I am at my wits end with my 12 with old step son. He demonstrates odd behaviors all the time but this morning really got to me. As I am trying to potty train my 2 year old, I go to the boys bathroom to put him on the little training potty. I then notice that the potty is covered with dried urine and there is also dried urine inside the potty as well. As this is my first time putting the 2 year old on the potty, I know he didn't do it.
I know it was the 12 year old and to me it looks like he was literally 'Marking his Territory'.
He constantly does bizzar things like this. I just cannot comprehend why.
2 years ago we had him tested for ADHD and we were assured he didn't have it.
He tends to be very impulsive and cannot control his actions. He also cannot make a coherent sentence when he speaks. Most of the time his speech is fractured and weird.
He lies ALL THE TIME. One of his teachers called me to tell me that he annoys the other kids in class and he was worried that it would lead to him getting beat up. This has also happened.
He tends to play with children who are younger, for example, 5 years old. This is very strange to me as well.
Please help. I need advice. My husband thinks he is normal, but I don't think so.
I spoke with my husband last night and he agreed that we should go for Psych testing. He also called the boys mother only to find out that he urinated on his 17 year old step brother. She feels testing is needed as well. I looked up Aspergers and he sure does fit a lot of the criteria. I just want to nip this before it turns violent or worse. We have a 2 year old and a 5 month old in the house and he has hurt the 2 year old in the past. Thank you for all of your advice. I will update when more is known.
Did you put him on psych drugs? Hopefully not- talk about awful.
See Yoka Reeder.com for help.
best, k
What is being done to help this 12 year old who "tends to be very impulsive and cannot control his actions (and) cannot make a coherent sentence when he speaks (and) Most of the time his speech is fractured and weird?
This is a child in need of a diagnosis and help. He obviously has issues and your husband is in denial--now what?
I had 4 brothers growing up and I can tell you from experience that 12-year old boys play pranks, especially when they are bored. And what's fun for them, is a total turn off and gross to us girls. I think that if us women knew half the gross pranks and joking around our guys did when they were younger, we wouldn't look at them the same ever again. I really do believe that this would be a totally different world if us women weren't around to civilize the men.
As for your son's inability to speak coherently and impulse control issues, though, if it is a great concern then I would suggest having him evaluated by a child psychologist and a speech therapist. Teenage boys mature at different rates and I think a lot of boys do have impulse control issue to one degree or another, but if it's a concern, please go have it checked out so you can get some accurate information about what is going on with him and get him the help that he may need.
I would take him to an occupational therapist or behavioral therapist. My friend is one and helps children with these sorts of behaviors all the time. The lack of impulse control, the fractured, incoherant speech, the age gap in social play, the lying are all things I would bring up.
These are issues that can likely be helped, but you need to make the step and give this child a means for therapy.
I agree that he should see someone for an evaluation. My son is 4 and has similar issues to your son - my husband is in denial of our sons diagnosis and says "He's just young." I certainly hope me and the individuals evaluating him are wrong and that my husband is right however my son goes to a behavioral therapist and goes to a special ed preschool to help with speech and social behaviors.
Have ya'll had him tested for other disorders other than just ADHD? I would take him to get evaluated by a professional. Bring it up to his doctor and see if they can refer you to one. I know here in Texas there's a place called Child Study Center in Fort Worth that specializes in things like this. I'm sure there's something similiar in Florida. I would keep trying to get help for him. What you have described doesn't sound very normal. Good Luck!
Sounds like your child has some emotional issues - a more thorough psychosocial evaluation might identify the source of his behaviors and counseling/therapy options to help him become better adjusted.
Well, have the school evaluate him (the special ed department) and look into Oppulant Defiance Disorder as an option. But to "comfort" you I guess, my nephew, who does have ADHD around 8 or 9 used to urinate in FULL shampoo bottles and HIDE them. He could not explain why nor could anyone else. He grew out of it eventually my sister just had to ration out the shampoo for a while.
See if you can have him retested or read books on behavioral issues. Some people don't believe in all of the ADHD, ADD, etc., perhaps that is your husbands stance.
I think that the peeing behavior could just be a stupid kid thing, but the other behaviors point to something larger. Could he be undiagnosed with Aspberger's or something? I think that it is natural to not want to think your child is different, but for your husband to ignore that his son seems emotionally behind, can't communicate clearly and isn't taking social cues to the point he gets attacked is causing his son more harm than taking action. Would your husband listen to the teacher, guidance counselor and/or pediatrician about this? Since you said stepson, my guess is that legally you need your husband to take action but maybe the "professionals" can prod him into doing so.
Hi yes I agree it sounds like ADD or some such. There is such a stigma with those letters, but its not all bad. Once its really diagnosed then it can be treated. There are games etc to help with the focusing. An speech therapist and a therapist to help himwith his socializing is not a bad idea. The urine etc is probably his way of acting out on what he cannot vocalize or help. But he can be taught. If you are in public school talk to the counselor. If you are in private by all means contact someone who has dealt with this before I also go to another web site http://www.additudemag.com/adhdforums/index.html. I love Mamepedia but I also find this forum has some good answer about ADD
He actually sounds like a possible child with sociopathic tendencies. I would keep a very careful watch on him around children and animals/reptiles/bugs/etc. He needs some heavy duty therapy.
I usually don't say such harsh or stern things like this - but the moment I read your post - I got a horrible feeling and the hairs on the back of my neck stood up.
Sounds like possible Asperger Syndrome. Read a book called Disconnected Kids.
