T.T.
Um...maybe I should have read all the responses and this would have been asked already but since it's affecting your daughter too, I'm kinda wondering why she wasn't involved in the decision in the first place??
I would NEVER move my kids without some kind of warning first...a "hey we like this house here..." or "...Dad found a job and we're thinking about moving out of town to here..." Something that gives her a warning or at least preparation.
I can tell you from experience that it won't matter where you tell her it will have the same outcome. And that is...thanks mom and dad for considering my feelings...
I say this because I made a life altering decision without so much as a hey how do you feel about it with my daughter and she was 14 at the time. We made the announcement at a very nice restaurant she'd always wanted to go to. And it still didn't keep her from screaming...HOW COULD YOU? in the middle of it and hiding crying in the bathroom for 20 minutes until I could get her best friend to come and get her out...
Lesson learned.
14 is a HARD HARD age for girls...but for any kid they want to know that their feelings are valid...and that they are a part of the family dynamic too.
Good luck to you.