True Allergies or Is This Mental ?

It could be a psychological way of getting attention. If it reels you in and you get hooked into conversation about it, it's working for her. People always look to "get something" out of their actions. Don't give her that. I would pay to have her NAET tested and be there so you can both see what she is really allergic to on the spot. Then you both shall know and she cannot con anyone anymore. If she does need treatment for certain allergies then you will find out as well. NO BABIES AT THIS POINT!!! Those negative emotions/allergies will go right into the baby and cause all sorts of problems.

Well...some of this does sound a little nuts. To respond, to the post below. I like myself, I have a great life, and I love my family. I don't "create" allergies in me!! I am a happy, healthy, educated person and I see all the good in the world. It's her opinion...but it's NOT true, for me. AT ALL. To be clear, the woman she speaks of, is a motivational author, with no medical credentials. Moving on...

I am allergic to dairy, but can have yogurt and only sharp cheddar. Tested, for that. I have celiac (I've been tested), but can stand gluten every so often. I can feel it, if I've had more then a little once month or so. I am allergic, to peanuts and tree nuts. I almost died with those, and then got tested. Didn't really think I needed the test though, since I almost died and all!! I'm allergic to mangoes...apparently they are in the cashew family. I am literally allergic to caffeine. Seriously, it's bad. Certain medications make me crazy, belligerent and swell badly. I was ordered to never take them again. My point is, some people think I'm crazy. I have been to specialists, allergists, and nutritionists. I have been tested and confirmed, but people still think I'm crazy. When I got pregnant I was 96 pounds. I've always been small since I was born. I was considered underweight. I gained 35 pounds, despite not being able to eat a whole lot between allergies and puking. I had the baby and at my 2 week appointment, I was 98 pounds. That's just ME. I'm small and petite. I'm also just about never sick...I can count the amount of times I've been sick in my lifetime, on one hand...and I am very active. People are "worried" about me, and I'm extremely healthy and happy. Doctors aren't worried about me, they consider me a picture of health. She really needs to see appropriate specialists, to confirm these allergies. Go easy on her. If these allergies are real, life is really hard. Trust me.

PS.
Airborne allergies (such as dogs) are TOTALLY different then food allergies. I can't tell my body to not die, from nut contact!! This is absurd.

Hi S..

I know of an amazing author. Louise L. Hay. Some of her points of philosophy are*:

We are each responsible for all of our experiences.
Every thought we think is creating our future.
The point of power is always in the present moment.
Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt.
The bottom line for everyone is, "I'm not good enough."
It's only a thought, and a thought can be changed.
WE CREATE EVERY SO-CALLED ILLNESS IN OUR BODY.
Resentment, criticism, and guilt are the most damaging patterns.
Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer.
We must release the past and forgive everyone.
We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves.
Sel-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive changes.
When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.

*Taken from her book "You Can Heal Your Life."

It's a fantastically amazing book. Maybe a good Christmas gift for this friend...

According to my allergist I'm allergic to "the world"- basically everything they tested me for. So it is possible to be allergic to lots of stuff. Fortunately allergy shots are helping so I don't have to be on a ton of allergy meds.

As long as one isn't severely allergic you can still eat the things you are allergic to. My sister is allergic to eggs & milk but she can tolerate them as long as she doesn't eat them every day. However gluten affects her strongly so she avoids wheat and gluten at all costs.

It does seem kinda odd that your cousin would eat a lot of what she is allergic to *all* the time, but to each their own, perhaps her symptoms are mild. If you are close you could ask her "doesn't it bother you to eat something you are allergic to?" and see what she says.

My brother's main symptom of food allergies is that certain foods make him congested.

Oh and my daughter is allergic to amoxocillin, so her docs are avoiding all penicillin based antibiotics. My aunt is allergic to vitamin c tablets (well at least the dye they put in most tablets).

I know that when I am on a diet, instead of telling people that I can't eat "x,y and z" because I am on a diet, I tell them that I can't eat whatever it is due to allergies. No one argues with allergies but the moment that you tell someone that you are on a diet and can't eat that piece of cake, is the moment that they will try to guilt you into eating that cake that you don't want and don't need.

From what you have told us about your cousin, it seems as if she doesn't have a true allergy to the foods that she tells you she can't eat but is eating. If anything, it could be a food intollerance (allergies have an immediate reaction to the allergen; intollerances are a slower, more low-grade immune response to the allergen) but I am actually wondering if she is using the "allergy defense" as a way to mask an eating disorder. Best not to jump to conclusions but you may want to keep a watchful eye out for her and, if you have a serious concerns, maybe speak with a trusted family member about it.

Hope this helps.

I know how you feel - I have a family member who is the same way.

Just smile and nod. Don't get into a discussion, don't bring it up (if she is always bringing it up, maybe she feels the need to justify for some reason). Try to accomodate but don't put too much into it.

