What would you do?
We traveled to Florida.. drove from NY 18 hours for vacation - crazy I know we do it almost every year sometimes multiple times. During these trips my husband does not let me drive at all. Im ok with that as I dont care really.
In any event, we got home and found a ticket from the city of Kissimme for running a red light. I watched the video! They took pictures of our car and everything! Im pissed as the car is registered to me. I have had those licenses plates since the 90's! lol...
Well after calling around (spoke with lawyers) we are going to pay the ticket. Calling around everyone is telling me that trying to fight it would cause the ticket to turn into a moving violation and points to ME! Cause the car is registered to me. If I just pay it, it would be like an expensive parking ticket. Did I mention my husband was driving?
There is a place to mark down if someone else was driving but does it matter? They would just reissue the ticket to him and who knows what else.
So would you throw your spouse under the bus? BTW (knock on wood) I have never gotten a ticket in my life! LOL
Paying it wouldnt give me points or make the insurance rates increase - we dont have separate bank accounts so the money thing is not an issue.
Vacation was pretty good otherwise - until the return trip - hubby ran over a deer that damaged the underside of our Prius so my car has been in the shop since last week. The fun!
The question was - Would YOU throw your spouse under the bus? Not what I should do.. I did say we were paying the ticket. I told the same thing to my family and they laughed. Im not dwelling on it or being dramatic. Geez people!
Goosfraba!
Really confused here, the ticket is on the car which is in your name. You can mark down your husband was driving but they will still expect the money from you, the owner of the car. They will not actually go after the driver, that is your responsibility, the box is just there to make you feel better if you lent the car to someone.
So just pay the ticket and don't be so dramatic.
For me it would only depend on a couple of things. First, does your husband have points on his license? And would your insurance rates go up, depending on whose license gets the points? I would just pay the ticket, as it's just a city fine at this point, no sense in making a bigger deal out of it and either of you get points.
Paying the ticket only requires writing a check. This research mission you are on is taking up too much of your time. The ticket must be paid regardless of who was driving. You could easily check that it was him driving and not you and it would go on his record (I guess) instead of your's. He was the driver as a fact. Does he really care if the ticket is under his name? He shouldn't have any opposition since he was driving and ran the red light. You might be making more out of this than he would.
if its J. a fine and no points why go through the extra effort? J. pay it
Whomever has the better driving record should probably absorb the ticket, practically speaking.
I don't see the point. Either way, the fine will have to be paid. As long as it won't result in points on your driving record, I don't see any need to turn it into a convoluted mess.
I'd just pay the ticket. Sucks that you got the ticket, but does it really matter if it's you or him paying it? In our house, it wouldn't matter, it would come out of our joint account. Dont see the need to complicate things and go through the trouble of changing the "blame". People get tickets, it happens. I'd just pay it and move on. Hope you had a nice vacation otherwise :)
Nope. I'd pay the ticket and move on. It's not going to give you points or increase your insurance so it's not really an issue worth fighting over.
If hubby ran the red light, then there is nothing to fight. Just pay the ticket and move on:)
Hmmm-that was an interesting question until you got to the not literal part-lol :)
It makes absolutely no difference who was driving it since it's not a moving violation. Your insurance company won't care at all.
Ditto to Mama2cade's answer. Do what does less damage to the family. But probably, I would be inclined to let it fall to him. My hubby got a red light ticket driving the SUV that is registered only in my name. Then he got a speeding ticket driving the car registered to both of us, but he was driving so it was obviously him :). I think hubby should mark it was him.
I would hand over the whole form to him and get him to deal with it. Take yourself out of the equation. It was his mistake - let him deal with it.
So you watched the video...did he run the red light? If yes, then pay the ticket and move on with your lives. I don't understand the over thinking. Are you bored or something?
We keep our banking seperate. And he earned the ticket so he could pay for the ticket. Actually this would fall under my payments. I pay for the unexpected things, drs. gifts, fixing broken things around the house and groceries, clothing and such. my husband pays for most of the house bills as well as some groceries...things i dont buy that he wants.
What LeeLee said made sense to me.
do that many people have vehicles registered in their names only?? maybe it's just that we've been married long enough to need new cars. but each one We have purchased since getting married has been in both of our names. weird.
unless he has a ton of problems with his driving record, just chalk it up to a boo boo and move on. it does stink that "someone" somewhere at the dept of bad drivers will think it was you. I know i have made driving errors tons of times and been lucky enough not to get hurt or get caught. but if one of these days i'm a little groggy from driving 14 hrs and i miss a red light on a deserted road. then so be it.
if it's an issue you could use this to push for him sharing the driving, but you need to decide if it's worth it or not.
I wish I had NEVER gotten a ticket!! I've had a few!! not for a few years (knock on wood).
What is the impact on the family? Will your driving record be tarnished? If the answer to the latter one is no - I wouldn't throw him under the bus.
How will this affect your insurance rates? Will they go up?
Is there any way to get this on his record? If not - and it will only be a moving violation? I would let it go.
The answer to your question overall is that I try not to throw my husband under the bus.
However, in this case, I don't understand the question. It might be your tag on the car, but you two are a couple and you were both in the car together. Pay the fine and stop worrying about who was driving. The state of Florida doesn't care that it's your husband.
Now if someone borrowed your car (not your spouse), then you should demand that they pay YOU for the ticket so that you can clear the debt. But that didn't happen here.
When we're married, we end up having to deal with each other's actions, for better or worse.
Dawn
