10 Month Old Doesn't Use Sippy Cup or Sleep in Crib

It's never too late. I didn't start sippy cup training until my child was around 10 months old. I also had a relatively easy going child with transitions. She went to using a sippy cup and by the time she was a year old we were off the bottle entirely. She made the transition from formula to whole milk easily enough considering she was fed soy milk instead of regular milk. Start now with the sippy cup.

Well, I'm like you and dont like to sleep by myself, but after having my daughter, it seems like the only time I have to myself is when im sleeping LoL. Several months back when my husband and I were having problems I spent a week at my moms house which is about 3 hours away from home, During that time my daughter wouldnt sleep in her play pen so she slept with my in my sisters bed, Needless to say that she loved it.. Something about them being right there next to you gives them great comfort and security, so it was extremely hard to get her to sleep back in her crib when everything was worked out and we came back home. What I did was I'd rock her to sleep (If you shorten her nap by just a half an hour or so, depending on how long their naps are, they'll fall asleep with no problems, at least mine does) and put her in her crib, if she'd wake up when I put her down I'd try patting her bottom or rubbing her tummy to get her back to sleep, if that didnt work I'd rock her a little more, and try again, If that doesnt work again, then lay down with her in the bed, I'd sleep for an hour or so, wake up and put her in her crib, she's usually knocked out pretty good afted an hour of sleeping and goes down with no problems, if she wakes up, pat her or rub her tummy, if that still doesnt work, lay her down again in the bed til shes asleep again, then put her back in her bed. Its a pain in the rear, but worth the effort and a little bit of a sleepless nite, after a couple days of this she re-learned that she had to sleep in her crib, that you would still be there in the morning and such. The way that I have my bed and crib set up (We currently have a big 1 bedroom), is that her crib runs the same way as my bed so all I have to do is lift my head up to see her, She sometimes wakes up and stands up in her crib, checks to see if we're still there and goes back to sleep. We still get a little bit of sleepy time together, my husband wakes up at 5 for work, so at 5:30 like clockwork she wakes up and says "Momma hello" I take her out of her crib and we sleep for another 2 hours together. As for the bottle, water down it little by little till its eventually water, put the regular formula in the sippy cup, if its one with a rubberish valve, take it off till she has the idea down, eventually she'll learn the good stuff is in the cup. as for messiness, every sippy will eventually leak, i dont give her juice or milk unless its meal time, but i always have a water one out and within her reach, she drinks enough to satisfy her and puts it back, i dont let her have it hanging in her mouth like some parents do, because in my opinion its just as bad as the bottle and just as hard on their teeth. the built in straw sippers, take n toss sippers and playtex seem to be her favorites. hope i helped.

Dont feel guilty, my daughter slept with me til 1 and my son til 2ish and didnt go to his bed til the new one was born. And i swore i would be good but guess what the new one sleeps in my bed now. No real advice on the crib thing cause as you see I am bad at that too. However, the sippy cup. Try taking the plug out for a few days, cause I dont know if you tried yourself but you have to suck really hard to get anything out. But if you take the plug out for a few days she wil start to get the concept and then put it back in or else you will have a mess. Best of luck!

Honestly I wouldn't worry about the sippy cup to much,just try it every now and again till she gets the hang of it,but I wouldn't call it a pressing subject,I see kids that are two with bottles still,now that's a matter of being lazy,but ten months,wouldn't worry,kids come into things at their own pace,you can also try just having her drink out of your cup,that's what my daughter preffered to do,pretty much skipped the whole sippy cup phase.As for getting your daughter in her crib,if it's in her own room,try putting glow in the dark stars up,a night light,I ended up having to leave a tv with my daughters favorite movie on every night.Or music,make sure something is making noise to help her fall asleep,a fan did it really well when my daughter was younger and I first put her in her own room.Even the dryer.