Maybe she is craving attention for some reason. Give her positive attention for other things, and maybe she will not dwell on the allergies as often. It sounds like you're good friends, so you won't have to go too much out of your way for this, just tell her when she looks nice or your proud of how well she did something, or such.

Ok no offense, but as a person who IS allergic to more than I would like to be I think you need to lay off your cousin a bit. She is a grown adult and as you can see from responses below all of hers can be indeed legitimate. I have dealt with the effects of allergies for years and isn't exactly fun. My options or shots for the rest of my life or constant allergy pills..neither fun in my mind.

As far as her weight that is a whole other issue. I have friends who are teeeny tiny and gain correct amount during pregnancy and poof a week later are tiny again. They just have great metabolisms lol.

Good luck and be patient with your cousin....since you are so close she may just be venting to you about the annoyance of it. Just let her say her piece and then change subjects. AND be happy you two are so close :)

Since she is an adult I would just let it go (unless she asks for your opinion).

If she annoys you too much then distance yourself. Otherwise let it go.

JMO.

There are allergies as well as sensitivities, which can range from very mild discomfort to severe anaphylactic reactions. The root cause of ANY of these typically involves psychological factors - associations formed in the subconscious around emotional stress generating experiences. So while there are obviously physiological reactions the body is ultimately controlled by subconscious layers of the mind, meaning illnesses and allergies of all kinds have a psychosomatic component. So your cousin's issues may be quite "real" but it would be nice to encourage her to learn about the mind-body connection so she can find ways to heal/resolve those sensitivities. Energy medicine/information medicine modalities help a lot of people clear up allergies.

I don't think she is a worry wort if she is eating and drinking things she is really not supposed to. It seems she may have selective allergies.....kind of like selected memory. :) Some food items can be taken in small doses and her allergic reaction may be different from others.....a stomach upset or nausea, etc. I'm not supposed to have anything acidic but tend to have certain types of tomatoes that I can digest from time to time but other tomatoes actually have proven to be more acidic and hurt me. It all depends. However, if her life is revolving around what she can and can't eat or do, perhaps it is getting to her head. She needs to enjoy life and definitely get off soda....all that caffeine! Why is she looking into the medicine cabinet anyway? She doesn't need medication. Be patient and talk to her about your concerns. You only want to see her happy.

I had interesting case with one of my allergies. Im allergic to dogs and my MIL has the most adorable and caring dog in the world I love this dog. Before I got married to her son, I visited from california and stayed at her place the week is stayed there was miserable for me. Sneezing, wheezing coughing, itcy eyes, runny nose you name it i had it. But when I decided to move to their state i moved into her place and honestly my allergies we're all gone. I went to her place with them mentality that i would not be affected by her dog and said it myself all the time...the result i had no allergic reaction to the dog. My point being, call me crazy, but your brain has the ability to hae you react to what you make yourself believe in. Lol i know its crazy but maybe she should try it...and i mean honestly how is she going to eat stuff that's going to make her have an allergic reaction. Either she's lying to you or she's just not taking care of herself and wants the attention. Hoped i helped.

Honestly I do not know anyone is is benefited by McDonald, nor soda pop- what ever is her problem SHE is making it worse- refer her to Feingold for a proper diet for someone who thinks they have allergies.
Actually I think she is just suffering from a crappy diet- which she is doing to herself.
best, k

it sounds to me like she is making it up. We used to have a neighbor like that she was "allergic" to everything unless she had a couple glasses of wine then she was fine. she is making it up I am allergic to walnuts, I cant eat them sometimes and not others every time my mouth swells.

I believe your cousin but maybe she's being over dramatic about it. I get weekly allergy shots and have for over 20 years now. I'm allergic to it all, trees, grasses, dogs, cats, pollens, perfume, dust, etc. I also have a food allergy to fish (I carry an epi pen). But I can eat shrimp, lobster, etc without getting hives or a swollen throat. I can't eat fish but I can clean the fish tank and swim in the ocean. We own a dog and fish but I deal with it with my shots and allergy medicine. I know my limits and sometimes I pick my battles. I can't wear perfume as it makes me break out. I wear only Clinique makeup. MaryKay is the worst and I break out with red patches and it burns.

Medicine is ok and I'm not allergic to penicilian or anything that I know. I don't like being around smokers as I get an instant headache and I sneeze. My mother in law is a chain smoker and it bothers me but again I deal with it when I have to.

Like I said I pick my battles and deal with it when I have to but avoid it when I don't. I can only use Sears laundry soap, again, Tide, Cheer, Gain, etc make me breakout. My skin is sensative and cracks and bleeds. I do take medicine but only when I need to. I don't take it daily but I also don't let it rule my life.

Allergies can be life threatening but with the right precautions it can be controlled. It's not cancer and daily life can go on. Sorry if I sound harsh.