Any Experience with Putting Two Toddlers in One Queen Bed?

The only drawback is that they get "used to" being together in the same bed. What happens when they start to spend the night, get sick or just can't be together? I know that when my husband is out of town, I have a very hard time sleeping. Just a thought.

When we visit my parents my older 2 share a full size bed. It can be hard because they talk and play and are harder to get to sleep. My personal choice would definitely be separate beds. They will still talk if they're in the same room, but it decreases the amount of chatter and they don't play as much.

Hi Laura, I wouldn't put to kids in the same bed for many reasons, I would get a bunk bed set, that can be bunk beds or down for twin beds, that's what we used whrn our sons were little. J.

When I was younger, I babysat for a family with an older boy who had his own room, and two younger girls. The girls shared a queen bed and did fine. Your girls are young, and they will get used to sharing a bed even if it is a little hard at first. I like the idea!

It depends on how they sleep, like you said about kicking. If one turns around all night, she might wake the other? My kids are 3 and 5 and have slept together for naps or even at night when they just fell asleep in the same place and it wasn't an issue. In fact, I have many pictures of them sleeping very closey, even some where my son is draped across my daughter (he moves a lot) but never seems to wake her! Both of my kids have twin beds in their rooms and I regret doing that! I wish they had full or queen.

I say give it a try!
M.

I say give it a shot! My boys are 3 and 4 and they like to sleep together! I think its funny that the tosser and turner never wakes his brother! I can check on those two several times and my 3 year old is in the same spot and the 4 year old is NEVER in the same spot and some part of him is ALL over his little brother LOL. I do encourage that they have a place to sleep seperate also so they do not become dependant on each other to sleep! Your kids are about the same age as mine (girl is 9 and the boys are 3&4) I have one question for you...is it hard on your oldest to be so much older then the little ones? My daughter is always upset since she feels like she never has anyone to play with when we are out of town. She sleeps alone at hotels and in the camping trailer and the boys have eachother, is your house the same?

Try it out, and do a process of elimination... if it works, then no need to get twin beds. If it doesn't, then you do need to get separate beds for them.

Yes, they may play, fight, kick each other, keep each other awake etc. It depends on the personality of the children. MAIN thing is you want a conducive PEACEFUL sleep situation so that they DO fall asleep well and don't interfere with each other.

With my kids, my girl likes to sleep next to her little brother sometimes...BUT, it does not work out because one will want to play and the other one is tired and wants to sleep... then one gets very fussy and tantrums and it turns into a battle. So, for us, they have to be separate. And, their sleep patterns and wake times are different too.

Also, as they get older, they may want their own beds, or not. So it will take a period of time for them to adjust to sleeping together... if it is amicable for them.

If it doesn't work out with them sleeping together... I would not force it. Some kids, or even adults, just have certain ways they can or cannot fall asleep. Just talk with them, tell them to try it out... but encourage them to be able to express themselves about it too. Then, if it doesn't work out... they will know that they will have the option to have their own twin or bunk beds.

Hopefully the will sleep well, then hooray! And at least for a few years, you will not need to get other beds for them until later.

Good luck!
~Susan

We co-slept with our son, who is now 5. Our daughter, who is now 3, was always in her crib, but I nursed her until she was 2 1/2. They are both used to being close to someone while sleeping or going to sleep.

They are now on a queen size mat in our room on the floor. The kids think it is their special camp area, and don't fight us to go to bed now!

We went through weeks of kids up in the middle of the night, crying, and getting into our bed. Now we all sleep peacefully through the whole night! They are only young once, and sleep like rocks when they know they are safe in our room. It is a security feeling for them.

We can still watch a movie in our bed and the sound doesn't wake them. Every famliy is different, and you have to do what works for you. My dad thinks we are crazy, but our friends couldn't agree more!

Mine are 6, 3 and 1... we all take our nap on my queen bed (turned the wrong way) and the kids love it. they have their own beds but if I had even thought about it they would be doing what your considering. I never thought about it. but seriously in the old days all the kids slept together. I think it's a great idea. oh, mine never wake eachother up!

We have two girls, ages 6 and 3. They have been in the same bed for almost a year now. Our main reason for this was our 3 year old stopped sleeping in her bed and we often found her in our bed. We started letting the 3 year old fall asleep and then would put her in with her sister after she was already in bed. At first, the 6 year old objected, now that they go to bed at the same time, we hear less complaining and they both seem to enjoy it. It has made our nighttime routine better and everyone gets sleep. I'm sure there will come a day that they will want to sleep separate but, for now everyone is happy.