It sounds to me that little Madison is a blessing and a dream come true all in one, and considering that she has been so easy to teach I'd first say don't worry,even though I've only had one child and He's a grown man now, I remember His yesteryears like they were yesterday, and He was a very bright child as well. But some things that I thought He should be doing at certain ages and didn't tended to worry me.So what I would do was just always do whatever it was that I wanted Him to do and He would soon wind up doing it to, can't say that it will work for Madison, but try getting the two of you twin or look alike sippy cups and have tea time with her (milk or water) very regularly it might rub off kids learn some certain things by example. And just a suggestion when its nap time for the next couple of months put Madison in Her crib just for naps and let Her continue to sleep with you at night until She can find comfort and ownership in Her crib, at the same time continuing to sleep with you at night she'll continue to feel that security that she is so use to. And then you can slowly start putting in Her crib more and more often when you're not going to bed, hopefully as She begins to spend more and more time in Her crib She will become use to it, but don't expect for it to be to easy in the beginning, but She sounds smart and may began to catch on without feeling like somethings wrong, and don't you feel like you've done anything wrong by letting Her sleep with you, you were having a hard time and Her being there was your strength, and you'd be suprised how babies can sense the emotions and changes in mom, so it may have been good for Her to for a while, so just give her time she'll come around, before you know it you'll be buying Her a twin bed then a full size.

My daughter slept with me until she was one and then I put her crib in our room until she was 2, When it was time for a big bed we put her in her own room, I read to her until she falls asleep, which is about 15 minutes and she has had no problem in her new room, she is now three. I don't know that there is any hurry getting her into her own room. Its up to you, but I don't see any problem letting her stay in your room, maybe put her crib in your room. As far as the sippy cup , it just takes pratice. It will all work out, you have tons of time
take care
J.

Didn't read the other mom's responses so hopefully I'm not just repeating what others may have suggested.
I nursed & slept with my first child until he was 14 months old. He was NOT an easy child at all & still isn't. Any change in his routine really tended to upset him, so when it came time to wean him we did 1 step at a time. What really eased him into sleeping in his own bed was putting him down for his nap in his own bed. I would lay him in his bed with a bottle & did the cry for 5 min & go in & reasure him until he finally fell asleep routine. If he really was upset I would pick him up until he had calmed down & then try again. I tended to be a softy. After about 5 days or so he had it down. After a couple weeks of sleeping in his bed for nap time I tried it one night & he went straight to sleep. We were totally shocked! If you already have her in her own bed for nap time it hopefully will go the same for night time. What really helped us too was he was already attached to a little flopsie puppy. Puppy became his comforter & still is to this day, he's now 3.
For the sippie cup you can start offering multiple times throughout the day, just have it available for her to use when ever she wants. We used 1/2 water 1/2 apple juice with both our boys. Try using it yourself with her watching & make a happy yummy big deal about it & then turn it to her lips for her to try. She may catch on just by you showing her.
Good luck!

L.

Have you tried the Nuby cup? It's a transition from the bottle to a sippy cup, and it doesn't use a stopper thing, and they are super cheap.
About your daughter sleeping with you, I have to say that I love sleeping with my kids, even though they thrash around the bed and I don't get good sleep. My daughter slept with us until literally a week after I had my son, she was 2 1/2 years old. I was worried how I was going to handle my 2-year-old and newborn baby in bed with me, but somehow she was ready to be in her own bed. I tried and tried to get her to sleep in her crib when she was about 10 months and I was too weak, I couldn't do it. If you can't handle using the crying method to get her to be in her own bed, because now she is so accustomed to sleeping with you, then just wait until she talks and you can sort of rationalize with her. Although, I've also heard that it takes about 3 straight nights of them being upset about being in their own bed, but for some reason the 4th night they're okay with it! But you have to let them cry it out for the first nights, you can't go in there and get her.
Hope my advice helps.

