Hi Y.,
I have a set of twins that just turned six. When they were that age they did whine a lot. It was because they wanted my attention. It was hard because my husband and I worked. They knew they had to go to daycare and I had a very stressful job and when we got home I would be exhausted. I would cook and try to give them some time but I was so tire. I decided to resign from my job in 2006 because unfortunately my twins had a lot of health issues and the pediatrician told me that I had to take them out of daycare because their immune system was not strong enough be around other children. I first took a leave of abscence and then eventually resigned.
Once I started staying home the whining calmed down a lot and then they started whining about other things of course. I know everyone is not able to stay home. I really did not have a choice in the matter. Initially it was hard and I had to sacrifice a lot but I thank God that He blessed my husband with a job where we could afford to pay bills and live comfortably with one income.
I now have 14 month old and the twins are now fighting for my attention. I have fraternal twins and my son tells me on a regular basis that I love the 14 month old more than him. It is going always be something that you have to deal with when it comes to children. You just have to figure out what works.
It will get better.