S.L.
I'd go for the oasis. We just moved from a house where we didn't really see the neighbors and had total privacy, to one where the neighbors are outside more --- and we don't have bushes out front sheilding us. I miss the quiet and privacy! Both homes are on lots over an acre in size, so its not that the neighbors are right there in my face or anything, but I very much prefer the privacy. Plus in my last home when people drove by they didn't see my son out in the yard because of the trees and bushes, so it felt safer.
And neighbors who seem great in the beginning many times end up being more of a headache after awhile!