4Yr Old Cry's for Almost Everything????

She sounds tired. Other than that, she sounds like it's a learned behavior that gets some kind of response she's looking for. Maybe an earlier bed time would help. Magic 123 is a great parenting program that gives some great ideas. Good luck!

Here's some links for you:
http://www.google.com/search?q=4+year+old+crying+all+the+...

And here's a link on 4 year old Social & Emotional Development:
http://www.babycenter.com/preschooler-social-emotional-de...
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/very-emotiona...

It could just be growing-pains, or separation anxiety (which still occurs at this age although manifested in different ways per age), or something is bothering her etc.

Have you tried just talking with her about it? Letting her just talk/ramble/express why? Kids, have imaginations and their feelings are not fully developed yet or comprehended by them. So they need help to cope.

One thing though, is to let them express themselves in more tangible ways age appropriately... so that they then don't "learn" that they "cannot" express their feelings. Which a pent-up child is worse, or one that cannot express themselves, or to learn that they cannot "talk" with you about it... especially once she gets older.

But girls, are sort of emotional. I have a girl.

I know, not easy though.

All the best,
Susan

She probably has genuine things that upset her but her coping mechanism is to cry. She needs to learn a new way to handle her feelings.

Don't take this the wrong way but often times dogs are compared to toddlers/ preschoolers (about the same mental capacity) in dog training they say not to make a big deal out of leaving the dog or coming home because then the dog won't think it's a big deal. Simply let her know you're leaving and will see her later and walk out the door, when you get home walk in casually, talk to the sitter, don't make a big deal. See if that helps.

As for the rest of it, figure out a better way for her to cope. Like a baby learning to walk if you rush over when they fall they will start to cry, but if you smile and brush it off, they're fine. If an ice cream falls "no big deal, stop crying, we'll get another" then stop talking about it, drop it, no fuss, no attention, no drama. Walk over to get another-she'll get it when she stops crying.

This has worked for my son, I hope it works for your daughter. Good Luck

Hi - I really believe in finding out what is wrong first. Is she crying because she needs more attention or is she crying because she ultimately gets what she needs (thus more attention in the interim). Since you and your husband both work full-time (as my family did also), she may be wanting more time with you guys. If this is the case, then try to put aside "genuine" time, if you're not already...
If you have done all this and still don't have the answers as to why she is crying, then I personally do not play into kids crying.
I agree with one of the other responses that you should not entertain the crying, stop talking to her about it while she is crying and walk away. At some point, she will realize that you are not responding and crying is definitely not getting your attention, rather her words do etc.

i have tons of family support and I can't imagine not having any - all teh best to you! Good luck

4 is the hardest age.

I call it the friggin 4's. lots of independence/but not really wanting it. They can do everything on their own, but they wont. drove me nuts. good luck. My only suggestion is limits. tell her you can't understand her when she is crying, and when she is tready to use her words you'll listen. It might work.

Hi A.,
My niece is 6 and still cries every day. We actually make a joke about it now - "are you going to cry today?" and she always says "Yes". I can tell you that it's not as bad as when she was younger but it can be for anything at any time. We never know. I can't offer you any help but I can tell you we go through the same thing and it's a little better. Sometimes that's just their personality and they have to learn to control it more as they get older.

Good luck!

your 4 year old knows just how push your buttons smile and tell her she is a big now and she know you love her and is with her as much as you can then hug here and leave maybe you may want to send her ato a pre school good luck A. raised 4 and now have 8 grandchildren no hills

Tough love mommy. Cry babies don't get what they want. She is doing it to get attention. Stop caring when you know it is just drama. When she is done throughing the tantrum ask her if she feels better and let her know that now she is back to being the little girl you love that you would love to play cuddle or read and spend time with her. But that crying only makes both of you upset and mad (Doesn't really help unless your just having a moment and girls do have those but not for the reasons you mentioned.)

She is older and is trying to feel out her boundaries as a 4 yr old. Let her know that those haven't changed, by you being strong and not giving in. And give her other big girl responsibilities, Like picking out her clothes or how she want's to wear her hair. Still with limits. She will try these limits every few years so just be prepared for when it happens again. And realize that somethings have to give and change that is how we learn and grow. But don't feel bad when she throughs a tantrum just egnore it and talk to her when she is done. Let her know that big girls don't act like that and point out some other kids that don't do that. Let her know that you can do more fun stuff if we don't have to waste time on a tantrum. Don't take it personal she doesn't mean to hurt you. She just want's to see what she can get out of it. If she gets nothing she'll stop it. Good luck Remember this happens every couple years or so. J.