I have two boys ages 4 & 5 and they have bunk beds. We always find them sleeping together in one bed or the other. Guess if we had it to do over we could have gotten one bed and called it a day!! I think it will be fine. Have you tried asking them? I know they are a little young but see what they say...

With only one infant so far I haven't reached this delima yet, however I do have an opinion. My bestfriend has 2 children who...have separate rooms and have had for their entire lives as they are opposite sexes. She ALWAYS would find her daughter (the older one) in her son's room in the mornings. They have always preferred to sleep near each other. The parents' room was on the other side of the house. So, I think it was easier to reach each other in the night if they were scared and then run through the house together if they needed comfort from Mommy and Daddy. They are teen agers now and still end up in the same room by morning sometimes--usually stormy weather. One of my other friends has 3 children (boy, girl, and boy) who she says all have separate rooms, but end up in the same room by morning most of the time.--Usually in the same bed. They are 5, 4, and 3 years old now. So, starting them off together with a queen size bed sounds great. My sister and I started in a full-size bed. She was always a kicker and would litterally kick me out of bed--I slept on the outside because I got more bruises if I slept between her and the wall. So, keep that in mind, too. If they don't sleep well together, you can always get separate beds for them later.

Hello,
I tell this to all my family and friends. Put them in the same bed! I have both my sons in the same bed (4 & 6). It builds a great bond between them and security. It all started when my little one (was 1.5 at that time)was wanting to sleep with his older brother (3.5 yr old). I put them in the same bed and they are now in a king size bed. As they get older I am sure they will want their own bed. I am sure they will let me know. They sleep through the night - never any problems.
Try it.

I think this is a brilliant idea Laura! You know in the "old days" there were rarely more than two beds in the house - one for mom and dad, and one for the kids...so there you go, you're getting back to basics! The whole "everyone in their own bed" thing just happened because our affluent society allows for multiple rooms, and many beds - I GUARANTEE you that if you were to go to a place like Africa, or more rural areas of Asia, etc., you'd find whole families sleeping in close quarters, and for sure the kids.

I applaud you for finding a good option to try! Please let us know how it goes - I'd like to try this with my kids too - but my oldest is 2 1/2 and my youngest is just 8 months - so I'm a little farther out on this.

Laura,

I agree with all the ladies who believe your babies will sleep better being near one another.

Also, I'm sure you'd already thought of it, but just make sure to buy side rails for the bed as your little ones are kind of young and adult beds tend to be higher than twin beds. I have one for my baby who co-sleeps with us part of the night. It really allows me to relax and not worry about her falling out of the bed.

My experience is that it is perfectly fine. My 2 little boys have slept together in the same bed from ages 1 1/2 & 3 to ages 4 & 6 without any problems. They now both have twin beds and still share a rooom which they enjoy. When they wake up they both come into my bed for a morning cuddle before getting up. It's very sweet and it makes for a happy start to the day.

I grew up with 2 sisters (2 years younger, and 6 years older). We slept together in a full sized bed and never had a problem. I'm sure your two will adapt just fine.

Dear Laura,

Try it for a while. They may become very companionable and friends for life, or not. You know we live in such an affluent society that we sometimes forget that togetherness is our best thing. It might take a bit of supervising until they get the drill, but what the heck are we going to do with our time anyway besides raise our children and pay attention to their needs and teach them a few rules.

By the way, millions of families all over the world have no other choice, but to sleep in the same bed. It is a human thing. Ever notice a bunch of puppies or kittens sleeping together, aaaaa the comfort.

C. N.

We have two boys ages 5 and 3. They have been sharing a bed for year. Our youngest slept in a crib until age 2. He transitioned straight into a full bed with his brother. Both boys used to wake up in the middle of the night and want in our bed. This has totally eliminated that issue and sharing a bed has been a lifesaver for us. They used to talk a little when they first went down at night. We let them talk for a bit and then we'd have to go in and tell them to stop. They do not wake each other up at night and they feel so much safer together even though they could have their own rooms.

Good luck. It has really fostered a great relationship for the boys. I love that they share!

I think you should try it out first, and if it doesn't work out, then of course you can purchase twin beds.

I have two daughters and they have separate rooms. When they sleep in separate rooms, their sleep is inconsistent and wild. When they sleep in the same bed, I notice that they sleep soundly throughout the whole night and are not as wild since they are totally aware of the other person in the same bed.

I have observed them sleeping and sometimes my younger one will land her arm on my older one's face, but big sis simply moves her little sister's hand -- all while remaining asleep. It's a beautiful thing. In the morning when I get up to get dressed for work and see the two of them sleeping right there...I'm telling you, it makes me so thankful to God to seem them together like that.