Tubial Ligation

Hi C.,

I think you are too young to have anything permanent done. I would look into an IUD. I have one and think it is great. They are good for 5 years and can be removed at anytime. The best thing is, once it is in you don't have to remember to take a pill and you deffinately do not have to use a condom!! It really is worry free. For some people they actually do not have a period anymore. I have some spotting once a month but deffinately not what it used to be. Look it up on the internet. There are deffinately pros and cons to it and some people had strange reactions but I think generally most who have it, like it. I believe mine is from Mirena.

C.

I have a copper IUD that lasts 10 years (vs 5 for Mirena). I was breastfeeding and didn't want the hormones which is why I opted for the copper one. It did make my periods a little heavier though. But definitely look into an IUD.

I had the same feeling so I had a IUD put in I love it I went with Mirena its a five year fix.

I personally feel that 26 is super young for tubal ligation or vasectomy. You might change alot in the next few years-and your husband too!
Consider an IUD, that is what i am looking into since i am 30 and my boys are 2 and 1 month. I want another baby like you, but in 4 or 5 years! I have read that the cost of the mirena IUD is comparable to paying for 4 or 5 years of birth control up front (about $750) but i have never asked my insurance company. However there are no pills, i will be able to continue nursing, and it is completely reversible and covers you for 5 years.

I'm considering an IUD - that way there is a way of backtracking if I decide that I do want more kids. I'm older, but am definitely looking forward to having the freedom of worry with the option of future children.

They make a non-hormone IUD which is what i am considering.

Good luck and congrats on your family :)

Hi there
Don't rush into having your tubes tied if you think there is any chance you might want another baby. I know people who have had sterilization done and then things have changed (e.g divorce and remarriage) and then either had to accept they couldn't have any more kids with the new partner or else go through infertility treatment.
There are lots of other methods of birth control out there which are reversible, and which you don't need to remember every day. Options include injectibles, implants and various types of IUD.
I have a Mirena IUD which I really like. Once in it lasts for 5 years and you don't need to think about it at all. It is a good option for spacing babies out if you want a bigger gap between them.
Also it has a low dose hormone which gives you much lighter or no periods which is good! But it can be removed in a few seconds if you do decide you want to have more babies.
Ask your doctor and explore all the options before you decide.

I don't have personal experience with this, but I think 26 is too young to go through such a final procedure. You may not want a child now, but like you said, you may want another in the later years. Have you looked into IUDs, or other birth control methods that don't require a daily upkeep? I think given your age and 5 years of marriage is just too soon for such a procedure for you or your husband. Just giving you my personal opinion without knowing much about you, so I apologize if this post ends up being no help to you at all.

I have to agree with all the other moms that you are so young to make such a permanant decision. I am 32 and have one 18 month old son. I am very sure that I only want one child. He is healthy and happy, thank God. Not to sounds morbid, but I wonder if something were to happen to him I would be completely devestated. If I had my tubes tied I would not have the option to have another biological child. There are lots of ways to remember to take the pill. Mine cost 5 dollars a month and I take it right before my son's nightly bath. If that doesn't work, there is the patch and of course as others mentioned, an IUD. It sounds like you may really regret getting your tubes tied even if you decide you are done having a family. There are other options!

Hi C., I had my tubes tied at 37 and after my 5th child. I realize this is your decision but I feel you are so young to do this. I believe you will need to sign papers before you do this procedure. It is permanent. I would pray about it. Grandma Mary

I was 34 after I had mine done. It was after the birth of my 2nd daughter. I had some complications w/my diabetes & Haley ended up in the NIC unit for about a week or so after birth. The decision was still hard to make even though there was the advice from my dr not to have any more children. But the hardest part of it for me was kind of like I was broken - like a broken toaster. I know this sounds absolutely crazy, but the emotions that are felt afterwards are hard, but then I realize that I can be all that much more of a mom to the girls I do have. My husband wouldn't even consider a vasectomy and truthfully I think that w/some men it is an even more emotional thing for them then for us. What does bother me is that I don't have the choice anymore - if I did want to have another child they could try to untie my tubes, but with them corterizing them & all, it's not highly likely. The thing that I think about most is what you have already said - if you are at a point in your life that you don't want to stay in the "baby thing" and have to worry about making ends meet, then if you are both in agreement, I would say do it. Finances are a big issue w/children, I remember my mom telling me that she had the 4 of us because in the 70's you could raise a child w/love - not anymore - not that you don't put so much of that into it, but everything is so expensive. I know I'm going around in circles here, but this is really a decision you have to feel in your heart is the best. It's been almost 6 years since I had mine and I still miss the possibility of having another one, but I also just turned 40 so I know now what more would be involved. Good luck!

I agree with what everyone else has said, and remember, without putting a downer on your marriage, you husband may change his mind, too! My sister had her second child at 43, without any medical assistance to conceive, so you have a LONG time ahead of you!
I would have also suggested IUD; isn't there also a pill you don't have to take every day? I see ads for it. Ask you doctor, and tell him/her your concerns.

Hi,

You have so many more years of potential child bearing and without knowing the future, why would you want to change it for good. Why don't you talk to your doctor about an IUD or another similar option that doesn't require daily remembering?

Also, did you ever consider what would happen if you and your husband are not together in 10 years for whatever reason. What if you were to remarry? Maybe you'd want a child with that person.

Good luck in your decision.

Why don't you look into an IUD? They can be used long term-I think they last 5 years. If there is any chance you may want more children in the future then I definitely would not get a tubal ligation. It is invasive, can have complications and is not always reversible. If you google "tubal ligation complications" you can become aware of them and ask your Dr. about them. I think talking to you OB/GYN would be your best bet to hear all your options and what the pros and cons of each are.

Good luck :)

You are very young and might change your mind later on.
I had a tubal at 33 after my fourth baby. We wanted six
but my pregnancies were terrible. Bedrest for four months
with three, so I thought I was blessed with four and
would not push my luck.

You do not want to do anything you would regret later
on. Good luck.

I had my tubes tied after my fourth child was born. I was 33, and my oldest child was 10. You are very young to make things so permanent. Why don't you try an IUD or Nuvaring. I was on Nuvaring for two years and it was great. I too was bad with remembering to take the pill, and Nuvaring was really great.

You will probably have a hard time finding a doc who will tie your tubes at such a young age. Tragedy could happen or you could change your mind later in life and want more kids. Who knows what can happen in life; you may end up married to someone else in 10 years and want a child with him.

Try an IUD or some other not-daily form of birth control. Or if your husband is dead set on no more kids, let him get snipped.

I was 42 when I had my tubal.

Hi C.,
You'd be hard pressed to find a doctor willing to do a tubal ligation on a woman in her 20's, and on a woman who might want more kids down the line. A tubal ligation is permanent. If there's any chance you'd want more kids, or heaven forbid if something happened to your children and you'd still want to have a family, a tubal ligation is not for you. It's for women who do not ever want to be pregnant again, no matter what. If you dont want to think about more children for 7 years, then perhaps you'd like to talk to your doctor about longterm contraception like the Mirena IUD.
Good luck and enjoy those two little ones!