A.F.
I have three boys (ages 6, 4, 2). I won't lie, it is a bit of a challenge to have more children than you have hands. Unlike never before, my stroller and baby wrap came in very helpful in minimizing the more kids than hands problem which is mostly a problem when you are out away from the house. At home, they learn to wait or you learn to effectively separate them in order to manage the issues that arise (nursing while the other two start a fight). I learned to be a mobile nurser and also to plan a bit better and make sure that the older two are busy before beginning to nurse. (Luckily #3 was a quick nurser). In some ways it is harder now that #3 is older and they are all able to run. The older two inadvertantly let #3 out the door when we are places and #3 runs down the sidewalk. Don't worry too much about it though, that is why they start out as babies and get older gradually so that you have time to learn, adjust, and get better at managing. You'll do fine. I think the hardest adjustment from 2-3 is that you realize you just don't have as much control. You become more creative in your way of handling situations and you adapt. I think the reason that it isn't a big deal to add more after three is that you have already learned the skills to deal with more children than you have hands to hold, and so you can handle more. Many great things happen as well as the oldest starts to take responsibility and watches out for the youngest and when they all play together it is fantastic that they enjoy each other and have that bond. My youngest, of course, tries to do everything his older brothers do, so in a sense they grow up a bit faster, but we all have a blast together and I wouldn't have it any other way. I hope I have been helpful and if you have any other specific questions or concerns, or would like to talk more, let me know. Good Luck :)