TWINS After a Miscarrage 1/1/09 - Davidson,NC

The best advice I would say to give her is to listen to her body. If her body feels like it can go and do as she normally does then I would let her do it. Her miscarriage last January is enough to make anyone worried but how much more worried do you think she is. As she progresses her body may tell her to slow down a bit and then that is when she should give up a part-time job but until then or until the doctor says no more than this much activity then I say she's fine doing whatever it is she wants to do or feels she can do. By the way I hope all goes well with this pregnancy and that you have two beautiful, healthy babies.

Hi K....I am a mother of 9 mo old twin girls. They are such a blessing! We do not have any other children right now, like your daughter does, but don't worry...just being pregnant with twins will slow her down whether she wants to or not. I also work full-time and it is not easy...my husband and I are constantly tired (still) and always on the go trying to stay on top of things. Twins are the best thing ever but yes, they are twice or even triple the amount of work as one child. Also, I was put on bedrest around week 32 (I was very lucky with twins to have been able to work this long) in the hospital and they kept me there until 36 weeks when they induced my labor. I'm sure she has read and heard all of these things before, but don't worry, she will be fine and the twins will be too! I've found that it is a Mom's job to worry! :) Good luck!

I worked and exercised throughout both my successful pregnancies. That being said, I believe it is very important to listen to your body and treat it well during an amazing time of pregnancy! I stayed active because it was in moderation and I was used to it. It is very important to take care of yourself, have low stress, eat well and drink LOTS of water. Be respectful of what your body is trying to do!

I know a lot of stubborn people, and they all will not follow the wishes of Dr's and anyone that tell them to take life easier when it comes to their children and looking like the super Mom's they think they should be. What it comes down to is how much does she love the babies that are growing and maturing inside her. How much will she kick herself when she wears her body out and has to leave this earth prematurely and not be their for the children she has now. We don't tell new mothers to rest when the babies rest to be controlling. We tell them because it really is best for them and the little ones whom are sooooo precious and need their mommies to be in the best shape possible. God bless, and good luck.

She should slow down some. Sometimes stopping all of your normal activities is really stressful. Best of Luck to her! God Bless!

I think she should talk to her dr and listen to her body and if she feels tired then rest. Often a misscarrage is more about something wrong with the baby then the mother. My friend had a misscarrage couple years ago and got pregnant 6 weeks later and lived her normal activve life chasing her then 2YO girl during that pregnancy and he's 20 months old now. Congrats on becomming a grandmother again

Sounds like everyone knows best. Perhaps your daughter knows best, it is her body. As long as she is doing what the doctor tells her to, she should be fine. There is nothing worse after having a miscarriages (been there) and getting pregnant that people constantly bringing it up and fussing over the things you do or don't do. This could give one the impression that you somehow believe their actions are responsible for the previous miscarriage, I'm sure this is not the case, but remember changing hormones make us very emotional. The extra stress caused by people (even if they mean well) is not good for her. Try to relax and support her.

I don't have experience with twins and was never on bedrest with my daughter. But I was very careful to listen to what my body needed. If that meant trudging to the bathroom every 15 minutes because I had consumed and entire 1/2 gallon of milk, or the same amount of water, then so be it. I rested when I was tired as much as possible and tried to remember that even if I wasn't running around doing 12 different things, my body was building a new person, definitely not the easiest task out there. Having a mom who's overprotective isn't the worst thing in the world. Twin's are hard get whatever rest you can now, you'll be busy for awhile once they're here.

Nutrition, nutrition, nutrition! Good nutrition is important to build back your reserves after a mc. Good nutrition is important for growing a healthy baby. Growing 2 baby's, after a mc, takes even more GOOD nutrition! My dd had twins at 35 wks, just one wk after her dh left for a deployment. She hates to cook, therefore he had been doing most of the cooking. When he left, she snacked (healthy snacks, like veges & dip), didn't feel much like cooking (protein!... "where's the beef?" for the record, you can be vegitarian and still get enough protein, just meats are one of the best sources for it.) But in just one week, the drop in her protein consumption led to contractions. As others have mentioned, getting dehydrated (not enough water)and uruinary tract infections are also causes of premature labor. She had the baby's naturally, and they were 5-4 & 5-6. They were healthy and nursed well, didn't need any special care, but I'm just glad dh wasn't deployed any sooner, or it could have been much worse. I can't stress how important a good diet is. You need to concentrate on vege's & protein. Eliminate all junk food, or as much as you can. Yes, keep active, don't be a couch potato, just don't lift heavy things, and use good body mechanics so you don't strain your abdominal or back muscles. The more active you remain, the easier your labor will be, just use common sense and follow your body's signals to let you know when you've reached your limit. Sitting at a desk, or in a car all day is not good for your circulation. Prolonged lying or sitting makes you more likely to get blood clots and flaccid muscle tomne which makes labor harder and longer. Walking and swimming are good exercises, and don't forget pelvic rocks & kegels! My dd says to tell you butter that belly well everyday! She hates her stretch marks! Oh, again, good nutrition helps your skin stretch to minimize those stretch marks. But don't worry about stretch marks, carrying those babies to full term is worth all the stretch marks in the world!
M.,
mom of 7,
grandma to 11,
midwife to 500

I understand the concern you have for your daughter. I had two miscarriages before being pregnant a 3rd time (I am now in my 3rd trimester). I am not an expert, but I have done quite a bit of research on this. In all but extreme circumstances, miscarriages have NOTHING to do with how rested the mother was or how much she took it easy. Most early miscarriages are due to genetic problems with the fetus.

With that said, I your daughter asked me for my opinion, I would tell her to listen to her body and her doctor's orders. She may want to enjoy herself(and rest!) now, since it will be hectic when the twins get here! Once she is farther along, her doc may have some special limitations because she is carrying multiples and I would certainly listen to those recommendations.

My advise to you would be to leave her alone and not harp on her for what she is doing. In a few months, she may have to be on bed rest or just be too big to do things, so she doesn't need well-intended advise making her feel guilty (or like she is already a 'bad mother') now.

I understand your worry. I have had a miscarraige and I always worry that it could happen again. I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with twins. It was a wonderful surprise and naturally I worry twice as much. If your daughter can avoid the worry I say, good for her. I didn't change too much in my daily routine with the exception of my constant sickness. Somedays I find it hard to do things but most days I am fine. I just chose to listen to my body and that is working well for me. It gets a little tiring to hear ppl tell you to take it easy when you feel like you can do things yourself. That isn't to say you aren't right for reminding her that she has limits, just be patient if she gets frustrated. I get ill with DH and my mom for telling me to take it easy even though I know they are partially right. Good luck to her... :)

well shes already pregnant so their is no slowing down now. just be supportive and dont mention how you feel she should slow down. this is a happy time for her try not to bring her down