i have no prioblem with boyfriends or girlfriends. having X's they talk to once in a while
but lately..Hes now talking to his "last x gf" who when we 1st started dating(over a yr ago) said he never wanted to be her friend or hang out with her. alass He is. He goes to his brothers or should i say his brothers girlfiends place(they moved to a trailor near his x gf's this past may) Now his brothers gf doesnt like me, cuz his X is her boss.(its just a bit crazy) anywhos ,when we get into something, he goes ova there. & his X is there..... to me is this seem odd ? or what? He says he has no desire to be with the x.(btw i'm not "allowed over to their place" as the gf is there. We used to be cool, as we lived in the same home for a yr, now i'm not good enough to be her "friend". When she didnt have but 2 pair of clothing to her name, I got her for Xmas clothing. Got her 2 coats even ppl ididnt know helpped me money wize as i'm not working. but the fact When she moved she had clothing enough for 2 weeks. bought her a 2nd bra because she only had 1. youd'; think after a divorce youd have more then when you did. Shes a big girl(i have nothing wrong wwith that my half sis is 1 also). so boyfriends brothers gf is BUDDY BUDDY';s with my boyfriends X. They didnt become friends till, untill a few months before me and my now bf started dating. well. he txt her and face books her multi times a day. iread hsi text just to know whats up. but I think they "talk to much" he knows more about what happens inher every day, then our every day. p.s WE LIVE TOGETHER. bought a house in may thisyr.
wow thanks megan
but to the people who feel the need to be rude about the spelling. guess you don't comprehend people with readinf disorders or other disorders.
its easy foryour to be rude and disrespectful. if thats how you wish to be, do nto COMMENT.
btw. he works 12-16hrs a day. whenhe does go its the weekend..
told him. he is with me not with her. he says" idont wanther back, that i love you, ilove our house. I love being with you. =- doent always feel like it. (im also findout info about other x's, hes face booked them too)- thank god they are allmarried and live far away.lol
I think maybe if you used actual words instead of a bunch of letters and slang, we may be able to better help you with whatever it is that you're asking.
Okay, let me see if I get this...
You and your boyfriend bought a house together. Now every time you fight he leaves and goes over to his brother's house, which is right next door to his ex girlfriend, who he talks to several times a day on facebook and phone texts. You are not allowed over to the house of your boyfriend's brother because the brother's girlfriend doesn't like you, even though the 4 of you lived together for a year, and you helped buy her clothes....
Okay. If that is right, I would say that you are not overreacting. Whatever the problem is between you and your boyfriend, however you are reacting is driving him right back to the ex girlfriend, who he now has easy access to because his brother lives right there. So you need to start with you and change how you react to things. This will then change how the boyfriend reacts to you.
Ex. If you always argue over whose turn it is to do the dishes, start washing them as soon as they are dirty. If you know that you have washed all of the dishes that you got dirty, then he can't say that you made the mess. Or better yet, do the dishes together. Nothing brings people together like soap and water...
If you always argue over where to go out to dinner, write the choices down and put them in a cup. draw a paper.
If you always argue over what's in the fridge, go shopping at the grocery store together. Maybe he likes some things that you haven't been buying and vice versa.
Be confident. He chose to start dating you for a reason. Where has that person gone?
Good luck
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While I can't read most of what you wrote, it looks like you have an issue with your boyfriend talking and hanging out with his ex. It sounds like a pretty immature relationship. He shouldn't be hanging out with her. End of story.
Sounds to me like a whole bunch of people have no boundaries. If I understood this at all. If you aren't both on the house papers I would get out of this situation. It is heading nowhere.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend and explain your point of view. I don't see anything wrong with explaining to your guy that you are uncomfortable with the amount of time he spends with his ex. I think from what you have described he is probably spending too much time with her and I could see how that could lead to an emotional affair. Talk to him and good luck.
Are you kidding me? You're NOT allowed over there? O.K. ask yourself...does your BF have any respect for you that he will not let you go over there AND he communicates with his ex daily? And all this AFTER you bought her clothes! What do you mean "you're not good enough to be her friend"? This is ridiculous! He is being extremely immature!! Kick him to the curb! He doesn’t deserve you!
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Where there is smoke there is fire. If this is his character he won’t change and you won’t change him. If it’s not good now it won’t get better. If there are no children involved, leave and don't have ANY contact with him, his brother or his brother's girlfriend.
Start over again. You sound like you don't have much confidence in yourself or you wouldn't allow anyone to treat you like that and then question if you are over reacting. Be strong, you are a women and you have a deep inner strength, tap into it. Don’t yell, scream or get even. That IS NOT strength and is poor character. Pack up or move him on. Don’t engage in negative. It will attract more negative. You made a poor choice. (We all make them from time to time) Correct it by moving on. Good luck. And don’t whine about the situation if you don’t take steps to extricate yourself from it, soon.
Wow! I can't believe how nasty some of you are being to a girl who came here for your help! Have none of you ever misspelled a word? Especially when a your emotional about a subject and prone to typing fast? Those of you who commented on her spelling or use of words need to take a long look at your character that you would attack someone with no provocation.
And as most of the others have said, this has red flags all over it. You need to confront him and tell him how this makes you feel. If he doesn't respect that and stop going over there then you need to move on.
Let me see if I got this correctly: your boyfriend is hanging out with his ex-girlfriend when the two of you are fighting and you are not allowed to be in her presence? And you say that they "talk" several times a day?
If this is all true, then your boyfriend is clearly having his cake and eating it too. There is absolutely no reason why he should he in contact with her. The ONLY reason would be if they have children together and that is not the case here. You sound like a nice person who is getting taken advantage of. Either he leaves his ex-girlfriend in the past, or you should take the high road and find a real man that isn't stuck on his ex.
