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Of all the people I know, including myself, who have succeeded in weight loss in real life (not television with 24 hour personal assistance), there is one thing they have in common, they took charge of the situation. I'm not talking about will power. I'm talking about rolling up their sleeves and saying to themselves, I'm going to figure out what I need to do, and I'm going to do it, even if its hard.
Looking for guidelines is one thing. But it seems you want someone to do the thinking for you. But a meal plan is not going to help you on your next vacation, or on a week when you simply didn't have time to get to the grocery store, or at a restaurant, or when you are faced with your favorite dessert sitting in front of you, or the next round of holliday meals. Calorie counting and keeping a food journal is what will work in the long run. If you are going to do this and succeed, you will need some tools and guild lines, but mostly, you need drive and determination. Again, not talking will power to starve yourself, thats called anorexia. I'm talking about that inner spark that says, I'm going to do this thing even if its hard work.
That said, when i was feeling my lowest and needed to loose a few, I happened to tune into a radio show on fitness hosted by Jillian Micheals. This was before she was well known on Biggest Looser. She talked about calories in vs. calories out. How eating your basal (resting) metabolism was the lowest you should go in calorie deprivation without causing your body to go into starvation mode. I took this advice to heart, calculated how many calories I should be eating daily to loose (1440) on the computer. I scheduled three exercise appointments with myself a week, kept a food journal (calorie king.com came in handy) and went at it. It was all consuming those first two weeks (measuring food). But I lost 6 lbs in the first two weeks. By 6 months I had lost 17 lbs and felt great about my self. It was hard work. But I was motivated because I wasn't spinning my wheels. Since this time I have had to do it all over again twice with each baby. I used a model for weight loss that succeeded and my success (while slow), was worth the work. Jillian Micheals is very famous now, has programs on line (not free), but aside from the hype, her advice really got me where I needed to be. You will find the same thing with weight watchers (they have an on-line program too), and many other programs.
I hear you wanting someone to tell you exactly what to do, and thats okay to a point. But know that you are going to have to find a way to live real life and real life will not always accommodate meal plans. I recommend you go to weight watchers, or go to a site like jillian micheals, or Spark people....figure out how many calories you need to eat in a day, figure out how to measure and calculate your food, keep a food journal, and figure out what a good sweat means to you (walking, running, exercise videos....). I personally have gotten a lot out of running 30 min, elliptical, and work out videos like Jillina Micheals 30 day shred.
Best of luck to you.