Want More Kids???

How did I know that I was done having kids? When I had one kid for each hand! :) Otherwise, we would be outnumbered!

Seriously though...if money and my age wasn't a factor, then I would consider it. Now that we are pretty much done potty training, I don't see starting over with diapers!

Love, love, love being a mom to my only daughter and she is my biological niece that I got when she was ten days old. It was never a plan, she really just ended up with us. I had spent my life up to that point avoiding pregnancy very carefully and felt so complete with her that having "my own" never entered my brain. I love that kid!!

I have four. I had some sort of unexpected epiphany just a couple days after having my fourth. Our family felt totally complete to me, it wasn't even an anticipated thought at all. I was overjoyed, and thrilled to have our family finally complete. I wasn't expecting that feeling at all, but still, over three years later I have SOLIDLY known that we are a complete family. I don't think about having another at all. I was NOT that way before having my fourth, I was always wondering, and I also did not have a number my husband and I came up with either... we just went with what we were given. He got a vasectomy. Yes, he was only 27 at the time, but there are no regrets.

IF we were to have a surprise though, we would most certainly accept it with open arms:)

haha...HE wants another one...sounds like (like MANY men) he has no idea what he'd be putting on YOU. kind of like my husband thinking it's a great idea to throw out the couch so he can rearrange the livingroom the way he wants. he'd be ok...he'd still have his recliner. ugh lol. sorry, got off on a tangent.

honestly, i thought for almost 5 years that i was a "one and done" mom. lately though, as i really start thinking about never having another one, it's starting to get to me. we'll see.

i definitely don't want more than 2.

honestly i feel like some people would just keep talking themselves into having more and more if not for mother nature stepping in. bet that's why there's a thing called menopause! hehe! (and then there are moments where i feel i'm in that category...talking myself into wanting another)

Since you are the primary caregiver, and juggling work and home life, this should be mostly your decision. Three can be quite a handful. Before we were married, we talked about having 4. But after having two, my husband wanted to be done. I was very lucky that we ended up with a third. Even after he was born, I would still think about and wonder if I could handle just one more. I still had that magic # 4 in my mind. This last month, we had a scare. My period was 5 days late. I was freaking out, and came to the realization that I really am done. I have all I can handle, and couldn't fathom being pregnant again, and starting over again with another newborn. Now my husband is finally going to go for his consultation with the urologist about getting a vasectomy. This was the kick in the pants he needed.

Right now we have 2. a 3y/o and a 1 y/o.
My b/f says he is done. He always said he has only ever wanted 2 kids.
Me I'm not so sure I want to declare that I am done. I'm only 25. It seems too soon to make that decision.
BUT I DO know that I won't consider having another until our financial situation gets better.
I know that sounds weird, but with the small amount that my b/f makes adding another kid would bankrupt us.
So for now, I am on a kid break.
Personally I want one more...Would love them either way but really would love to have another boy so I could name it after my b/fs father that passed away.

I had never planned on having kids to begin with, but had a bc failure. After she and I both almost died during her birth, I knew I never wanted to go through that again.

I just barely had my 3rd child. The SECOND she was born, I had the thought come to my mind very clearly that said, "You are going to do this again, one more time." We've always wanted 4, but it's amazing how excited I am to meet our 4th sweetheart in a few years. He/She already feels like a part of this family, even though they aren't here yet. When I look at our family pictures of the 5 of us right now, it just doesn't seem complete yet. Good luck! If you decide to have a 3rd, it is definitely busy, but SO fun! Plus, your two older kids will play together and that helps a lot.

we have two children with one on the way and due anytime now. I had the exact same feeling you do when I was going thru my toddlers baby clothes 9 a year ago.
My husband knew we weren't done when I refused to sell all of our baby stuff; I also have two girls and was sure I would have another little girl and I'm soooo glad I saved everything, we literally don't need anything except breast milk.
I'm so happy that we decided to have another, everyone in the family is excited; however, my situation is different since I stay home with the kids since there's no way we can pay for daycare for two and after school for one.
In any case, if the idea of getting rid of the clothes, stroller and all that is weighting heavy in your heart, then maybe you're not ready to close the baby factory.

Also try to figure out if you're just missing your baby girl's baby phase or if you really want to add another person into the household. I knew I wanted more people in the house not just longing for my two daughter's baby phase.

Best of luck!

We have three kids and I work days and my husband works evenings. We were blessed that our kids are pretty laid-back, and our youngest is a super sleeper and very relaxed baby. If he is prepared for the work he will have on his time home and willing to accept that you have to have much lower housekeeping standards, then it could work.

