I am looking for advice,help,recommendations dealing with a 3 year old that will not listen. For the past month or so my sweet boy has turned into the devil. We can not get him to listen or do anythign we ask, we is also gettig in trouble at daycare everyday for not listening. We use time out and have tried taking things away from him, nothing really seems to work. He does not care when he gets in trouble. I am sure this is a phase and has somthing to do with have a 9 month old sister but how to get thru it in meantime? Any one read any great books on a good discipline or do somethign that really works? I will try anything at this point.
Thanks
I can't offer you advice, help, or recommendations. I'm afriad that all I can offer is sympathy. I have a 3 year old girl. She just flutters around in her own little world, happy as can be oblivious to the outside world. I'm trying prayer. I'll keep you in them. Best of luck to you.
You know honestly i have the same problem.....My son is now 5 and I think I mayhave found something that is working for him for the time being. We have taken him to see if he has adhd but so far no answer because I had to cancel the testing because of a death in the family... but anyways--- What we are doing now is having a talk with him about breaking mommys heart (he was really upset to know that when he misbehaves it breaks mommys heart). I in turn put mommys hearts (with pen) on his hands so he can see them throughout the day as a reminder to behave. This has worked for us for the past 2 weeks almost. He has been good at school minus one day. Everyday he comes to me to draw my hearts on his hands and being so happy that he can see my heart on him. The one day he misbehaved at school he was so upset because he thought it broke my heart and we just had another talk about what the hearts ment. I hope this helps you like it helped me. good luck.
I very much agree with Katy C. I have raised my two boys 25 and 26 and although their not perfect their darn close. They knew the rules and they knew if they broke them they knew the punishment and there was no doubt in their minds they would be punished. It is very difficult sometimes because it seems like at that age all you do is punish them.
I am now raising my 3 and 4 year old grandchildren. My 3 year old grandchild acts the same way your son does only worse. He hates the boundaries I've set and the rules he has to live by. But it is better they learn now life is full of boundaries and rules than 20 years from now.
I am also having the same problem with my almost 3 year old. I think that it is a phase they go thru. There can be several reasons. One, I think he sees the way my 8 yr old acts and is acting out, 2, if they are in daycare, they also pick up things from other kids, and 3 I think when I take time out with him and my daughter, like to the park or the duck pond, he behaves better. Good luck!
I have a three year old also(step son), and he is the same way!!!!! But having other kids I know this is a phase....it should last for awhile unfortunatly!!! I'm suprised my daughter made it to 5. She was terrible. The most stubborn child I knew.....but now I have another just as stubborn. You both will make it through. Just be consistent!!!!! I know it feels like your on him all the time...but it will pay off!!!!!!
You can try what I do for my children when they throw tantrums...
I place (or send) them in their room and close the door. At first I may have to hold it close to keep them in until they get the point they are not welcome out while they are throwing the tantrum. I then calmly tell them they will be allowed to come out when they can calmly discuss with me what the problem is and how to solve it.
You could tell your son he is welcome to come out when he is ready to listen and follow the rules.
I do not know if this will work, but a lot of times consistency is the key to getting anything through to a child...for instance...my 3 year olds have already learned I will not speak to them when they whine at me. The have to talk to me in normal tones if they want my attention.
I hope this helps..
Good Luck!
I recommend "Shepherding A Child's Heart" by Tedd Tripp. I hope it helps :)
