Another Funeral Question ...

I think this is one that you and the little one should bow out of unless you personally would get something out of going. If you were not close with him I think it would be acceptable for you and the little one to stay home - this is a receipe for a cranky little one and you do not want to be the one who brought the "bad child" to the funeral. I know the circumstances but that does not mean anyone else would or would care. So, based on that theory of crankiness I would sit this one out.

I think that would be appropriate for your husband and his mother to go. If everyone is happy with it and nobody would be offended that it what I would do!! Sorry to hear about your loss. I hope to live 90 years as well.

I would not attempt that with a child in tow!
I would rather my husband accompany his mom.
Sorry for your loss.
(And, yes, that would be your husband's great uncle!)

No, I would not go. If you husband wishes to go for his mother's sake, let him. But neither of you are really under any obligation.

It's totally ok for just your husband to go with his mother.

I would go with your husband but find someone to watch your kid.

Send your husband with his mother. I am sure people will understand.

If it was me I would go with my husband. I may not want to do it but I would. It's family and would be nice for him if you went with him.

I would, because I have done the exact same thing for my husband's great uncle and several of mine, but no one would think badly of you if you didn't go.

In my experience, the older relatives were truly touched that we made the trip and brought our children. It's something that surviving spouses, siblings or children have mentioned over the years since - things like..."it was so nice to see you at my dad's funeral and having the baby/kids there brought me a smile when I needed it most" and such. If it's not a logistical nightmare, I would urge you to consider going. And I totally understand about weekends being precious and would consider that. There are weeks when if I lose a Saturday or Sunday to a family function, it throws the rest of the week off and means that I'm grocery shopping at some ridiculous hour on a weeknight or getting take-out all week. If there is a way to move your "must do" Sunday items around, then that might also help you decide - if there's no other time to get those in though, you could definitely not make the trip. I think it's one of those things that no one expects you to do but people appreciate and remember. And, I rarely see extended family outside of funerals and weddings so it's a way to connect with far-flung relatives who we don't see often enough.

I would not go or feel guilty about it.

The man is dead...he's not gonna care. And your husband is ok with it...and he's the only one (well, your higher power) that has a say.

I also do not bring wee ones to funerals unless I have to (immediate family only).

Sending good thoughts your way. My condolences to your family.

Hello, I would let him go with his mom and keep your child home. Your daughter won't understand and she obviously didn't know this person. Also, this frees your husband up to help his mother through this hard time.
K. K.

Well...all I can tell you is that I have to go to a viewing (wake) tonight.
For my mom's brother's wife. My aunt.
I am going by myself and tomorrow I will be missing the funeral.
I have no one to watch my kids.
I think it is perfectly fine if just DH goes.
I don't think you should feel guilty at all.

It would be fine for you to skip this funeral because of the child.

If it were me, I would go with my husband, and leave my daughter with a friend for an extended playdate. She's 6 yrs old, right? So not a toddler. I realize you are busy, but this is one of those things that is "worth" MAKING the time to go.
If you had a toddler, then I would say let hubby go with his mom. But your child is older, so letting her stay with a friend (or go home from school with a friend that day?) while you and your husband go would be a better approach. Surely she has a friend whose mom would be willing?

I would think that if hubby wants to go you should do it. It will be like a family reunion truthfully.

My dad was next to the youngest of 14 children and the oldest was born in 1898. So before I was in Jr. High I was already attending funerals. I spent most of the time playing with cousins kids since I was so much younger than my 1st cousins, the oldest one was born in 1922, older than my mom. So it was always a lot of fun to me to go to the family funerals.

You will see lots of relatives that you won't normally see. They will be older and it may actually be the last time you see them alive, so I say go. Plan on making a long day of it, maybe even spend the night to enjoy it even more. You don't have to spend the whole time at the funeral home or the home of the deceased. It is a lot of tension to be sure.

I would go and take the time to see the living family.