L.M.
Dear B.,
I can tell by your writing that you love your daughter and your grandson very much. The problem is you cannot help your daughter anymore, but there is so much you can do for your grandson. You need to stop letting your daughter take advantage of you and your kindness. She knows how to manipulate and use you. You need to remove yourself from her so she does not have you to lean on to bail her out or send her money. She needs to learn how to deal with her life on her own and hopefully realize that her path is not a good one. You cannot force her to open her eyes, she needs to do it on her own. It is very apparent she is an unfit parent. You need to get full and permanent custody of your grandson. Make sure you have written down everything you can remember about what has happened in the past three years. All of the things your daughter has failed to do or has done to show her lack of sensibility to raise a child. And all of the things you have done to step up and take care of your grandson. I think it would be a very bad idea to let your daughter take her son on an unsupervised visit to Costa Rica or anywhere else. She is too irresponsible and unpredictable. It is difficult to see your own child living a life that can become destructive. It is even more difficult when their is someone as young as your grandson stuck in the middle of it all. You've tried to help your daughter, now let her fall on her own. Hopefully she will eventually straighten her life out and you can be there to help lift her back up. In the meantime, your heart and focus is in the right place with your grandson. He is innocent and should not be subjected to the hardships his mother is creating. I wish you well and hope things work out for you and your family.