3 Year Old Not Wanting to Potty Train

Boys are harder to train and they usually do it when they want to. (stubborn little stinkers huh) but I did little games to help. I put cheerios in the toilet and had him SINK them. Also, your stickers and treats are great but really getting after him only makes him feel badly and that he is doing something wrong and all the more won't try. Uplifting things only will help him be more excited and want to do it. I know you are frustrated but hang in there and be patient. ~ I had some potty books for kids and I would read them or read them while they were in the bathroom and that helped him want to be in there too.
Good luck!

Do you know about what time of day he poops? I know with both of my kids and at that time just set him on the potty. Don't ask him, just put him on it, even every thirty minutes until he goes. When he does make a HUGE deal out of it. For my son going to get cool underwear helped tremendously and he actually pooped in the potty before peed in it. Kids typically know when they have to poop so I would just set him on the potty constantly until he does it in the toilet to show him how easy it is, how there is no mess and give him two treats for every poopy!. Good luck, patience is definitely needed for potty training!

let your son know that preschool isn't too far away and in order to attend he has to master potty training. Buy him some cool new underwear that he gets to pick out and keep praising him for his efforts and remind him that he is such a cool big boy now !

Don't stess about this. The more you stress, the more he'll resist (and get negative attention). Keep it positive. I was anxious to get rid of the diapers too, but found it more disgusting and stressful to put him in undies and have to clean up a mess than changing pull-ups. Let him take the lead on training. If he feels he's in control, you might get better results.

My son wouldn't go in the potty for Poops either. I just kept him in Pull-ups. I also used the floor potty for him. He didn't like sitting on the big toilet with the insert - it was too scary. It was gross to clean (especially since I was in the first trimester of another preganancy), but effective. He used the floor potty for a bit for just pee, then, he started going poops in there too. I started giving him a few M&M's for treats everytime he went poop and made a HUGE deal out of it. After he started being consistant with the pooping, I put a stool next to the toilet and took the small one away and continued with the treats - he was still in pull-ups. All the time, we were reading books every night on Potty Training reinforcing it.

Another tactic I used when we were home with no where to go, I'd leave him in his pull-ups after he pooped... until he came to me and asked to be changed. It's gross and cruel, but it also helped him realize he didn't want to be dirty.

My friend's son was 3 1/2 and wearing pull-ups. She sent him to school for 3 full months before he decided he was ready. In her case, he wasn't interested in either function. He just needed to mature a bit physically and see others going on their own.

You could also try play dates with other kids who are potty trained. They love to do things the others are doing.

Good Luck and remember, even though it's frustrating, it is temporary.

T.-
As others have said, boys are harder to train and much more stubborn!! One thing that worked with my son, is I let him pick out special big boy underwear - but expained to him that this meant he HAD to go in the potty otherwise he'd ruin his cool new Spiderman Big Boy underwear.

Well, he did poop in them one time and I threw them away!!!! He was not happy about it and couldn't believe that I'd throw out Spidey! But, from that point on he went on the potty! :) It worked perfectly.
(You can always go get them out of the trash when he's not around)
But, that way he understands a bit better that they aren't like diapers or pull-ups. They don't care about having to clean it themselves as they don't have the same yucky-scale we do!

Good luck!!
C.