Vasectomy Reversal - I'm 36 - Odds of Getting Pregnant?

Hi K.:
I'm 43 now, 41 when my son (now 16 months) was born. My doctor was concerned when we wanted to get pregnant (no vasectomy though), but I am very healthy (teach fitness classes) and have a good health history. Pregnancy went great (except for a herniated disc), so everything should be fine for you too!

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My husband and I are goin thru the same thing. I am 36 and he is 44. I have 3 children from a previous marriage and he has 3 children from a previous marriage. I went to my ob gyn at age35 and she felt positive&encouraged me that my risk is minimal up until age 38 or 39. My husband had is vas reversal last july (had one for 10years)....it is january and we havnt conceived yet but we are hopeful! Good luck to you and your husband.

Hi K.,

I know that the doctors tend to get a little concerned about having kids once women reach the age of 35. More and more children are being born to moms over the age of 35 though, so I would say that your chances are good as long as you take care of yourself before, during, and after the pregnancy. As far as the vas. is concerned: I actually had a friend whose husband had a vas. as well. They tried for over a year and a half to get pregnant. When it didn't work they ended up doing vertility meds and they actually ended up with triplets. When the triplets were just 5 months old she found out that she was pregnant again--no vertility with that one. I suppose anything is possible. I really wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted as I am sure we all would love to hear the results. ;)

Can't speak to the odds for your husband's odds, but statistically, the highest rate of UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES is among women 35 to 45. And I'm one of them. Hope that gives you hope :]

I don't know the odds of you getting pregnant or if the reversal will work. As for how old you are, my grandma had my mom when she was 46 years old. Mom was a change baby and my grandma had 8 live births before her and three miscarrages when she was younger. Grandma said when she found out she was pregnant again, she felt like crying and was very tired.

I look at it this way. I had my last at 33. I am now almost 41 and if I were to start over, I'd feel the same way. I'm not in the best of shape to go running after a little one and my tollerance for crying has decreased.

I think the choice is up to you and your husband. You know your heart better than anyone else. Good luck in whatever you choose.

My dad and step mom had the same thing. They only got one son out of the deal. Good luck.

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I guess there is always a risk when getting pregnant. I had one at 35 and one at 37, both are healthy. If your doc is giving you a hard time about your age and being negetive without being helpful, find another doc. I know lots of women who have had babies in their late 30s and early 40s. Go with your gut and trust your instincts.

I had my last child when I was 38 and my mother-in-law had her last when she was 40. I had a woman in my lamaze class who had her tubes tied 13 years before and she was pregnant at 40. Have you ever heard "what you belive you can achieve". Well, I believe if you want a baby your desires will be realized if it is meant to be. Remember Doctors don't know everything they are practicing. If you truly desire this don't let anyone who is negative about it break through your positive barrier. I should note that I was diabetic at the time I got pregnant and had high blood pressure. My little girl is beautiful and in perfect health. I think as women we know that when we get pregnant it is always a risk. It depends on the risk you are willing to take. Good Luck :)

Hi K.,
I am 63 years old and have a 24 year old daughter. She was born when I was 39. I had my first child at 23, second at 34. It depends upon your health and outlook on life, but for me having a child at 39 worked fine. I am very healthy, active and interested in everything that goes on around me. I had absolutely no problem getting pregnant and no problem with my pregnancy.
Good luck,
J. S

K. - Kudos for you for going what you want! That said, I work in a NICU and I see the consequences of "when things don't go totally right" on a daily basis. There are a ton of good outcome stories out there, as many of the people on here shared, but there are also many not so great, or difficult (but ultimately worth it), stories to go along with every one of those happy stories! There ARE more risks after 35. There is a higher risk of Down's Syndrome, among other things, a higher risk of maternal complications, a higher risk of complications due to multiple gestations as many "older" women use fertility drugs to aid in their journey to motherhood (either for the first time or for a return trip)...the risks go on (and on, trust me!), BUT as long as you are educated on the reality of your potential outcomes - with the risk of complications for you and/or the baby (or babIES - wouldn't that be a trip???), and you are willing to accept and deal with anything you might encounter, then GO FOR IT! Just because things are a little bit more involved, doesn't mean that you should back away from your dream. Take a look at the road ahead; if it's a journey you are willing to travel, then pack your bags sister! You'll have yours up and downs, just like EVERYONE who is trying to get pregnant or is pregnant, and I am shocked that ANY of us survive giving birth(!), but faith in yourself is an amazing thing, and if you want this, then I believe there is no reason that you shouldn't try!
I didn't want to sound like the "negative" comment in the bunch, but it can be really difficult when all you hear is 'well, everything went fine for me, I'm SURE you'll have no trouble too'. The reality is that at any age, fertility is a dicey issue. When I was in my early 20s I had 3 miscarriages, wasn't sure if I would ever have a child of my own, but I went on to have two beautiful healthy children. My best friend, on the other hand, has never been able to get pregnant, despite fertility meds, conviction of the heart, and thousands of dollars. I am overweight, am sketchy with my exercise routines, and tend to indulge on chocolate when I feel like it. My friend is (now) trim (she lost weight in an effort to help out her fertility issues), works out religiously, and takes handfuls of vitamins and medications to help her fertility. Do I deserve to have kids more than her? Nope. It's just the luck of the draw sometimes...
So, as I have droned on way too long, to summarize - Yes, it is more complicated after 35. BUT if you are willing to travel that path, whatever it may entail, then don't let anyone hold you back!
As a little PS, I do want to point out that you are only 36 (!!!), if you were 46, well, I'd be a little more cautious. But it's not like magically your fertility changed from one day to the next on your birthday, it is a GRADUAL thing, and you are definitely on the right side of the spectrum! Good luck and keep us posted!!!