I get frustrated that my house is a mess, but I try to focus on health and safety hazards and not worry as much that my living room could never be featured in a magazine (unless it was for a makeover!). I'm actually going through wanting a fourth baby, not desperately, but I'll take as many as he's willing to try for. We would prefer NOT to have another until our youngest is closer to 2 (he's 7 months) and we have a house or larger apartment (we're in a 2 bedroom right now, but a great rental price/location/landlord, so not moving until we get something MUCH better).

You can totally care for 3 kids, but you will be fried a lot and just need to learn when and how to relax in order to cope. I was much crankier with my third pregnancy because my oldest stopped napping (he's almost 5 now) and I didn't get an after work nap. When my husband is home he encourages me to take an afternoon nap or an after work nap (he's off Fridays and Saturdays). You both have to want one more, but again, it is completely doable. I don't for a second regret our third. :)

Like the name says: OneAndDone.
It's right for us.
No regrets.

Probably if you "feel" you want more, you do!
And don't forget, if you work opposite shifts (I have done that too!) he's obviously willing to care for 3....TALK TO HIM!

"Honey, I know you want another baby, and I would love to have one too, but I just feel stretched to the max right now. What do you think we can do to better balance our workloads so that we can think about having another baby?"

If you can get him to contribute more to the household & care for the kids, and see that he is doing it consistently, without nagging, then I'd consider having another baby.

I know that we are done, for now, because I know my husband has nothing more to give to our household--he is maxed out at work already, and returns home utterly exhausted every day, 6 days a week. Maybe when our kids are older and aren't as needy we will consider another baby. (We don't try to prevent, but we aren't actively trying to conceive--we do NFP).

As soon as our 2nd and seemingly last, child was born, I immediately thought, "I want another." After our 3rd child was born, I thought, "I am done." Husband got a vasectomy and I've never regretted it. Our family of 3 feels complete. I had 2 in diapers for awhile, and I struggled at times, but we all have grown. They're all school age (8th, 5th & 3rd grades) now. It's easier because they can understand what you're telling them and harder because they have their own ideas.

In theory I would love two more kids. However, the reality is we can't afford two more kids and my aging body probably couldn't carry two more kids.

So unless God sends a surprise...we are done with two.

I knew the day my twins were born that I wanted one more. Now that my daughter is here I feel like our family is complete.

Having children is a wonderful thing. I am 20 years old with a 7 year old boy, 1 year and 6 months old twin girls, a 9 month old girl and expecting another girl on October 31st. i know what you are thinking but I'm married and have a stable job and go to college. i wasn't ready to have children, but when they arrived, i was happy and overjoyed. my husband is in the army and he always helps me with our children. he bought a house for us to live in as a family. my parents were disappointed at me with my first child, but now they want to be with my children everyday. i thank God for letting me have my children. after the last is born, i will have my tubes tied and no more children. i am happy with the children i have. If you want to and are ready to have children, go ahead. it's your decision and your body.

write down the pro's and con's of having another child. You need to WANT it to happen first of all. If you are iffy about it... don't do it, for your sake and the child's. How do you feel about this? Overwhelmed or exited or pressured?

Also, have a talk with hubby if this is a serious consideration - he will need to pull more weight.. and help out more where he can, even if it is to take over one day a weekend so you can have a break.

I can't imagine ever feeling like I have had enough kids now. I want as many as the Lord is pleased to give me. I have 6 now, and have lost 3 to miscarriage. There was a time that I thought I didn't want any more children. I was overwhelmed and not very organized. All the children were little, with very little help (husband worked incredibly long hours, with more work to do at home in the evenings). I was fighting against the responsibilities rather than embracing them with joy. My entire attitude was changed one day, and now I can't imagine not having a houseful! I long for more. My children help with the daily chores that must be done. We work together as a team. When they are all little, it can be overwhelming. But, they really do grow up. :)

I knew I wanted to be younger than 50 when my last graduated high school, so I put an age limit on myself rather than a number limit on my kids. I ended up with 4 and had my tubes tied.
I guess I am one of those rare women that simply knows when she's done, and has no remorse over it. Grandkids will be nice, but I don't have any urge whatsoever to have any more of my own.
One thing to remember about bigger families, the more kids you have the more playmates they have. After my third, I was surprised how much easier it was than with my second. The older ones really want to help and they often will keep the baby occupied for a bit so you can take a shower, etc... People always asked me how I managed to not spread myself too thin, and I just told them the kids play with each other, and they don't demand so much of my time when they have a built in playmate :)