Well my son is now 21 months old and he has been on a sippy cup and regular milk since he was 11 or 12 months old. I started out putting a sippy cup and his bottle on his high chair next to one another and i took a sippy cup myself and without the lid started drinking out of it. he thought it was great so he gradually started drinking from the sippy cup(nubbys with the soft top no valve were great in the beginning) he wanted to be like mommy so he tried and tried. at first when he didn't like it he would just drink from the bottle but over a few weeks he loved being like mommy and no more bottles. I wish I could help you with the crib issue, but my son was sleeping in his own crib in his room at 3 weeks old. From what I've heard the best way is to just stay with your daughter at her crib and start slowly moving away different amounts each night until she falls asleep, and eventually she will understand when you put her in her crib it's "nigh-night" time. good luck

Hi Rose,
Is there a particular reason that you want to move your baby into her crib at this time or is it simply a process you want to start soon? There are great books that might help - I would look at William and Martha Sear's The Baby Book - they talk about attachment parenting and it might give you some clues. There is absolutely nothing wrong with co-sleeping and often the baby will adjust to sleeping on her own in her own time. There are a number of different philosophies on all this so experiment and do what feels right for you and your baby. Just remember, you can't spoil a baby under a year old! Good luck :) (p.s. love your baby's name!)

First, I would like to say Good Job in being so active/involved with your daughter! Its hard enough these days, but being a single parents takes an extra effort!
I also have an 11month old, it was alot of work at first to get my son to sleep in his crib. It all started for us around the holidays. First he caught a real bad cold and was having problems breathing so I would bring him to bed, so I can hear him, then my in-laws came in from out of town and stayed in his room, so he had to sleep with us, so when it came time to put him back in his crib, it was a little fight, but well worth it! We would start off puttig him in his crib after I put him to sleep, if he would wake up we would let him cry for the first 5 minutes and go soothe him, put him back to bed. If he would wake up again, we would do the same thing. 5 minutes of crying and go get him. I would never take him back to my bed, if he would not calm down I would rock him in the living room. The second night I would let him cry for 7 minutes and go soothe him. The 3rd night, let him cry for 10 mins. He never cried over 20 minutes, about 15 was his max and he would put himslef back to sleep. And that lasted for about 5 days. Now let me tell you, I was sooooo tired from getting up, but you have to be consistant. Now he sleeps from 7pm to 7am without waking up. What a difference.
With the sippy cup, he did not like it at first and did not know how to use it. I would put it on his highchair at every meal and let him play with it and help him try to take a sip once in awhile, after awhile he just figured out there was water in it and would take a drink. The sippy cup is a little faster than the bottle, so he had to get used to swollowing different. It took about a month for him to get the whole concept, but no he only has a bottle when its time for bed. he will use the sippy cup all day. They just need to learn on their own, and always seem to.

Good luck, it sounds like you love being a mom!

yes i know the feeling... Does she nap with you? If so try to break that and let her nap in her bed. If need be put her bed in your room since she is familiar with that space. It is gonna take time and a lot of patience. fair warning she will cry... alot to say the least... let her cry herself to sleep it isnt gonna hurt her... Promise... It hurts us more than them... As for the sippy cup it will come with time. put her favorite drink in it but it cant be formula.... ok or she will never give that up. Try milk even chocolate milk... its sweet and so she will try hard to get it out the cup and will figure out how to use her tounge to suck on the cup. totally different method than a bottle. try for yourself. and see how easy it is to suck out of the sippy cup... I personnally test all of my daughters cups before i give them to her because sometimes the plastic piece inside does not let the drink release from the cup so instead of her crying i make sure it works prior to giving it to her i learned the hard way... she couldnt get it to come out one day and so she was really upset and went to her room crying after she threw her cup on the floor. i had no clue what was up so i gave her a time out then she came to me after that and gave her cup to me and was like "no mama...no mama" I looked at her like huh??? i didnt get it so i changed her cup out and she was then fine. so i put water in her cup and tried it and there was the problem it wasnt giving her anything no matter how hard she sucked.... so from mom to mom time is patiece and patience in a whole bunch of crying.... Lots of love and support... R.

