does your husband ever have just alone time for himself like going fishing or hunting? He goes to work all week long and probably just wants some home time to veg out and watch tv or have a quiet night at home. I know my husband works a lot and a lot of weeks he works 7 days a week and works every weekend so sometimes he just wants some time to himself and will go fishing early in the morning and be home before noon and then he is willing to go out and do stuff with the family and we usually aren't ready to go anywhere before noon anyway so that gives him his alone time. He does take the boys fishing and hunting with him some of those mornings but there are times he just wants to go alone especially if it was a stressful week. Going to the lake with a fishing pole is very relaxing and he can sit there and relax. I do understand that you are home with the kids all the time and don't get out much with only having 1 car and just want to get out of the house and do something. You also need to take some time and go out for a walk or a drive by yourself or whatever you like to do that is calming for you. Get a babysitter once in a while and the 2 of you go out together without the kids once in a while. Talk with your husband and ask him what he would like to do on weekends. If he wants to sit home and relax then ask him if you can go out and shop or do something by yourself for a few hours while he stays with the kids. You don't want to do that every weekend but you also need to get out of the house and if he doesn't enjoy doing the outings you have planned then find out what he would enjoy whether it would be taking the kids fishing, going to a movie, park, or whatever. As for things for you to do during the week, is there a park near your house that you can walk with the kids to and get out of the house? Even walking to a nearby store or restaurant and buying something to drink or a snack can be an outing to get out of the house. Get involved in a ladies group at church or invite some other ladies with kids to come over and have play dates for the kids and visit with your friends.
Take him to work once in a while and get out and do things with the kids. Maybe plan one day a week that you have the car and plan outings for the kids and make sure you get out of the house that day.
I have been married to my DH for 17 years and we have learned that both of us need some time to ourselves and respect that. I have had other wives ask me why I let my hubby go fishing and hunting and take away from family time. Well I tell them that is a hobby of his and has always been part of his life and guys need time to themselves to wind down too just as we do and if they don't get that time then they will get grumpy and start resenting the fact that they have a family life and not want to do anything. There are some wives that dictate their family lives and the husband seems miserable because they either don't trust him to do anything on his own or they think he should be with them every spare moment he has. Think about it..they are at work all week usually working with other grumpy guys and have a lot to deal with making the boss happy then feeling the responsiblity of keeping their family happy so where is their relaxing time if the family doesn't allow them some time to be themselves? we as women like to have time to ourselves, whether it be going to get our hair or nails done, shopping, or taking a long bath, going for walks, or whatever. Guys get their hair cut and is usually a line and then their haircuts are usually less than 15 minutes so that isn't really relaxing for them.
What about him getting a scooter or small motorcycle to ride to work? They are fairly cheap and get 75-100 mpg. My husband just got a small honda rebel 250cc that we bought mainly for the gas mileage because he drives 30 miles one way to work. He never had the desire to ride a motorcycle then he was looking at scooters to drive back and forth to work to save money on gas. I told him he would like a motorcycle better and the rebel is a great bike to learn on. He loves it and watches the weather everyday before he leaves for work and rides it if there isn't a chance of rain or cold weather. He plans to buy a bigger bike in the future but for now we are enjoying the 75 mpg this one gets.
