Dear M.,
Bovine dairy foods are not the best sources of calcium (contrary to popular opinion). One reason is that once pasteurized, the dairy product loses the enzymes that we need to metabolize it and thus becomes indigestible, creating toxic breakdown products in our bodies. The milk products from cows treated with rgBH (almost all that aren't specifically organic!) are even worse because they contain estrogen-like substances that can create hormonal problems and gynecological cancers later on in life. So, your daughter is already better off without them.
Some of the BEST sources of dietary calcium are vegetables. Bok choy and Napa cabbage are the highest in calcium. You can cut up Napa cabbage finely in soup and she can eat it easily. Other good sources are canned sardines, miso soup, tempeh, dried figs, rhubarb, pinto beans, cooked kale, canned pumpkin, and cooked broccoli. Notice that we rarely hear about osteoporosis among Asian women, and they don't eat dairy!
Another "alternative dairy" source of calcium is raw milk-based goat cheese. It's intrinsically more digestible because the enzymes have not been pasteurized, and many children who can't tolerate cow's milk do just fine with goat products. Alta Dena makes a good raw milk goat cheese that is available at most health stores.
Best to you!
S. I., L.Ac.
Lotus Wellspring Healthcare
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San Marcos, CA 92069
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