You don't have much choice now - you need to tell them NOW because other people already know. You do NOT want them finding out from someone else - it'll hurt them. Because your children are not babies or toddlers anymore, you should've told them FIRST - before you told anyone else!!
Ideally, you wouldn't tell them until after the 1st ultrasound (which these days is around 10-12 weeks) to make sure there's little chance of a miscarriage but it's too late for that. So, what I'd do is tell the kids. Let them get excited but also downplay it a little bit. And for God's sake don't take them with you to the 1st ultrasound - just in case! :-( If the unthinkable happens... well... it happens. Then you just explain that sometimes the babies don't form perfectly and wouldn't be able to survive if they were born so now it's a chance at a 'do-over'. It's part of life and sooner or later they'll need to learn how to deal with it anyways.
Congrats on kid #4!
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You don't have much choice now - you need to tell them NOW because other people already know. You do NOT want them finding out from someone else - it'll hurt them. Because your children are not babies or toddlers anymore, you should've told them FIRST - before you told anyone else!!
Ideally, you wouldn't tell them until after the 1st ultrasound (which these days is around 10-12 weeks) to make sure there's little chance of a miscarriage but it's too late for that. So, what I'd do is tell the kids. Let them get excited but also downplay it a little bit. And for God's sake don't take them with you to the 1st ultrasound - just in case! :-( If the unthinkable happens... well... it happens. Then you just explain that sometimes the babies don't form perfectly and wouldn't be able to survive if they were born so now it's a chance at a 'do-over'. It's part of life and sooner or later they'll need to learn how to deal with it anyways.
Congrats on kid #4!
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You don't have much choice now - you need to tell them NOW because other people already know. You do NOT want them finding out from someone else - it'll hurt them. Because your children are not babies or toddlers anymore, you should've told them FIRST - before you told anyone else!!
Ideally, you wouldn't tell them until after the 1st ultrasound (which these days is around 10-12 weeks) to make sure there's little chance of a miscarriage but it's too late for that. So, what I'd do is tell the kids. Let them get excited but also downplay it a little bit. And for God's sake don't take them with you to the 1st ultrasound - just in case! :-( If the unthinkable happens... well... it happens. Then you just explain that sometimes the babies don't form perfectly and wouldn't be able to survive if they were born so now it's a chance at a 'do-over'. It's part of life and sooner or later they'll need to learn how to deal with it anyways.
Congrats on kid #4!