Who do you invite to your baby shower? Do you make it a big to-do and invite people you only talk to once a month but still consider a "friend", or do you only invite your closest friends and fam?
To answer a few questions that keep popping up - This is my first and only shower. No co-workers will be invited, just friends and family. And I am not throwing the shower myself - LOL. I need to provide a guest list to the hostess.
You should only invite closer people. You're basically throwing a party where it's a given that the attendees bring a gift, so it should be limited to those close to the person of honor.
Oh girl, I had several baby showers (which for me was nerve-racking) just to accomodate everyone. To keep it simple have a family and close friend only shower and then a work shower. Or whatever your catergories are ie church, volunteer org, school, etc. If there is someone(s) who overlap, figure out if you can let them on the "secret" of mutiple showers or if they should remain clueless and only be invited to the group they belong in. I guess it also depends on who is hosting the shower and how big they are willing to go as far as food and sitting room go. Have fun!!!!!
Think of it this way--what people that you know would you be happy to get a baby shower invitation from? And who would you think it odd?
I kind of think it depends on how many showers you're getting. Someone mentioned that they got an office shower, friend shower, some people do showers on each side of the family, etc. I got one big shower with everyone I knew! So, kind of see how that's going to work out for you...and I'd like to say that yes, someone else does plan it for you, not you doing it yourself, but you still have to supply a guest list and addresses, so this is a reasonable question! :)
Of course your close friends and family but I also think you should throw in people like from say work or other organizations you're a part of that you think would want to come to the shower or you think are probably going to get you a gift anyway. I have sometimes felt like I don't want that person to think I'm inviting them just to get a gift?? I would say err on the side of inviting them. They can always decline.
Congrats and have fun!
I think it depends on who's throwing it - if it's a family member with a small home, then just invite family and one or two friends. If it's a co-worker, then invite close co-workers and then a couple friends. Sometimes, it depends a lot on the age of the people there too. Have a 'girls' party with just close friends and then have a 'ladies' brunch with your mom and her friends there too.
I had one that church ladies threw me, so church people were invited, but so were my family members and my best friend (1) and close co-workers (3 ladies). Then at work, they threw me a shower too.
If I had had an aunt in town, I'd probably have had three:
- one w/ church people
- one with family
- one at work.
But as it was, we did a lot of people at the one shower. They were LONG-time friends who have known me since I was 10. They were invited more because of their relationship with my mom. Then family (all of them invited, even those out of town). Then 4 close friends/co-workers.
I hope all that mumbo-jumbo I just wrote helps.
I had a couple of showers given for me. One at work and one by my sister for family and friends.
My sister just asked me who I wanted to put on the list and we worked on it together and had a lot of fun.
If it is your first shower and you are only having one I would invite everyone since very few people attend showers any more. If it is your second, third etc... shower I would stick with just family and extremly close friends.
For my shower we did family and friends. I invited people that I enjoy their company. If it is someone that I have known for years but only talk to once a month or so, I invited them, but if I went to school with them and I had not talked to them for a while, they were not invited. I invited almost all of my family that lived in state because they are important to me. I think it also depends on a budget also and how big your group would be. I would say, that anyone that you love and care about and want there, invite them! Remember that not every single person you invite will be able to make it (and if they do, then enjoy every second of it). I hope you have a great shower!
I had a baby shower given to me by my co-workers. Thus it was an 'office' baby shower.
The baby shower I had for my 2nd child, was given to me by a friend... and only close family members and friends were invited.
My Husband, was also given a baby-shower, by HIS office... for both our first and 2nd child. At which I was invited, or course. It was only co-workers in attendance.
A baby-shower... is usually something someone else... plans for you. Not you doing it yourself.
all the best,
Susan
