I have an 11 week old baby girl and a 2 and a half year old. We're trying to potty train my daughter Mia (slowly) and we're having a difficult time at night. We put her on the potty every night before bed and she says she doesn't have to go 'poo poo'. Five to 10 minutes after she's tucked nicely into bed she yells 'mommy, I have to poo poo'! I have to get her out of bed almost every night and take her back to the potty. Usually she's already gone a little in her pull up and then goes the rest on the toilet. I'm not sure if she's waiting until she goes to bed to prolong actually going to bed (more attention from mommy and daddy). I don't want to tell her I won't take her to the potty because she's actually going more once I put her on it, but I feel like it's a game. I really need advise on what to do. It seems like her body is used to going every night. She's done this since she was a little younger than two but it's more frustrating now that we actually have to put her on the potty instead of just changing her while she's still half asleep. Any advise?? : )
Put her in underware. Let her feel what its like to soil her underware.
Pull ups feel the same as a diaper to kids so they don't care if they wet/poop them. If she feels uncomfortable enough in poopy undies - eventually she will stop soiling them. If a child is ready to be potty trained - don't use any type of diaper day or night - it just prolongs the process.
I agree with the first poster. Go twice if you have too. Do the usual routine and then right before you tuck her in, say lets go potty. And have her sit for awhile. It may feel like forever to you..maybe brush your teeth ect while you are waiting for her to do "her business."
I have a 2 and a half year old as well and still struggling with potty training her. My infant son is having constipation problems and I had read to sit on the toilet for 10 minutes after breakfast everyday. This is the time you are "supposed" to eliminate. My daughter was not on a schedule to go at this time but I thought I would try it. It doesn't happen everytime but we have had it work a few times. We have only been trying for a week. But if you feel like me, I will try anything! My first daughter who is 5 now never had issues like this. Perhaps having the baby around slows it. Since your daughter is already going every evening I might just throw sitting on the potty for 10-15 minutes into the schedule. To keep her occupied I sometimes get a paper that has numbers on it and we learn numbers or just sing songs. Good luck and let me know if it works or if you find something else! God Bless
T.
If she is in a toddler bed that she can get in and out of buy a cheap bathroom rug and put the potty on it in her room. That way she can go when she needs to and then get back in bed, put some of those kid wipes (Kaddoo I think) next to the potty. I guess it will depend on how much she can do for herself, and being that she is only 2 1/2 this might not work. My daughter does alot more at 2 then my sons did at the same age. Just a suggestion but it might work/help. Good luck!
Dear D.,
It sounds like your daughter's body is on a fairly regular poopie routine.
It could be that once she is in bed, she relaxes enough to be able to go. Or, you just need to set back the time you put her down. The situation so far has become her routine, but you can change it. And I know it's frustrating, but getting her back up to go on the potty is far better than just changing a diaper. (You don't want to still be doing that when she's 4, lol).
Maybe instead of getting her tucked into bed, sit with her and read for the 5-10 minutes then put her back on the potty. With a little adjusting, I'm sure you can get her in the routine of going potty BEFORE she gets in bed.
Best of luck!
Maybe that's when she's finally relaxed enough? I'm not sure what your bedtime routine is, but you might try this. Have a bedtime story (or two) while she is snuggled in bed, with you right there beside her. Then have her get up for the potty before lights out (instead of earlier in the bedtime routine). It might give her time to relax in bed during the story to help her be successful with pooping after the book but before a final tuck in. Hope you find something that helps.
Our daughter who is now 4 has always had a hard time settling down for naps and sleep and would often poop right before going to sleep. Since it sounds like your daughter has a pretty regular poop schedule, I would give her a little more settle down time for her body to relax. It doesn't really sound like she's trying to manipulate you unless she saying she has to go just to get out of bed and then not going...
I have a friend whose daughter quietly poops in the morning and then smears it all over the place (quietly)... so be glad that she's calling out and going on the potty! At 2 and a half I think a lot of kids have trouble feeling when they have to go. She'll probably outgrow this in a short while and be able to go poop before she's tucked in for the night...
Good luck!
Boy this is a tricky one. Having a 2 1/2 yr old daughter I understand the concern for maniputlation here but with the twist of it being potty related you don't want to mess with the territory of power a struggle there. My daughter dose this too with going pee. I'll ask her before bed and about 5 min after tucking her in she calls me back. It dosn't always happen but I just go with it because I am happy she is potty trained. There are other requests I'll not buy into. I say just go with it . Bodily functions are something we can't have much control over and don't want issue's with. It might be part manipulation but there are worse things. I am going to read your responses to see if there are helpful idea's myself. Take care, R.
My son use to do the exact same thing. But he was a regular morning pooper and was just stalling going to bed. It would drive me crazy, but I didn't want to mess up the toilet training so I would just take him. The thing with my son though is that he takes forever to do his buisness on the toilet. He will sit in the bathroom for literally 20 minutes before he calls to tell me he is finished. So maybe your daughter just needs more time to sit on the toilet before she can go. Early in his potty training the doctor told us just to sit in the bathroom with him and read stories around the same time every day if he was a regular pooper. So that is what we did every morning until he got use to it.
But if you think your daughter is using it more as a stall tactic to get out of bed and have more time with you, I would say not to indulge her. By all means take her to the bath room and let her go potty. But you don't have to entertain her while she is doing it if you've already had her sitting on the potty and encouraged her or read stories. I would tell her that she can go potty, but since it is really bed time you are going to get ready for bed while she is going potty and will come back and check on her when she is done. Once we started doing that with my son when he said he needed to go potty after we had him tucked into bed he stopped asking to get out of bed. I guess he realized that every trip to the bathroom would not be a party. I hope that helps.
Have you ever thought that maybe she is not ready for the poop part yet, and with the pressure she probably will not go when you expect her to. Have you ever thought of changing her bed routine to later, maybe that 10 min of extra time for her to stay up- is all she needs. Really, I would consider really thinking about what you are doing. I would hate to be pressured to go poop on someone else's clock- i mean even as adults- if someone tells me to go poop at noon, i am going to say a piece of my mind to them. Just take your time, what is the rush, my boys' were opposite of each other with training one was trained at 3yrs old and the other at 4, so what is the big deal? kids are kids- dont' rush the natural part of life. Good luck !!!
