I can SOOOOO sympathize with you. My husband works nights and the nighttime feedings were the ones my boys loved. Weaning them at 2 years old was something I was ready to do; I was pregnant with my second when I weaned my first and it was so painful to nurse that I couldn't take it anymore. With the second one, I wanted to get pregnant with our third and hadn't ovulated or had a period since he had been born. And, doing it completely on my own at night sucked, but we're all still here! For my older son, I gradually stopped the daytime nursing (alas, no more naps!) and to stop the nighttime one, I did it cold-turkey. I had talked to him, explained it, etc. But really, how much could I prepare a 2 year old? I tried books, music, and finally stories helped him and he still, at 5, loves stories before bed. The first night with him was tough, the second night was harder, the third night eased up and by night number four he was fine. If I'd had someone else here it probably would have been much easier, so if you have someone at home to help out, that would probably be much easier than doing it on your own, especially with an older one at home. For the second one, I tried the cold-turkey and it didn't cut it, he was up screaming all night and I couldn't take it on my own, so I did the lemon juice thing. He loved the lemon juice. I sprinkled on pepper and he hasn't tried to nurse since! That was in July! It was very strange to have lemon juice and pepper on my bosoms, but it worked and it made more sense to him than the cold-turkey method. I think I just wanted it to be a little less traumatic for him than my older one and than my first attempt, mostly because, like you, I have an older one at home and I didn't think it was really fair to subject any of us to never-ending crying! The thing with my younger one, which is soooo amazing, is that he was sleeping with us, nursing throughout the night and when I stopped the nursing with him, he whined for a bit and then fell right asleep, in his OWN bed, and slept 14 hours straight! I am not kidding you! It was a non-nursing miracle for us! He's still in his own bed and he sleeps through the night 6 out of 7 nights a week, so weaning him had many different advantages for our family. At any rate, do what feels right for your family and your bosoms and best of luck!