is MOTHERHOOD if not a GOOD JOB??? We had enough on my husband's income to live well. My income was going to daycare!
A few years later, after we built a new larger home, I ran a Home Day Care. THAT was my kind of job! After 9 years of caring for MANY children, I told my husband I wanted a divorce. He had made me feel stupid and worthless for quitting that "good" job 12 years earlier, and I had found over the years that I was NOT worthless and I was good at being a Mom - it was what I was born to be. All those babies I cared for through the years were like my own kids, and I have stayed in touch with most of them.
Now, everything has changed. I ended up home-schooling my daughter, as I couldn't be in her school seeing what was going on - and there was a lot I didn't agree with! She went on to graduate from the University. I am remarried to a wonderful man who cares for me. He supports whatever I want to do, and makes me feel like a queen. I have worked part-time for ten years, just for a little extra, as my husband supports us, including my daughter - who has worked since she was 16 and pays all her own bills. She is a wonderful daughter and friend!
I would not change a thing in retrospect. Being a mother is the greatest and most rewarding job in life. Nothing can make you feel as good as knowing you have raised your child to be a responsible and good adult.
As i said before, this is just my opinion, and I respect you for your opinion, whatever it is.