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Hi J.,
My daughter (23 years old) just got married in November.. I got a lot of great info from the ladies on this website so if you look into wedding/event planning on this site and click on that, you will get a lot of great information and recommendations!
Just wanted to share that.
You know, you are going to have a busy time planning your wedding. My advice is similar to the other gals. Ask the people you are most comfortable with in helping you plan your wedding. All of the planning of details and purchasing things and so forth can be stressful enough let alone having to deal with someone you may have conflicts with.
I'm not sure what sort of support you are looking for. I suppose you could point blank ask specifically for help with something but based on her initial response to you that she will get back to you on it.. I have a feeling for whatever reason, she isn't interested in being involved at this point. I wouldn't jump the gun though and assume she really dislikes you, perhaps she has own reasons and as things get closer will get more excited about it. I would remain cheerful, VERY organized and positive. I think she will respect that more so then if you start right off the bat being resentful, whiny and demanding.. (not saying you are.. you know what I mean..)
If you are looking for financial support from your mom n law, I would have your fiance approach her on that. Anyway, I wish you the very best of luck and again, there is TONS of planning advice in the archives of this site as I asked a million wedding planning questions for my daughter!
Take care and I wish you an enjoyable time planning your wedding. Try and be as positive as you can and that will rub off on everyone!! Rise above your mother n law's attitudes and you will gain more by doing so. You could even write her a short note in your Christmas card to her and say I would welcome any help you would care to offer us during the planning of our wedding. I'm so excited about it.. and so forth.. be positive.. !!!