Twins Fighting

I have 4 and a half year old twins. I think they have been fighting since they were in utero. They haven't stopped yet. I even have them in counseling. Maybe it goes back to that old saying your best friend is your worst enemy. I think they have a rivalry set up from birth. They are always in competition: fight for attention, toys, anything. We try to separate them and take them each on special outings so they each get individual attention. Other than that, we are still trying to find the cure to stop their constant arguing and fighting.

I think that is just part of 'twin'antics!!! Do you belong to a twins club? These kind of ???'s are great for other twins' parents! But, I know it'll get better at some point.

J.
OMG. I just asked the same question online. My paragraph looks identical to yours. It is so refreshing to see that I am not crazy.

I have 2 year old twins boy/ girl and they are doing the exact same thing. My daughter bites my son so badly, and once got him in the cheek and it bled.

Someone at school, the psychologist, suggested that I try using a timer. When the timer goes off, the next child gets to play with that toy.
Praise like crazy for good behavior and patience. I also gave them their own couple of toys. So those, they don't have to share if they don't want to. I figured that if I had siblings of different ages, they would have their own toys, so it is only fair that my twins have some toys to call their own.

I will try it too. I haven't yet.
But I have tried to give them individual attention more often now.
If you figure anything out, please email me and let me know. I just had my baby sitter comment how horrible they can be with each other. She spend half of the day on Monday putting them in separate time outs for stealing toys away from each other or wrestling the other one to the ground for something. I feel your frustration.
Good luck and keep me posted.
T.
Are you in the Lewes, De area? I would love to make playdates with other twin moms. For some reason, moms of mulitiples just get what I am going through more than my friends of singletons. haha

J.,
My boy/girl twins are going to be 7 this month...They too did a lot of fighting...I usually let them "hash" it out (unless of course they got too mean)..Now that they're older, they're still fighting, but it has calmed down quite a bit...
It will get better. Keep doing what you're doing...it will all work itself out. My twins are very inseperable although they're two totally different people :)