Tubal Ligation?

Dont get it done! I regret getting mine done. I was real depressed after getting mine done. Just get an IUD.

Ohh .. I feel your pain. it's SUCH a difficult decision and you often just never know. :-/ When we got married ... we had totally agreed on just 2 .. if we had a boy/girl .. but if our first 2 were the same gender then we'd consider a 3rd. So ... we had our boy then girl and thought we were done. Then we decided .... hmmm .. .just one more. I'm soooo glad that we have three - I LOVE it! I really thought I just wanted two. That said .. I would have NEVER fathomed or desired having 4 .. but the thought crosses my mind ... however, my hubby REALLY feels complete with 3 and doesn't feel that WE could give them the quality of time that we want if we had more.

So .... while I could NOT make that decision to get tied when I had my last child (I was 30) ... NOW .. I wish that I had gotten them tied. :-/

For you .. if you're unsure, then I wouldn't unless you REALLY just don't see your family having more than 2 children. Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy and in your decision. It's a hard one .. I know all too well!!! :-)

I went through the same debate when i had my son last year. I had a beautiful 2yr old daughter and a new son on the way, planned c-section the perfect time for a tubal, but i just couldn't do it. I knew I wanted to raise 2 children (so they can have each other and support each other through life) and after seeing a friend loose a child to SIDs I was simply too afraid that something would happen to the baby and I would want another child later on. Probably crazy hormone fears, but....what can I say it was how I felt. I passed on the tubal, and have an IUD instead- very similar success rates at preventing pregnancy, but totally reversible. I may still have a tubal later on, my ob prefers to do them after the baby is born and not during the birth anyway, and personally after 2 c-sections I have NO problems telling hubby he can have the vasectomy- from what I hear it is a LOT less painful! My only concern with the IUD is that I felt my milk supply was lower- not immediately, but after a few months with it my supply dropped. I can't say it was definitely due to the IUD, but it is worth thinking about if you are planning to nurse, and for how long. Good luck with your decision, it is a difficult one; as hard as it is try to step back from the pregnancy discomfort etc. and remember that pregnancy is only a short time of our lives. Try to think "will I ever want another child?" I can tell you that if they had asked me if I wanted a tubal as I was going through the c-section I would have yelled "YES" and then regretted it afterwards. Whatever decision you make, I hope you are happy with the outcome and congratulations on the coming joy of your new baby!

It's nice to have a complete package one of each and be done. But, whate if you have something happen to husband or you and husband don't stay together and you have a new huband in your life that wants kids and you can't give him one of his own? How will that make you feel? When doing something like this, you must think of the long term not just the short term present state. If you feel that way in another 2 years then go ahead and do it. Just make your decision when you are not emotional or hormonal and you will be at peace with it.

I just had a tubal with my second child in February. I was in the same situation as you. In my case, I didn't even have to make the final decision till the moment they had me on that table about to have the baby, so you have plenty of time. Even if you say you want it now, you'll be asked many, many, many times if you are still sure! If you have any doubt at all, don't do it. That is my best advice. I am glad I did. We have thought about possibly adopting later on once they start school, but I am done with the newborn thing. My reason is that a new baby takes so much time away from the other kids and I want to give them as much of myself as I can. For me personally I don't think I can effectively stretch myself among more than two kids while they are young. When they are older, I feel I will be too old to go through pregnancy again. Just my opinion. It is a very personal decision. Good luck.

I am a mom of 3 boys and I am 30 going on 31 in July. I had my tubes tide in 03 after my last son. Now I regret having it done because I want another one and now it is going to cost me 7000 to get them untied. And what I was told is that they will not tied your tubes right after a deliver, but that might be different in your situation since you are already going to be open. I had to wait 6 weeks after having my baby. Which was awful. I guess my advice to you would be just make sure that you are really really sure that you don't wont anymore. I am having a hard dealing with not being able to have another one, but we are going to have the surgery starting in june.

Good luck, hope this helps

B.

