My 12 yr old says she has a stomach ache every morning before school. I am not sure what to do. She doesn't seem to not like school or have any problems that would bring on stress related aches. I was trying to determine if it is PMS related, but doesn't seem to be. Most mornings she will not eat any breakfast due to the pain. I have kept her home from school before thinking it was flu related but by afternoon she was feeling fine without throwing up. Does any one have any suggestions on what I should do?
T.
Thanks for the wonderful feedback. I did mention the problem to her teacher. He said he would look out for her for me and let me know if he senses any problems. I also put two and two together and maybe their "Sex can wait" lessons at school are making her uncomfortable and I should spend some time talking to her about things. She says it is not a problem, but subconsiously it could make her more anxious about going to school thus, causing the stomach ache.
Thanks again for the support. It is really nice to have such a wonderful group of "Friends" to talk to.
T.
Hello I'm a 12yr old boy and I am having the same problems.I have had my gallbladder out for about a year and a half but the pain only increased. I don't throw up in the mornings although I feel like it sometimes. This has gone On forever and my parents think that I an faking but I'm not. I have trouble going And stayIng for school.
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You SURE there's nothing going on at school? It sure sounds like there is.
How is she on the weekend mornings? That might shed some light on the situation.
My son had a similar problem at your daughters age and it turned out that he had a huge phobia of tests. I kept asking him, are your friends teasing you? Is someone at school treating you mean? Are you afraid of your teacher? I took him to the doctor and everything checked out fine. I was concerned about his health so I talked to his teacher and asked if she could keep an eye on him. She told me he had been excusing himself from class alot to use the restroom. Then I was really worried! I thought Oh, Gosh its worse than I thought. I talked to him about it and he told me he goes to the bathroom when he's taking a test because he either feels like throwing up or his stomach hurts. His grades were always really good and he does his homework with being asked so it never dawned on me that it was his classwork. Who would have thought a 12 year old could have work related stress issues? His teacher and I worked him through it and in a few weeks he was fine.
Have you talked with her teacher to see if she is having any problems she's not telling you about? I have a cousin who used to have this problem and it turned out he was having problems with his friends at school and had anxiety about what was going to happen at school. His mom had no idea until she talked with the teacher.
I'm with everyone else. Usually when my eldest has stomach problems, it means there's something going on that she's having trouble putting a voice to and is looking for attention (subconsciously in my daughter's case.) However, it wouldn't hurt to take her to the doctor, and if nothing pans out there, maybe consider a counselor.
My daughter loved her counselor and it gave her a venue to really air out her feelings (though it took a while to get to them, she tends to emotionally "stuff") in a safe environment that's not mom (sorry mom, no offense.) I worked with the counselor as well so that by the end of our sessions, my daughter was able to tell me what was going on, knowing I wouldn't judge her and I would help her through whatever it was (which so far hasn't been big stuff, but her teens are coming up!)
Do your best to really be there for her and / or connect her with a trusted adult (female preferably IMHO) in your stead who she can talk to openly.
I had the same problem at that age. I also had a "friend" who was pushy, demanding and wouldn't let me be social with other girls. When she transfered to a different school my stomach ache went away. There is probably something going on at school and you will be hardpressed to get your daughter to tell you what it is. See if you can observe the class to see if there appear to be any problems. talk to the teacher, and other mothers (incase the problem is the teacher.) Worse come to worse talk to a counsler.
Good luck
