2 Yr Old Pee Pee Issues. Sorry If Too Graphic. I Need Help.

Updated on February 25, 2008
J.W. asks from Helena, MT
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I know part of this is normal and he's a boy but I need some serious help here. My son is 2 and whenever possbile his hands are on his pee pee or in his bootie. I dont mean on his bootie, I mean in it. Tonight I came around the corner into the living room and he had his pee pee pulled up and out the top of his diaper. He was trying to put it back in when I came into the room. Then he gets into the bath and is trying to put his toys into his bootie. I am not coping so well with this. I feel like this is some horrible joke that someone is playing on me. I try to tell him that its not right to be doing these things but I dont think he is grasping the idea. I have tried potty training thinking maybe he's trying to tell me he has to potty and he wants nothing to do with the potty. After he did this tonight I was changing his diaper and there are rips on his pee pee now. He tells me that it hurts which I bet it does. I am putting bag balm on it to ease the pain. Someone please help me. I talked to my mom about it and she says its normal. So far everyone seems to think its normal for him to be doing these things but me. I know when a boy finally finds the thing in his pants they dont let it go for fear it will fall off but come on some of this is just too much. I am a single mother trying to raise a little boy. His father has been out of his life for a year and a half now, for the better I might add. I am not going to run out and get a boyfriend for Kris to have a male role model, his grandfather does that well enough for me. So I guess my questions are How do I cope with this? or How do I get him to stop? The only thing that keeps his hands out of his pants are onesies and quite frankly they dont make them big enough anymore. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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So What Happened?

Thank you everyone for you advise. So far the only thing that has worked is the onesies still. Other than now he takes showers and he doesnt play with any toys in the shower so I dont have to worry about him sticking things places they dont belong. I guess you could say its still a work in progress =0)

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S.L.

answers from Boise on

We had similar issues, although not quite so extreme. My son always had to have things talked through with him. So we talked about how yucky and stinky poop is, and not to touch his bum because that's where poop comes from. And then he'd get poop smell and germs on his hands. Of course, he didn't fully understand. We also had a problem with him drinking bath water, but telling him that he was drinking water that his bum was sitting in, "Eeew, Gross!" really worked. As far as his wee-wee, tell him that when he plays with it, it hurts it (which he'll probably understand because he knows it hurts, but maybe doesn't understand what he's done to make it hurt). My issue with DS was that in the bath, he'd try to shove his into the opening of the soda bottles we put in there for bath toys. We told him it would get stuck and would hurt really bad, and he eventually stopped.
Maybe if you keep washing his hands every time you catch him with his hands down his pants, and say you have to wash all the yucky bum smell off, he'll start to understand that it's gross.

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K.D.

answers from Denver on

We do overalls with long shirts that are hard to untuck. Sometimes the sleeves have to be rolled to meet the goal, but it mostly works. GL I so don't get this not having had brothers, but both my boys seem a bit overly fasinated with themselves. You're not alone, and it does get better if your consistent and remind gently every time.

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A.R.

answers from Denver on

First take a deep breath. This really is normal. As a woman I understand it is hard to relate to it. The first thing is, don't shame him for it. This is the age where he will do things the more you want him to stop. Every time he is playing with his pee pee in public explain to him that we only do that in private. Tell him that over and over, every time he does it, then turn his attention to something else. If he is busy he won't have the time. He doesn't need punishment. Just guidance. Quite frankly, the fact that it is hurting him will probably slow him down. As for the bootie problem, you should definitely take away the toys every time he does this and tell him that toys do not go in your bootie. If every time he does this he loses the toy, he will soon see no benefit. It will take a little time for him to change this behavior since he is so young. At 2 they have almost no ability to control their impulses because their brains can't do it yet. Be patient and stop worrying so much. I am sure he senses this and it will only make it last longer. Make it no big deal and take the anxiety out and I'll bet you'll see a change. Keep reminding yourself how normal this is for a little boy. Good Luck!

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J.O.

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It is actually somewhat normal, the best advice I have is when you catch him make sure you are stern when you tell him no that it isn't Ok, no other expression, and then redirect his attention, and do it every single time. Try not to overreact, it can be hard but it really is exploration for him, my oldest would do this also and that is how he was broke of it, he was the only one of mine to do it, so not every kid does. If all else fails duct tape his diaper onto him and stay right by his side when he is in the bath. I hope it works out, these things can be frustrating. Good luck!

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S.W.

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It IS normal. You've got to lay off your little boy. My oldest daughter liked a normal form of masturbation when she was itty-bitty. By researching this and from experience having worked at a preschool in my younger days, I knew to let her know that is a private thing to do (kids at the preschool used to do this similar thing at naptime...I would tell them the same thing...that is not for sharing in the classroom, it's something to do privately). I never said it was bad or wrong...that's not the path to go on. The way you cope with this is accept it and rely on what people are telling you...that it is normal whether you like it or not and that more damage can come from a lack of acceptance. You don't get him to stop...you leave him alone. Think about the message you are sending him unintentionally...that what he's doing is wrong, bad, gross, something to be embarrassed about, that this normal thing is actually abnormal and therefore HE is wrong, bad, gross, should be ashamed and is not like anyone else.

You can't change a child from being a normal 2 year old, but you can change yourself and your reaction...that's the best lesson I've learned as a parent.

Hope this helps (by the way, little girls do the same thing...they check themselves out...it's their body and they are curious),
S. W. - 35, married 11 years, at-home-mom to Avery - 10, Anna - 7 and Lily - 2

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