Rose,

Just start giving her a sippy cup with water in it and let her play with it. You might want to try a few different kinds. I like the "Take & Toss" ones because they don't have a valve but they don't leak much. It is hard to get a baby interested in a sippy cup with a valve because they don't know there is anything in the cup....

As far as getting your baby out of your bed, I can't help you there. I coslept with my older one until he was 3 and his brother was born. And I'm currently cosleeping with my 6 month old. If there is a way to get them out of your bed without tons of trauma and crying I haven't found it. LOL

T.

First of all, hats off to you and many kudos for being a great single parent! I know it must be very tough at times, but it sounds like you and your little girl are doing great.

I wouldn't be too concerned about the sippy cup, my 14mo. old son just learned to use his very well a couple of weeks ago... and we introduced it to him months ago! There's such a huge timeline for babies to accomplish their developmental feats, they can astonish you with how quickly they master something, and other things they get to at their own leisurely pace.

For solo-sleeping, I would recommend practicing throughout the day with leaving her in her crib for a few minutes and returning, gradually lengthening the time apart. Always tell her you will be returning and that you love her. It becomes a routine that she will notice and feel comfortable with eventually when it is time to go to sleep, secure.

Best wishes to you!

V., mommy to Evan, 14 months old.

I don't really have any suggestions on the bed issue. Possibly you could put her crib in the room with you that way she is not far away, but you would be distancing her slowly.
My son did have issues with using a sippy cup around the same age so we switched to a sports bottle and it has worked wonderfully. He is now 19 months old and has no problem drinking out of a cup, sippy cup, etc.
I wish you and your little one all the best.
-L.

I really don't have much advice, as my daughter has always been in a crib, and she never did use sippy cups - she preferred the cups with straws.

However, I wanted to mention ... you said "do you know how lonely it is to go from sleeping with another person in your bed every night to having no one there with you? it's lonely!" Keep that in mind when transitioning your daughter to her crib ... I bet she'll be feeling the same way.

Good luck!

Don't feel like co-sleeping is a bad thing. We co-sleep with our ten month old son and both my husband and I enjoy the arrangement.

Same thing about the sippy cup - it's not a terrible thing that she doesn't know how to use it. I've been teaching my son to drink from a straw and use a regular cup. Everyone has a different way of doing things and it's 100% ok if you're not going with the majority on everything you do.

If you really don't want to co-sleep anymore, try the No Cry Sleep Solution for suggestion on gently moving her to the crib. Best to you and your little one!

I went through a similar prob with my son when he was 7 mos old. He slept in his crib, but needed to be rocked to sleep every night & would wake up crying as soon as I put him down. Our pediatrician recommended letting him cry it out. Set a routing each night & STICK TO IT. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do (my husband often had to step in to make sure I didnt go in his room), but it was worth it. He cried himself to sleep for about a week or so, but turned into a child who is now so easy to put to sleep & content with the routine. Just be strong & know that it's best for her in the long run.

I would start drinking out of the sippy cup yourself to get her interested without telling her what you are doing, kids like to do what we do. About sleeping in the bed, I do not see any harm in it unless you do not want to continue this, if not then put her in her bed and tell her she is a big girl now and if you have to sleep on the floor next to her bed. It is a very hard thing to break because like us they too want someone next to them, I put all of my kids in bed as babies and they all sleep in thier own now, ages 20,18,15 and 11 and the baby 5 month old she sleep with me after a bad cold and I wanted to monitor her, there she stays now....oh well she won't graduate high school sleeping in my bed. I love to know she is right next to me....others give me a hard time aboutit but I have been through it so many times I know that sooner than later she will want to sleep in her own bed, for sure.
Huggs to you
D.
____@____.com