When Did You Spill the Beans About Your Pregnancy?

Updated on October 22, 2011
N.J. asks from Redlands, CA
13 answers

We told our immediate family and my 2 best friends around 8 weeks, and I went ahead and let the rest of the world know at 12 weeks which was today. At the same time I've just been informed of two acquaintances that have had late first trimester miscarriages one 11.5 weeks the other 13.2 weeks. Yikes, now I'm wondering if I made the right decision. Haven't had any miscarriages or reasons to think I would, but my first pregnancy was pretty eventful, and I think as a preggo Mama there's always that tendency to worry.

I'm kind of a private person so its not where I need a lot of support, which is why I just told my 2 really close friends early on, the few moms I know personally who lost babies further long said the extended support was always welcomed even though they found themselves 'private' too, hoping if something does I feel the same way. How did you make the decision to let the whole world know?

What can I do next?

  • Add yourAnswer own comment
  • Ask your own question Add Question
  • Join the Mamapedia community Mamapedia
  • as inappropriate
  • this with your friends

Featured Answers

E.M.

answers from St. Joseph on

both times I found out I was preggo right away, I hadnt even missed my period yet the first time and teh second time I took the test the day I was supposed to start. so I always know when I am only 3 to 4 weeks along. and we told everyone right away. I do not understand why people hide it, like it is a secret or something to be scared or ashamed of. it is a joyous and happy thing, we told everyone right away!

More Answers

A.G.

answers from Houston on

I tell my husband and bestie first then let everyone know right away.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

✩.!.

answers from Los Angeles on

Within a week of finding out the "whole world" knew. I had morning sickness (all day sickness) with all my kids so there was no way of "hiding" it.

Congrats!!!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

L.B.

answers from Chicago on

My husband & I shared the news after the doctor confirmed that I was pregnant with both of my pregnancies. We didn't want to keep it a secret because that can sometimes plant the seed of doubt & fear. Know that God makes no mistakes & share your happiness. Congrats!!!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

Y.R.

answers from New York on

i told my parents the day after i found out. I told my husband the news on the day he got recruited to the army. he was very happy that he cried in front of everybody. i gave birth to our son on his birthday and at the same time he was born. the news about the twin pregnancy, i told him on our way to a friend's baby shower. the girls were born, on the day of his mother's birthday. the third pregnancy, he was in bed with the flu when i told him. we gave birth to our daughter on our anniversary. this pregnancy, i told him on our way to the Dominican Republic. this baby will be born on Halloween. he is so happy. we are thinking of cutting my cord after this birth. I'm only 20 years old.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

R.J.

answers from Seattle on

It doesn't matter for me, I tend to lose babies late (3rd trimester). So I told when I knew with my son, which was one of the earliest I knew at (11 weeks).

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

A.K.

answers from Phoenix on

I like to wait. With my last pregnancy , around 16 wks, I'm sure most people probably knew I was pregnant before I told them.

C.M.

answers from St. Louis on

First time around, told my parents, his parents and my three closest friends the day of (4 weeks) and then my extended family at 4 weeks 2 days (early but we were not expecting it and were super excited). At 4 weeks 4 days had a miscarriage.

Second time around, told my parents at six weeks, my brother and his wife at 10 weeks (since they were in town visiting) and everyone else at 12 weeks.

Third time around told my parents around 8 weeks as well as my two best friends. Then at 11 weeks told his family and most everyone else.

It's so hard to wait but I think you are in the clear!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

D.B.

answers from Charlotte on

.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

A.C.

answers from Savannah on

We found out at 6 weeks. I told my old roommate, my brother, and all out of town friends that were not near my family, my husband's friends, and his family the same day we found out. We were really excited. Didn't tell my family for a few weeks until my brother's wedding---I didn't want to take any attention away from his big day.
With my 2nd child, I was 6 weeks again. I was going to keep it a secret and do some dramatic announcement to my husband, since I was actually going for a checkup and she said "do you know you're pregnant?". Jeremy met me at the door before I could walk in and said "How far along?" I tried to play dumb but he said "I found the jar of pickles a week ago". So we went on and told everyone then too.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

H.1.

answers from Des Moines on

Told my best friend right away as she helped me plan how to tell my husband (told him that same day.) This was the day of my positive home pregnancy test.

Waited until 9 weeks to tell family ( my parents, his parents) right after we had our first Ob appt and had an actual due date and ultrasound pic to show.

I think we managed to let 3 more weeks go by (so, 12 weeks) to let other family and friend and everyone in the world know. :) It was hard to wait to tell people though!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

L..

answers from Roanoke on

I should have waited. We told our families and friends during Easter, at 8 weeks, after we heard the heartbeat and got our first ultrasounds. But I miscarried at 12 weeks, and telling people was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. We are pretty private too, so letting people "in" really hurt. Next time around, we're going to wait longer.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

M.G.

answers from Chicago on

We spilled early with my first - I was only six weeks but we were too excited to wait. It ended up being a good thing since we found out two weeks later we were having twins. It sure beat, "Hey, we're pregnant. Oh, and by the way, there's two of them in there." With my daughter I was visibly pregnant at six weeks, but we held off until eight.

For Updates and Special Promotions
Follow Us

Related Questions