I had three vaginal births (two completely natural...and one mostly natural) and they were not easy births! One baby was 10 lbs 11 oz...and I'm 117 lbs, almost 5'4" after having the baby - so I'm small and managed to pop out the big baby. (just mentioning because women are able to have bigger babies than drs give them credit for! NO ONE could believe I had such a huge baby...myself included).
My 4th baby was a c-section due to a complete placenta previa. The surgery itself went fine. It was a weird and nerve wracking knowing I was cut open and they were pulling a baby out. But it was just as special as my other births.
It only took about 30 minutes for the surgery/birth. Baby was handed to me, and out the door we went. The first day I was pretty sore with my uterus clamping back down. But it wasn't more painful than what happens after a vaginal birth (though it was pretty painful! the more babies you have, the more painful that part seems to be become).
At midnight (18 hours later?), I was asked to get up and walk. I was really wobbly, and it felt weird. The next morning, I was able to get up and walk to the bathroom. It was painful, but it was NOTHING like the pain from a vaginal birth. I ended up showering. Something I could never do the day after a vaginal birth. I was a wobbly walker, but I could walk. Again, something I could hardly do after a vaginal birth. I was shocked at how much easier it all was. It wasn't painfree at all, but compared to my vaginal births, it was SUCH an easy recovery.
Once I started walking the day after, I kept on going. I did take it easy, but I was up more than I was able to be after my vaginal births. It kept getting easier each day.
I had always heard how bad c-section recoveries were in comparison to vaginal births. But I had also heard how great natural birth recoveries were supposed to be, and that never happened with me (likely had to do with large baby size as well as other baby getting stuck in the birth canal for three hours!). But it was WONDERFUL to not have all the vaginal pain. I could not believe how much easier it was. I'm not exaggerating to say that a vaginal birth would be more equivalent to breaking a leg whereas a c-section (after the first day) was more like a bruise. The recoveries didn't really compare. The c-section was tremendously easier. My mom was with me, and I couldn't stop telling her how awesome I felt and that I couldn't believe how much less painful it was...and that my bottom didn't hurt was so awesome. My incision area was not very painful, especially compared to the level of pain I was used to.
I know that I was on some good meds, but I had some meds after my other births too, and they were still more painful. I haven't been able to pee after my other babies (too swollen) so that was another plus! hehe...
Anyway, I'm prego with baby #5, and I always thought I'd want a vbac...until I had a c-section. Now I totally see why women choose c-sections, and I'm undecided on what to do. For almost every reason, a c-section wins out. They really can be beautiful, wonderful births. And, for me, MUCH EASIER recovery! Other women have completely different experiences and think it's more painful to have a c-section (while other women have never had vaginals and can't really compare). I'm sure some of it is baby's size, as well as how long the baby is in the birth canal.
Hope that helps a little bit. Good luck with whatever happens! Hope you have a beautiful birth experience;-) After having my c-section, it's really opened my eyes to how awesome they can be (and that goes totally against my opinion prior to having one!).
EDIT: I forgot to answer some of your questions - it is helpful to have someone there, especially the first day. I couldn't lift the baby out of bed the first day. It was difficult to hold her, but it got easier the following days. I was quite mobile the second day, and I was the sole caretaker of the baby the whole time. I wore a binder a week or two after the c-section. It was too painful to put it on earlier than that. I think you'll be fine to have your hubby plan to be there the first day, then there part of the next day, the potentially not at all after that. I was on narcotics for the first week or two. I probably only needed it for the first 2-3 days. If I have another c-section, I'm going to try to taper off much faster and see if I do okay. Maybe I won't! But I was on ibuprofen as well.