13 Month Old Wont Stop Whinning and Crying...

You put her in timeout to stop her from crying? If I'm reading that right, I think your problem is trying to punish her to stop the crying. She's still a baby. She can't talk. She's crying because she needs/wants something. To put her in a crib and separate her from you to stop the crying seems counterproductive. Why not try to figure out WHY she is crying and then rectify that situation. Then the crying should stop. If you keep putting her in a timeout for expressing herself the only real way she can right now she'll learn not to tell you when she needs something for fear of retribution. Time out at this age for this reason is inappropriate in my opinion.

Kids this age:
do not have impulse control
do not have fully developed emotions
do not have deductive or inductive reasoning ability
do not have mastered, linear logic nor fully developed hindsight
do not have communication ability nor vocabulary nor is accurate about it
do not have knowledge of abstract concepts
do not even have inherent coping-skills
do not even have inherent problem-solving skills
and they repeat things and make mistakes, repeatedly.

When tired, they get even more, unable to control their impulses of which they do not have at-will impulse control yet.
And when tired, or over-tired or over stimulated, they "cry" or whine or scream.... in order to.... shut-out, external noise or stimuli. It is their only way, per their age, for shutting out, what is irking them, too.
Babies and young kids, cry/scream/whine, in order to stop... what is bothering them, or to convey, what they need.

If she wants to be held, then hold her.
"Bonding" is ALSO a direct way, which affects well rounded development of a child and facilitates well being and confidence and "trust" in the parent.

A baby/child will also cry/whine/scream... because they are not getting what they need, or, it is the only way that they can get attentiveness.

I dont think a 13 month old is really old enough to understand a timeout. I think what they can understand is consistency. If she whines and crys, and then eventually gets what she wants, she has learned that whining and crying will get her what she wants. So she will do it everytime. You have to make sure that if you say no you mean no and it wont change no matter how much she protests.
Its also a tough age because she has an idea of what she wants, but probably does not have the words to actually ask for it. I never did this but I have some friends that swear by baby sign language at this age as it helps the child to express what they want without crying.

Hi,

I have a 14 month old daughter - who has been crazy since the day she was born. Seriously. Crazy. And trying, and cried, and cried and then you know what she does now? cry!

I think she's been hungry. I know this sounds silly - but I truly think she is hungry. When I feed her, she gets better. I worry that I'm teaching her to respond to crying with food (and creating eating issues) but because she can't talk, I assume the crying is her way of telling us she's hungry.

She's very different than her brother, who is laid-back - does not fuss, does not bug, etc. He's a normal 4 1/2 year old, but he NEVER acted like this. And I find that I enjoy being around him more, and I feel bad for that. It actually makes me feel like a bad parent by having a favorite... and who wants to admit they like one kid better?

anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say, is that just try and figure out what she needs. she's not doing it to bug you, but she's doing it to communicate with you.

She's not acting up to give you a hard time.
She is acting up because she's HAVING a hard time.

This will pass, and it will be a memory. Try and get thru it the best way you can, while trying to help her get thru it the best way she can...

Hang in there. You (and me) can both do this!

Give her loves and squeezes. she doesn't mean to be this way.

Well, I'm sure at 13 months that she doesn't have many words. She is still VERY young, T..

You probably need to hold her more. Now, I'm not saying to hold her when she screams for it. I'm saying to hold her more when she isn't.

You actually can't get her to stop being loud yet. She is really too young. But you can give her positive attention when she is NOT loud. THAT's what you should be changing about your approach.

Dawn

How verbal is she? Can she communicate? Usually the problem at that age is that they know what they want but you don't. If she's not very communicative yet, I really recommend baby sign language. It will greatly help with the whining as a result of frustration.