What a Awful Day :(

Hang in there sweetie... Relax and take a deep breath and vent all you want on here.
hope tomorrow is better

I'm sorry, there are days I am in tears too :) Hang in there and may you have some good news with his diagnosis and treatments soon!

I understand what your going through. My son has done those same things and yes people have stared and mumbled under their breath. I stopped caring what other people think. I would just quietly take his arm and walk out. Until someone else has walked in your shoes, they really have no room to judge. I have a friend who is bi-polar and i've seen her manic stages and calm stages so I know about that too and she talks about so I know some things about it. I knew a lady who had son with autism and she carried these business size cards explaining what it was. ANyone who walked up and made some rude comment, she would just hand them a card and they would turn red and walk away.
GIANT HUGS TO YOU.

If it makes you feel any better, I think most mamas in the mall or any other store know better than to judge.

When I hear a kid losing it in a public place, the first thing I think is, "Uh-oh, someone's not happy!" Not bad kid, bad mom, holy hell. None of that. Just a kid is mad.

BTW, have you ever noticed that the ones that usually judge or the ones with the kids that are walking nightmares and the parents are the only ones who DON'T see it while everyone else hates to see them coming and they aren't being invited to cook outs?

I'm the same as PS, I know enough after four kids never to judge what I see in a store. I have two friends with bipolar kids, I'm bipolar 2, and I know what baggage comes along with that. I remember being severely depressed at 8yo and then switching to hypomanic stages quickly after. There was no treatment for me, in fact no one even identified my disease properly until three years ago. If anyone here thinks that's hard as an adult to deal with, imagine how it feels to be a child feeling like that! I just want to give your son a great big hug.

You are a great mom with a child who has a lot of difficulties. Remember, though, that the rest of us have had those days, too, and with neuro-typical kids. My ds3 was a horrible tantrum thrower, it was so embarrassing, sometimes coming from nowhere. Imagine a 3yo having a tantrum in the middle of a grocery store while his three sibs look on and then start feeding off that energy. *shiver* I just want to block out those memories altogether. You did what you had to do, left, dealt with it, and came here to vent :) Much love to you. I hope today is better.

I'm sorry luv. Things will get better :D

((((HUGS)))) for all of you mama

The behavior you mentioned is NOT typical so why would you think it would be appropriate for people to just walk past as if nothing is out of the ordinary? I think your expectations of people are a little skewed. Hopefully his doctors will help him get the treatment he needs soon. Just think how horrible it is for him to have to be that out of control and I can't even imagine how exhausting it must be for you and your husband. He needs drastic intervention and I hope he gets the help he needs for everyones sake. Good luck to you and your family.

I used to be one of those people that thought, "What is up with that kid? Why can't his/her parents get control?" Then the Lord sent me my DS#2. Now I understand all too well that there are times when all Hades breaks loose and it isn't because of a bad kid or bad parents. While my son does not have all that yours does to deal with, he still can get set off and make a scene. I used to just dare people in my mind to say something when he'd be having a tantrum. Now I just try to focus on keeping him calm and staying calm myself. And when I hear/see something like what you described or hear a kiddo screaming, my heart goes out to them & their parents b/c I know that they are doing their best to manage the situation. I know it's hard, but try to put what others think out of your mind. The only ones who know the whole truth about your life is you & your husband. The opinions of others are their opinions and their problem not yours. Keep on doing what you're doing and venting when you need to. You're under a lot of stress as well so please make sure you are taking care of yourself as well as you are your son. As moms we sometimes forget to give to ourselves but without us so much could not get done. Hang in there. Sending you a great big {{HUG}}. :-D

I'm sorry that you are having such a bad day. You are not alone. I know what you are going through:) I have a difficult little guy who at the drop of a hat can have a major meltdown. I usually try to avoid places like malls and restaurants. They make me too anxious. There are many people out there who do not understand:( Sometimes you cannot avoid having to go somewhere, so you just have to be tough skinned and let it roll. It's tough. I don't have any advice, but I want to give you credit for how you handled the situation and for taking him to the mall. You are brave! I hope things get better, soon!

I can't imagine what you're going through... I would also be the one who would stare but rarely do I pass judgement, just that something is going on & the parents are there to handle the situation.
I was in a conversation w/ some mom friends about our kids & one friend who also has an ADHD son suggested to another friend, to look up the Feingold Diet. Said it really helps her son. You might want to look it up? I don't know a thing about this topic so I can't tell you anything more..
Hugs to you M.. Good luck in finding better solutions to help your son...

Forget those who look and stare, they must not be parents, or forgot how it is to have children. And I know you must be very patient with him and that is important. Good luck with the tests. He needs you now and I deduce you are expecting, congratulations, take care of yourself too, hugs. Forget all of them, I usually just say, don't worry I've been there, kids all do that, when I see a kid doing something. Take Care.

Hard to ignore if a child is biting, screaming and kicking. That is just not what the rest of us are used to. If it makes you feel any better, I usually do not think the parent is a bad parent, but that something is going on with the child.

The good news is that you are being pro active in solving this mystery. You are not trying to ignore it or just handle it on your own. You have professionals that will help guide all of you. You will have a plan and know what needs to be done to help your son. I bet he also hates when this begins to happen to him. Nothing worse than feeling out of control and not being able to get it back together. It is disappointing, frustrating and embarrassing all at once. Then it just makes you depressed. That is a lot for a child to have going on inside of him. .

Take a breath, maybe soak in the tub with a drink and just rest your mind for a little while. Things will get better.

I totally understand about that. My dd had ADHD, she is 7 now. I have had many a bad days exactly like that. It's so embaressing. It rally screws with your head! other parents don't understand what it's like to have a child with ADHD. If you err want to vent to me personally I'm a good listener. pm me. put your face into a pillow and scream as loud as you can, you'll feel better. honestly.

I hope things get better for you. Think about it as letting the neurologist see a demonstration of the behaviors and proof that you need help. And hopefully they're used to it.
Will he have to be completely sedated for the brain MRI? My son is supposed to have another one and I've been putting it off for a few years because of that.

Sorry you had such a bad day. I have never understood why parents feel the need to gawk and stare when a child is out of control. We should support one another as parents not judge. I usually will look at the Mom/Dad and see if they need help instead of continually staring at the situation, that helps no one.
Good Luck and hugs to you!
@Tracy C.: My son has had two MRI's and they do sedate them. It is fine. They gave him something to drink to calm and relax in a special kids waiting room and then took him back to get the I.V. going. I was able to see him as they were wheeling him into the MRI. He's there maybe 30 minutes and then sent to recovery. You should contact your doctor to answer what questions you have and alleviate your fears. We have done EEGs too. These things are harder on the parents than the kids.

I might be one of those moms who stares but not to be rude but to see if you need any help. I've helped moms w/kids gone wild w/their bags and strollers before.

I think if you knew your son was going to behave that way, you wouldn'thave taken him to such a public place in the first place right? My point is, you were just trying to do something nice for your son and he ended up having a bad reaction. You didn't do anything wrong and you handled it as best as you could.

Try not to worry about what anyone around you is thinking if he gets that way again. If you do, then yoru focus isn't on your son as it should be. Forget about those others - if they are staring, let them see. Just look at your son and noone else b/c you don't want to miss any of his cues or moments of need.

You are dealing w/a son who has medical issues. I would like to see a parent whose child has never had medical issues deal w/your son as well as you do.

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There are a few in your area who can help him greatly!!!