19 Month Old Anxiety

How do you usually do after an hour and a half of chaos?

I usually want to go home after a half hour of being in Walmart on a Saturday afternoon.

I think your expectations are a little unreasonable. She's a foot and a half tall. Everything and every one is bigger and louder. I'd be pleased that she lasts as long as she does!

Some people are more extroverted and some people are more introverted. I'm an introvert. The problem is, the world wants everyone to believe that extroverts run everything. The truth is, they don't. The world needs introverts to get things done, and extroverts to put our work out there.

Let your daughter be herself. No need to pressure her to be what she is not.

This is normal.
It is developmental.

MANY kids... get overly-stimulated in crowds or kid venues. It is noisy and full of chaos.
Be GLAD... that your child, has the sense to communicate that to you, in her own way... and TELLS you, when she has had enough.

Kids also get TIRED... after being at a place like that.
Personally, I get like that too. I just want to leave already. Too many people, too noisy, too much movement and activity. Then I am ready to leave. My kids too.

Being there.. for one hour to 1.5 hours, is a LONG LONG time, for a child this age. Too long. Thus, she has had enough, by that time.

THEN, once you leave your child is a clingy mess... because she is OVER-tired. She needs a nap. And many kids, do like their home... because it is soothing and quieter and calmer.

Normal.

This is in NO WAY, a 'serious problem.' Not at all.
Your child is very very very, normal.

You- need to KNOW her "cues." Know her and what she likes/does not like. Each child, has their own personality and interests and thresholds for activities. It is good.

Get the book "What To Expect The Toddler Years."

Very normal. Also, since they aren't able to verbalize their feelings, these situations can be very overwhelming. My 19 month old gets very quite and clingy until he gets comfortable with his surroundings. Every now and then in a big group he'll still come back to get a hug or be picked up if he becomes uncertain and then it's back to playing. Hang in there.

Actually, an hour to an hour and a half is plenty of time for a playgroup for a 19 month old. They get easily overstimulated. It all sounds normal to me. As she gets older, she'll be able to tolerate things for longer. Kids don't even really play together until preschool age.

My daughter was, and at 12, still is like this! It is just may be her personality. Obviously, mine is older and can better deal with situations she finds stressful, but we have to work on it and try and teach her how to not melt down. I used to get really frustrated, thinking my kid wasn't "normal", because I used to think she was the only one who did things like that. One day at bedtime, she got upset about me using the word "normal" and said "Mom, what is 'normal' anyway?" She was only about 6 at the time and since then, I've learned to step back and let her be who she is, most of the time. Certain situations she just has to learn to deal with, but we have made it work!

Yes, very normal. We have a 26 mo old. And we limit his outside activities to about an hour and a half usually, maybe 2hrs. Your lucky she actually knows her limits and is telling you she's had enough. It's better than having an overstimulated cranky baby after 2 hrs. I can vouch for that:)

Also, if she was really shy and clingy for social reasons it would usually happen at the beginning of the activity. I think at the end it's probably more about the overload. Don't worry at all:)