Since my 8 years old son enter his 2 grade, he often says that he hates girl. I remember in his 1st grade he likes girl. he played with girls often and even would says he has girlfriends. but now every time we talk about the girls, he says he hates girl, he doesn't want to play with girl. I'm really not sure does he really hates girls or he just pretend to hate girls, but in his heart he likes girl. i'm actually a bit worried he will only like boys when he grow up. is this nomal? what should i do?
Thank for everyone's answer. I really appreciate all of you ladies. I wasn't able to make time to respond quick, but all of your answer are really helpful to me. I think I need to buy some books about child's development and psychology to read.
I think all 8 yr old boys think girls have cooties.
My son use to say that in pre school.
I pointed out to him that Mommy is a girl.
He said "No! Mommy's not a GIRL! Mommy's MOMMY!".
He's 12 now and liking a few girls (but not the girly girls because they're silly and useless, so he says).
All 8 year olds " hate " girls. It is totally normal. Girls have cuties and can't throw balls. He will get over it in about 4 -5 years when puberty starts and hormones start to rage.
Girls have cooties and are gross.
There might be a girl who is picking on him, and that's why he says he hates girls.
If he will "only like boys when he grows up", please remember that he is your son and for him that would be normal. It doesn't change who he is, so it shouldn't change how you love him.
Totally normal.
And so what if he likes boys when he grows up? He's your son, your love for him should be unconditional.
Um, boys and girls usually hate each other which really means they like each other. Hope this helps.
Settle down mama! I am sure that it doesn't mean that he is only gonna like boys when he is older (even though that wouldn't be a problem for me). Girls have cooties and germs!! Don't you know that?! My 3rd grader, almost 9, is not interested in girls at all. They don't play sports (kick ball, fliers up, soccer) on the playground together. They are boring. Don't you worry...in about 4 or 5 years you will be writing us asking how to get these hussies to leave your little boy alone!!!
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IS this a real question? I notice on your profile, this is your first question.... ??? And you have no "responses."
Anyway,
They do this... at certain ages.
ALL normal.
Don't worry.
They like girls.
Then find them icky.
They like girls,
then find them icky.
Same for girls: they like boys and have them as friends. Then don't like them and find them icky. And so forth and on and on and on.
It can also be just what his peers are doing... thus, birds of a feather type thing.
And OH GOSH! Don't even worry, that this portends him hating girls the rest of his life! That is not logical linear thinking, at all.
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Sounds like a typical 8 year old boy to me--and I have O.!
Yeah it's normal! Didn't you ever say, "Eeew, cooties!" about a member of the opposite sex at that age? Totally normal.
TOTALLY NORMAL!!!
In his heart he doesn't hate her - he just doesn't understand his feelings for her so it's easy to place it with HATE as this is about the time that boys and girls get cooties....
Just let it go...take a deep breath and tell him that HATE is a VERY strong word and it's OKAY to NOT like her - but to say HATE - well, please use something else...keep the dialogue going...don't yell and scream and don't tell him he's wrong - ask him WHY he feels this way, what changed, etc. so that you can get a logical time line, etc.
Don't push girls on him...it's okay...
Susan - i thought the EXACT same thing. kind of a "duh" question, actually, especially by "Jack". jmo, but what do i know
It's normal. Boys and girls at this age tend to prefer to play with friends of their own sex. It doesn't mean he's caught OMG Teh Gay.
Totally normal and don't make it into a "sex change" thing....it's developmental until he reaches teenager then he wants to like girls again.
girls now have Kooties at this age, of course he hates girls. It's an age thing.
You don't need to worry right now. There is a stage at which boys and girls like to be with one another as little as possible. But that's OK. This is just a stage in their growing, and they'll get through that stage and go on to something else.
I think its normal. I remember going through this stage in about third grade.
I have an 8 year old girl, and spend a ton of time around 8 & 9 year olds. The girls are mean to the boys at this age and totally segregate from each other. Now, family friends with boys they will play, but at school it is a strict no no. Cooties and all.
It's a phase. You should have a child development book at home to look up phases and behaviors and health problems. It'll make your life easier not to worry about every little thing. You have a big Barnes and Noble nearby go there you'll find the book. Take your kid he'll have lots to play with and books to buy at that store.
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It's a phase. You should have a child development book at home to look up phases and behaviors and health problems. It'll make your life easier not to worry about every little thing. You have a big Barnes and Noble nearby go there you'll find the book. Take your kid he'll have lots to play with and books to buy at that store.
