HELP! My soon to be 5 year old daughter tells me everything, I mean everything! Mom, I scratched myself, mom I farted, mom my tooth hurts, mom my....mom I .... This goes on all day, even at night when she is in her bed yelling to me. While I am at work, my sister watches her and she gives her the play by play all day! I'm going crazy! I want her to tell me things, but I don't need to know every time she farts! She even does this in public but at least she whispers it! HELP!!!
Thanks for your responses. I guess I needed reassurance this was normal and a phase. She is my oldest! I just don't want to silence her or have her feel she can't tell me things. I want an open line of communication for the years to come. I'm a middle school teacher and I see everyday how important this is! I will continue with my "ok and alright" and "you don't need to tell me every time you have an itch!! Thanks again!!!
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Just yesterday my DH announced that he knows what my 5 year old will be when he grows up - a play by play announcer!
It's a stage.
Totally normal! Many kids go though a phase of seemingly nonstop chatter. And it is annoying. And it is completely normal for you to feel like you are going to lose your mind!
While the behavior itself is normal and age appropriate, it is also important for you to teach her that it's not ok to be a constant chatter box. I use to tell my son that Mommy needed some quiet time. He could play quietly but not talk to me for a few minutes. I think in the beginning it was just 5 minutes. Later I might have said 10 minutes, but usually he found something else to do. He's still a chatter box, but he understands that people need to have periods of no talking.
It's ok to force some quiet time. It really is. You need to be able to have time away from the chatter, and that's ok!
Just be straight with her. "Honey, you can say "excuse me" when you fart or burp, but I really don't need to know every time." And when she is in bed you can say, "It's time to sleep. You need to be quiet and stop yelling."
an occasional weary 'honey, i really don't need to hear EVERYTHING' won't hurt.
but for the most part enjoy it.
the day they stop feeling you're important enough to share everything in their lives is a tough, tough day.
ETA i absolutely would not tolerate being yelled at from bed. you gotta draw the line somewhere.
khairete
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My son was Mr. Questions, now don't get me wrong I know that children are curious and learn by asking questions but he would ask questions and sometimes not even wait for the answer before asking another one. I would tell him "no more questions for 5 min." I would set a timer, some of the time I got lucky and he would find something to do during the wait and I'd get a longer break :).
I would tell her "it's time for your mouth to be quiet". I would also be very firm with her about what is appropriate to share and what is not.
M
We must have made a mistake when naming our son, we should have just called him "mouth" instead, because his is nearly constantly running. He is 4. If he isn't narrating some fake emergency for his cars and helicopters to respond to, he is recounting his day, doing scenes and songs from daniel tiger, telling us about princess elsa, some debate about what color rain should be colored in (white or blue), making up songs, or making rude noises to by funny.
We both work. We only have an hour with him in the morning, and about 2 hours with him at night. Even so, we sometimes get overwhelmed with his prattle.
TIPS- 1. you have every right to ask her to be quiet for a few minutes. 2. you can ask him to use some filters and be selective about what she chooses to tell you. 3. you can ask her to turn down the volume. 4. not every vocalization needs your full attention or a response, sometimes a non committal "uh-huh" will do the trick. 5. have fun with it. this won't last long.
Best,
F. B.
PS- mine was late to talk and barely had a few words at 2 years old. he's more than making up for it now.
Does she just like to talk? My oldest granddaughter talks non stop. I mean NON STOP. Usually she doesn't care if you are actually listening or not. She just has a lot on her mind and figures she'll share with you.
I'd say to figure out what your daughter's goal is and then figure out a way to make it work. With my granddaughter I just tell her that we're going to have a little quiet time for 15 minutes.
It's a phase. She will grow out of it.
My daughter does the same thing. She has even told on herself on several occasions and has gotten in trouble just because she can't stop talking. A friend of mine told me to tell her that her voice needs a rest or she will get bumps on her vocal cords and will have to have surgery and won't be able to talk for 6 weeks. I tried it and my daughter told me that didn't make any sense what so ever so needless to say that didn't work. Good luck and if you find a cure for chatter please share.
this is because she has had years of people saying use your words tell me how you feel lol. it will pass.
I remember this age. I thought my head would explode! It's just a phase.
It's a stage!
It'll pass sooner or later.