After my third child I knew I was done, sometimes when I see babies I say awwwww and wish I could have another baby then I come to my senses lol! The late nights, the dirty diapers, crying , pitching fits, my daughter is 4 now and I have not had a decent night sleep in 4 years lol She is one amazing child and I love all my kids dearly but three was enough for me, I had her when I was 34, I couldnt really seeing having another baby and going to the high school graduation at the age of 50+:) Just make sure, think about all the pros and cons and weigh your decision carefully

Just wanted you to know that my midwife very much regrets having her tubes tied because she never had painful or long periods before they were tied and now she says they are horribly painful and long. I know of a lot of people that have regretted it for other reasons down the road. My advice is don't do some thing that is permanent or potentially miserable emotionally and physically.

Hi D.,

I had the tubal after my twin boys were born in June 2005 (I also have a nine year old daughter) so I never thought twice about not having it done. I knew and still do know without any doubt that I do not want to have any more children. It really was an easy decision for me because I was so firm in that desire. One thing that my OB did that sort of irritated me was at my final checkup before my c-section, he asked my husband about the tubal in a way that seemed like he was double checking that I had been given permission to have it. I was thinking "wait a minute, isn't this MY body? whose permission do I need?" LOL Maybe he didn't really mean it that way, but being in the state I was, very uncomfortably pregnant with twins, maybe I was being sensitive.
Anyway, I am very very very glad I did it. I don't think about the fact that I "can't" have more kids, I think about how nice it is to not have to worry daily for the next many years until menopause comes about birth control.

Best wishes in you final decision.

It is an emotional decision!!

I'm considering having the procedure done; I'll be opened up for a c-section anyway. :) I'm 11 weeks along with our third & so sick that I've said MANY times "I'M NEVER DOING THIS AGAIN! RIP OUT THE TUBES FOR ALL I CARE!"

We don't necessarily want a fourth child, but I can't get rid of that feeling that it's so...final. If I have the procedure, I'm DONE. Period. I'm only 28; what if I want another baby at 35? I don't think I will, but what if?

Then again, to not have to think about birth control would be fabulous! We've always gotten pregnant without planning to & I definitely don't want anymore surprises in the near future.

I know this hasn't helped you AT ALL & I'm sorry for that. But atleast maybe you know you're not alone! :)

Yes it is a very hard decision. I don't thinkn I was ready to make that decision when I was PG with my 2cd baby.
I really didn't know how I feel 4 yrs away if I want another baby or not. At the time I didn't want another but I needed sometime to think about it and felt rushed about making a decision, so I didn't do it. Its been 3 yrs and I am happy about my decision. I have PCOS and even getting PG is a huge blessing so we were just thankful for any children God blessed us with. Some women are definately down, but if you don't know want you want in the future then wait.

Good luck

First of all it is your body remember that! If you do not feel comfortable going through such a permant procedure dont do it!

We have only one child and have agreed not to have any more because I had a high risk pregnancy due to hyperemesis gravidarum (morning sickness gone very wrong). I am not ready to just have my tubes tied and my husband wants me to be steralized and I dont. I told him if he doesnt want anymore to get himself fixed.

So i decided on the not so permanant solution...Merina. The hormone IUC (interuterine contraceptive) which works for 5 years and then you can have it removed or replaced. It works just like having a tubal but not as permanant. This should give you time to decide on if you want a tubal later or not.

The odds of you getting pregnant on Mirena are 1 in 4000.

http://www.mirena-us.com/index.jsp

Don't stress yourself about it now. There is no reason to rush to a decision... if you have any doubts then don't do it! Only do it when your heart is set on it and you are completly "okay" with your decision.

Do what feels comfortable for you. My husband wanted me to have mine after our 2nd daughter was born and I told him no I was only 31. If we decided at 35 no more then HE could get snipped! Well seven months later I ended up pregnant with our son, now 3 1/2 (our 2nd daughter was only 14 months old when he was born). I too was depressed when I left the hospital with our 3rd. I knew that we were not having anymore children, but it was the mere fact that I couldn't. Then throw in the whole catholic guilt thing! Unforntunetly 3 c-sections within 3 years is not good on your body and I had a partial hyserectomy in 2005-definatley done with kids. I can tell you that it's easier on the man than the woman even if you are open on the table. I had problems after mine.
good luck in your choice and your new baby!