Oh S., I am so sorry you are living through such a painful time when you should be rejoicing the new baby on the way. There is no excuse or justification for your husband to treat you badly and with such disrespect. You are not only his wife but the mother of his child(ren). What I can tell you is that since you are a stay at home mom, he may be feeling some financial pressure with the new baby on the way. Money is the primary reason most couples have problems and Kids are a close second. Therefore considering our current economy, and a new baby on the way, he was most likely hit with a one-two punch. I am the primary breadwinner in my family and found it very stressful to look forward to the birth of our fisrt child without slightly considering the financial burden I would face once she arrived. Now that I am in the middle of it, it isn't so bad. I have heard many stories of couples who nearly break up during pregnancy but this is NOT the time to decide on the future of your relationship, you are hormonal and he is not able to grasp the reality because the baby is not born yet. It sucks that men can't see the forest for the trees, but such is life. Once the baby is born he will most likely change. You did not mention he was horrible with your son, so I am sure he is great and loves him very much and his heart will welcome the new baby once the baby is in his arms. Please think back to why you fell in love with your husband and try to only focus on the positive things. You need to be as relaxed as possible especially in these last few weeks of your pregnancy. 1:you don't want to resent him should any complications arise and 2:you will never get these weeks back so make the best of them. Also, should there be complications such and an ealry birth or a complicated delivery, he may not handle that well and that is when you would really need him the most. So PLEASE relax and make the best each day and rejoice in the time he is away at work! As far as being intimate, this is the one thing he can hold over you so please don't let it get to you and focus on being a wonderful mommy and not a wife. I hope things get better for you and you will be in my prayers! Take care.