Help What Do I Do

You may have to ask someone to help you out. When I got married my mom helped me out with everything. She loves planning parties and is awesome at events...so I am lucky in that aspect...but if it weren't for her...no one would help unless I asked.

If your parents (or the parents of the groom) haven't already offered to help pay for the wedding, then they unfortunately probably are not in a position to do so. Perhaps you could ask different family members to cover the costs of specific items. For example my mother paid for my dress, veil, and shoes and my father in law and mother in law covered the cost of the rehearsal dinner. And my sister paid for the hotel for our wedding night. You probably won't be able to get the majority of the wedding paid for that way, but every little bit will help.

There are really no rules. As far as financing it: In theory it would be nice for your parents to pay for your wedding like they used to do, but some families can't afford to. Basically if you (or your fiance) don't have parents that are willing and able to pay for it, it is going to fall on the two of you. If neither one of you can afford it, you will have to decide if a "wedding" is really important to you. If it is then you will have to save up and have a wedding when you can afford it. If it is not, that is how lots of people get married at a justice of the peace. Ultimately, the responsibility is on you.

As far as planning goes: You can ask anyone you think would be a good source of help. Your mom, best friend, whoever you think would be able to put in some time and wants to help. You should defintely give your fiance some say in things, but usually the guys don't care nearly as much as us girlls do about the details. Moms are usually the ones wanting to be the most involved. I started planning mine with a few bridal magazines- they have timelines you should follow and checklists, they are lots of help.