T.J.
Are the grandmothers coming in and going directly to the baby first? Maybe you can have grandma come in and say hi and spend about 15 minutes with the old child before holding or coming to the new baby. I have 11 month old twins and a 3 year old and he is still having a little trouble adjusting. If someone says hello to the babies and does not acknowledge him, he gets upset and says "Mommy he/she did not speak to me". It will take some time, but she will get through it. Just remind grandma that your little one's world has just been rocked and she is trying to adjust and does not have the words or coping skills and adult does. Best of luck and Congrats!