Trying to Get Pregnant and Pregnancy Test Still Negative !!!

Updated on March 28, 2010
S.W. asks from Saint Paul, MN
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here is the thing i have a daughter already and me and my husband lost a baby awhile ago and we are trying to get pregnant again i have haven't been using protection for 2 weeks and two days my stomach is very hard right by my pubic bone were it gets hard when u are pregnant i bleed at the beginning of the month but it was not time for my period yet and and just yesterday i bleed for half the day very very light and i have taking a few pregnancy tests because people way that it only takes two weeks or so to come up on the pregnancy test but the test came up negative and i would like to know when would be a good time to take another test or what is going on i feel like i cant have anymore children !!!!!!

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V.G.

answers from Portland on

Relax momma!!! :)
Stress will do nothing but decrease the chance of conceiving. :)
Were you on birth control? If you were and just got off a couple weeks ago, its completely normal to have unpredictable periods for awhile, and its completely normal to not be able to get pregnant until 6 months or a year later if you were on birth control.
It'll happen, just try not to worry too much about it :)
Good luck!

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S.W.

answers from Pocatello on

whoa, whoa, whoa, relax... take a breath.... okay..... it might seem like forever but it sounds like it hasn't been all that long. I think you need to wait a bit longer before taking another test. If you really want to know you could go and get a blood test at the doctor's office. I had a miscarriage between my 3rd and 4th babies and I thought the same thing... this is never going to happen. I am never going to get my last baby.. I waited too long... I am doomed... Guess what? I now have a 4th baby. I think you just need to be patient and let your body figure itself out. After a miscarriage your body's hormones go through alot so it can take a bit for some women to get back into a normal ovulation rhythm. If you are really worried you can talk to your doctor and see what he/she has to say but I bet it will be relax and be patient and have fun trying. You can't force it to happen, either it will or it won't, all you can do it be patient and keep trying. Patience is the hard part of the equation. Ovulation kits may be helpful, its worth a try..

Good luck

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A.F.

answers from Fayetteville on

Take your time, my husband and I tried a month after we got married up until he left for Afghanistan last may. so from March until may we had sex everyday all the time, but we still didn't get pregnant. So after so many disappointments we stopped "trying." When my husband came back for his 2 week leave in July we weren't even thinking about it. I found out I was pregnant 4 days after he left again which was August 5th. Now I am 37 almost 38 weeks pregnant with our first son. :) just relax it will happen when it happens. good luck. :)

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C.E.

answers from Provo on

take a deep breath. try to distract yourself (in a healthy way) from thinking about it so much. give yourself a limit for taking pregnancy tests, like 1 every 7 days or something. write it on the calendar if you have to to control yourself. :) with my second baby, i didn't get a positive result on a pregnancy test until i was 8 weeks along.

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A.N.

answers from Grand Junction on

the tests are normally only accurate if taken up to a week before your period is due, other wise, there just isn't enough of the hormone that indicates your pregnant in your urine. remember the best time to try to concieve is in the middle of your cycle, two weeks after you started your period, and that it can also take up to a year before you get pregnant. so don't worry, which, believe it or not can hinder your chances of getting pregnant. keep trying, it'll happen

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A.M.

answers from Denver on

I echo the other women's responses...take a deep breath. It will all work out. One book I found extremely helpful is called "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It is full of information about fertility and how to tune in to the signs your body is giving you. I would begin taking your basal body temperatures every morning to find out when you are actually ovulating and really tuning into your body. I don't think there is anything wrong with your body or whether or not you are fertile. You may just need to give yourself some more time and mentally create space. It is also a good idea to wait a few months after a miscarriage to let your hormones settle- I can't tell if you've already done this or not by your post. I wish you the best!

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A.L.

answers from Salt Lake City on

take some deep breaths- if you've only been trying for 2 weeks who's to say that you just didn't get the timing down? keep trying- you'll be okay. The plus to "trying" to get preggo is the "Trying" part. enjoy the time with your husband. Don't focus so much on the baby portion but the enjoyment of being with your husband. Give it some time and enjoy yourselves :)

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V.W.

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S.,

First off my heart aches for your loss!! I"m so sorry you've had to endure that pain. All that said don't give in to those feelings yet darling. It is a lonely dark place to be, I've been there. And this is totally cliche, but when I finally let go of it I was pregnant a few months later. Very VERY cliche. You'll hear people tell you to let go and let God until you think you're going insane, and that "as soon as you do...." But I know it doesn't feel that way, it didn't even feel that way when I did let go.

Now, back to the pregnancy test stuff. ;) I'd give it another week, then test again. But you don't want to drive yourself nutty buying them and having a lot of negatives. Check in with your ob/gyn soon to have a good checkup. IF there is something 'wrong' he/she is the place to start the discovery.

On a side thought, every pregnancy is a miracle. Every positive test is a miracle. To think of all that goes into just getting that positive is amazing. What you've had was a blessing and a miracle and yes it hurt, it still hurts. A lot goes into it all to make just one happen. :)

Hugs. I wish I could make it all better!
V.

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S.B.

answers from Savannah on

It's only been 2 weeks. Relax. :) It takes time to get pregnant and not everyone gets pregnant immediately upon pulling the goalie. :) It took me 13 months with my first daughter but then only 2 months with my second daughter. It just depends on a variety of factors. I'm sure it will happen. Try not to stress or panic! good luck.

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H.M.

answers from Denver on

My husband and I have been trying for 2 1/2 years, have gone through IVF twice, so I know how hard it is to try and read all the signs and symptoms your body goes through each month! And I know it's easier to say than do, when you're told to relax, but that's what you need to do! I hope you see that plus sign or the double lines soon, and in the meantime, enjoy your husband and enjoy life!!

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