Hi Bonnie
First off, good for you that you will not let your baby "cry it out on her own"....I think that is cruel.
I have a 15 month old daughter who at about 12 and 13 months old decided to be kind of uncooperative with sleeping too. I spoke to some people who said, just let her cry and cry until she falls to sleep....as I said before, no way!
What I would try.... first, get her a night light or a small lamp that you can put at the far end of the room to keep the light from being directly in her eyes, then try a lullabye cd that she may be used to. If and when she wakes up, don't talk to her at all, but give her a pacifier (If you use them), and ease her down to sleep. Rub her back gently and perhaps put the music on softly again. Sometimes I would stay in the room so my daughter would see me there....(I have a futon in her room). The first few nights were a little tough b/c she kept getting up, but eventually she would just lay down and fall off to sleep on her own. It seems now that my daughter just has to hear the lullabye music and she puts her head right down and falls to sleep right away.
No matter what you choose to do, be consistent, and loving.
As a child, it was always better to be in a loving environment then to be scolded and left to cry, so I want the same for my little girl.
Good luck to you.
All this is a phase anyway and she will grow out of it soon.
Take care and let us know how you make out.
I hope this helps. You sound like a great Mom! :)
P.