J. deah ( frum Maine you know hehehe)
It is possible he has a fisure...a little "crack" if you will, around the anus.
This is a common occurance, usually from spell of constipation and will heal itself .But it DOES sting and hurt .
Sometimes you can find and see it, other times you cannot if it is very small. It still stings and hurts.Just put a little salve around his anus several times a day.
You say the child was using the potty just fine until the little lump fell out episode? He seems very young to me to be toilet trained, especially for a boy. Maybe he just isnt ready to be potty trained. You could just put him in pullups for few weeks or months , whatever it takes. Most boys are not trained until between three and four.
You could try greasing his anal area with vaseline.
We have a little guy here , three yo, and he is very prone to constipation. We give him yogurt with juice and fruit for breakfast every morning. IF we miss a couple days of a week, then he will be constipated a few days later.
Fruit and yogurt seem to be the best regulators for constipation for our little boy.
All these things that are being tried for the constipation on your child hold the possibility of traumatizing him.
I know you are doing what you think is best, but my word, read your response and transpose yourself into this story.
You are talking of a baby. A very very small child.
Fingers, suppositories, pumping legs, ect ect. stories about poop swimming away...oh my word !!!
He probably feels like he has done something wrong and does not know what it is nor why you all are doing these things to him amd that can be very frightening for a little guy.
Try the miralax, try vaseline on his anus ( put enough and he may not be able to hold the poop in anyway) try fruit and yogurt ( stoneyfield is whole milk, organic, live culture..gotta have the live culture thingy) Try to correct it by diet with as little physical or manual manipulation as possible.
If he hasnt pooed by the third day, then perhaps the suppository (child/infant size)because there is a break in time between the suppository and the using the potty.
Dont keep at him about it for the more you do the more of a problem it can become.
Have you chatted with doc?
Does he have his own potty ? So he can go sit on it when he wants to? In the bathroom? Sounds like you are right, he seems quite frightened of the entire situation.
There is a book, Once upon a Potty, by Alona Frankel,(the boy version of the book) that may get your baby off the merry-go-round of fear. In it the little boy, Joshua, poos on the floor. It may well help your son to see that this can happen to everyone. He simply may not be ready to be completely potty trained.
This seems to me to be a type of situation where less (trying to "fix" it) is best.
You could try backing off and letting him get himself back to his regular routine. He cannot hold it in forever.
Calm down, RELAX...tincture of time, this too, shall pass.
Best wishes and God bless
Grandmother Lowell