Would You Let 11Yr Old Daughter Go on Trip with Friend That Is a Boy?

My son has a good friend who is a girl (both age10). We take her with us places often. I never thought twice about it.

My 10 year old daughters' best friend (also 10), is a boy. They have been best friends since they were infants. They are together so much people think they are brother and sister all the time and they still have sleep overs about twice a week. I would certainly let her go on a trip with his family (Whom I happen to know very well) and vise versa. So I think you made the right choice.

I don't see how it would be a problem, as long as they have appropriate sleeping/dressing arrangements, you've met the parents and like the kid. What kids of objections do your friends have to the arrangement? My boys have gone on trips with their friends families and we have taken kids on trips with us. It's never been boy/girl because they don't have any close girl friends. My parents often brought a friend on trips for me because I was an only child, and a couple of times it was a boy. When it was a boy we had an extra room for him. If my friends were insinuating they thought my 11 year old was going to have sex with her 10 year old friend I would think they were a little bit sick.

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WHERE are they going?
HOW LONG are they going to be gone?
WHAT are the sleeping arrangements?

You were okay with this before - now you are letting peer pressure get to you?? What changed your mind? Why are you letting outside people influence your decision? Can you not make a decision on your own and stick with it?

If you know the parents and trust them with your daughter - know where they will be - what the sleeping arrangements are and what the supervision will be? Fine.

Personally, I would have said no. We don't do boy-girl sleepovers either. I know some people feel differently, but it would be a no for us. Personally, I've never yes to my girls being invited on trips with their girl friends for various reasons. Either I didn't know the family well enough, they wanted to take them out of school and we don't agree with that, it was simply too far away for them to go at a young age without a parent, or in one case, I just thought the parent hosting the trip was way too overindulgent, and I just didn't want her buying as much stuff for my DD as I'm sure she would buy. I think only you know if it will be OK for your own child. I think it depends on the circumstances and the level of supervision.

I don't see why that is a problem. If this is a trip, the parents will be there, correct? Would you be comfortable offering to take the boy along for a trip. If so, what's the problem.
I have 2 teen girls and get the same thing sometimes, how can you let her (fill in the blank).

My oldest son went on many trips with a friend who is a girl when he was younger. They had a wonderful time traveling together. They drifted apart around age 13, but those trips were great adventures for him. At this age, they really are just friends. No need to make it more than it is. Hope she has fun!

Not enough information about the trip to offer good advice. On the surface? I wouldn't have let her go.

My parents brought my male best friend along on a camping trip when we were 15. He slept in his own tent, but otherwise, we just acted like a big family.
Sleeping arrangements are really the only thing I would be concerned about, more so that my daughter would have privacy and wouldn't be sleeping in the same room as the father.

Well unless they are going to be sleeping together or otherwise left unsupervised I don't see how this is a problem (?)

Someone will always think you're crazy, for having cable tv in your house or for not having cable tv, for wearing this or that, for cooking from scratch or eating out every night. So don't go by that.

I would say yes, if I know that the parents are vigilant, reliable, and trustworthy. I'd make sure that I was aware of what the sleeping arrangements would be, and who was expected to pay for expenses (snacks, meals, tickets, hotel, etc).

Just "he's a boy" is not enough reason at age 10 and 11 to say no to a family-friendly trip with trusted friends. It's enough at age 17 to say "no you can't do your homework with a boy in your bedroom with the door shut". And it's enough when you know the parents of the boy get drunk every night or will be at the hotel bar or out on the town or couldn't care less about who sleeps where.

It sounds like you've discussed the trip, know the parents' ethics, and that you trust your daughter. Doesn't sound like a bad parent to me.

I think if you're ok and didn't question it before your friends weighed in on it, I'd say sure.

We have family friends we visit or camp with - and they have girls where I have older boys. The kids hang out ... and one time they all camped together outside with one of the grownups in the tent. All the kids slept out.

I'm not in the position where we've taken a child with us or ours have gone with another family - at this point. We'd be more likely to go as two families, so haven't been in this particular situation so can't really comment. My kids also are not close with friends of the opposite sex - where when younger. But if they are friends, I guess you'd treat them like same sex friends - and just make sure privacy is respected when necessary.

I am just curious - why did you say yes and then because others said you were crazy you're questioning it? You know you kid better than they do and you know the friendship better than they do - not their circus to run.

I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you know the family well and trust them then you have every right to trust them with your child.

No.
Actually I never understood the friends on constant sleep overs and taking them on trips.
We never did that growing up and our son didn't either.
I went to a few slumber parties when I was in high school and we did our nails and hair and talked about boys a lot.

I don't see any problem whatsoever.

it would completely depend on how sexually aware/interested they both were

Yes, and I would just clarify with the parents how supervision is going to be handled.

You know your kid and whether r not she is trustworthy. I allowed my kid to go to an out-of-state music festival with her boyfriend and his mom when she was twelve.

They are friends. She is lucky to be invited on a trip with a friend. Why does sex matter?

Yes I would let her go, I wouldn't think twice about it.

I would be ok with it as long as I had a conversation with both parents on expectations and making sure they are aware of my concerns and agree with me. I guess it would depend on how much I trusted them, when, where and how long they would be gone and some other details. But yes, if I *felt* ok with her going and them taking care of her as I would expect, then I would let her go. Good luck.

Depends. If I knew the parents well and the boy for a longer time, I would.